Why is it some guys find it hard or impossible to be friends with other guys?

[CupOfCoffee]

I'm curious what causes this. I always had some trouble making friends although usually I had 1 or 2 people I talked regularly with and got close to. But when it comes to guys, once I got to college it is literally impossible for me to form any connection at all with other guys my age. It's way easier for me to talk to girls, I only get close to them if it's a sexual/romantic way but I can still manage to be around their friends to some extent. But if I ever have a convo with a guy at some party it will just cut off right there and we'll never speak again. It seems to me like its my brain not wanting to associate with them becuz there's nothing I can gain from them anyway. Maybe it's subconsciously avoiding your competition? Enlighten me if u have this issue

 

[Deleted member 10367]

Never had that problem tbh, i´ve always got along with guys (no homo).

Not so much with girls ngl.

 

[Deleted member 11127]

I'm curious what causes this. I always had some trouble making friends although usually I had 1 or 2 people I talked regularly with and got close to. But when it comes to guys, once I got to college it is literally impossible for me to form any connection at all with other guys my age. It's way easier for me to talk to girls, I only get close to them if it's a sexual/romantic way but I can still manage to be around their friends to some extent. But if I ever have a convo with a guy at some party it will just cut off right there and we'll never speak again. It seems to me like its my brain not wanting to associate with them becuz there's nothing I can gain from them anyway. Maybe it's subconsciously avoiding your competition? Enlighten me if u have this issue

You are cuck. I know guys like these. They don't have male friends (they hate men) but have female friends (are friendzoned).

 

[audreyen]

You tell me, all my life other guys have hated on me I’d like to know too

 

[CupOfCoffee]

You are cuck. I know guys like these. They don't have male friends (they hate men) but have female friends (are friendzoned).

I'm not friendzoned at all because everyone I know that me and my gf are together and I'm well known for being a horny mofo. Like we openly have sex in the next room while her roommates having a party in the living room. I just don't know how to form friendships with men, I feel like they're cringe to talk to for too long.

And btw it's happened twice that a girl I went on a date with told me "we can still be friends" and I directly told her I wasn't looking for friends.

 

[Deleted member 10367]

I'm not friendzoned at all because everyone I know that me and my gf are together and I'm well known for being a horny mofo. Like we openly have sex in the next room while her roommates having a party in the living room. I just don't know how to form friendships with men, I feel like they're cringe to talk to for too long.

And btw it's happened twice that a girl I went on a date with told me "we can still be friends" and I directly told her I wasn't looking for friends.

Do u seriously think that guys are cringier than women?

 

[CupOfCoffee]

You tell me, all my life other guys have hated on me I’d like to know too

I wouldn't say hated per se but definitely for some reason after my first year in college my guy friends all cut ties with me.

 

[Gengar]

if you can socialize with/befriend chicks on the basis of you wanting to have sex with them

then you know what to do

 

[audreyen]

I wouldn't say hated per se but definitely for some reason after my first year in college my guy friends all cut ties with me.

Do you mog them?

 

[Deleted member 10524]

Are you this guy?

 

[CupOfCoffee]

D u seriously find guys cringier than women?

Tbh I don't know why. And it's only guys my age 19-24. I find it super easy to talk to older guys, even guys in their 60s I've had solid interesting conversations with. Guys my age are really closed off, like they are hiding something

if you can socialize with/befriend chicks on the basis of you wanting to have sex with them

then you know what to do

I don't befriend them for them I just happen to be around them a lot

 

[CupOfCoffee]

Do you mog them?

One guy yeah the others were around average looks/status

 

[Deleted member 11127]

I'm not friendzoned at all because everyone I know that me and my gf are together and I'm well known for being a horny mofo. Like we openly have sex in the next room while her roommates having a party in the living room. I just don't know how to form friendships with men, I feel like they're cringe to talk to for too long.

And btw it's happened twice that a girl I went on a date with told me "we can still be friends" and I directly told her I wasn't looking for friends.

That's what I meant. I really know guys who don't like men and they don't have male friends. Most of them have plenty of female friends and they talk shit about men all the time, just if they were girls themselves. At least you are not friendzoned cuck, so that's good.

 

[CupOfCoffee]

That's what I meant. I really know guys who don't like men and they don't have male friends. Most of them have plenty of female friends and they talk shit about men all the time, just if they were girls themselves. At least you are not friendzoned cuck, so that's good.

I don't talk shit about men either btw. I'm just saying there's like a wall when I try to talk to other guys, I'll easily accept a woman as a friend and they'll like being around me usually.

Another notable thing is that after first year in college I started to get affected with depression which I'm pretty sure drove all my friends away and made em avoid me. So I was basically a complete loner for 2 years and 6 months. Until I started doing drugs and roids which got me involved in weird shit and eventually met my gf and have somewhat of a social circle besides family.

 

[Slayer]

I have this.

I can interact with guys just fine in a professional or academic setting (i.e. when we're all working towards a goal) but I find it insanely cringe and borderline gay to hang out with men outside of that setting.

The only exception would be guys I've known basically all my life, like elementary school friends.

 

[Tusseleif]

Same here I’ve never really gotten along with other guys, not really girls either, might be because of my aspergers or something, Idk, I never get along with anyone really. I just don’t relate to them at all, especially of my age. Drinking, girls, parties, sports, school, whatever guys talk about, I never relate to any of it. I feel like a huge outsider and like an old man because of it even tho I only am 19. Even those I share similar interests with I never really get along with, even though other guys with same interests get along together, but I never with them

 

[CupOfCoffee]

I have this.

I can interact with guys just fine in a professional or academic setting (i.e. when we're all working towards a goal) but I find it insanely cringe and borderline gay to hang out with men outside of that setting.

The only exception would be guys I've known basically all my life, like elementary school friends.

Yeah exactly. I can hangout with my high school friends when I go back to the mideast but can not at all enjoy hanging out with guys in college. I have nothing in common with them and my mind would rather make money study or fuck girls than to hang out with some dudes that register as strangers to me

 

[CupOfCoffee]

Same here I’ve never really gotten along with other guys, not really girls either, might be because of my aspergers or something, Idk, I never get along with anyone really. I just don’t relate to them at all, especially of my age. Drinking, girls, parties, sports, school, whatever guys talk about, I never relate to any of it. I feel like a huge outsider and like an old man because of it even tho I only am 19. Even those I share similar interests with I never really get along with, even though other guys with same interests get along together, but I never with them

Kind of the same, difference is I can enjoy the company of guys I knew when I was younger, but there's never been a time after that that I felt comfortable making friends with guys or hanging out. I did have a friend 2 years ago that I used to go shooting with and biking and shit but once I started injecting roids he stopped talking to me, for obvious reasons tho cuz it made me low inhib and rude lol

 

[fukmylyf]

i mostly get along with high status guys. Otherwise i seem to attract unwarranted jealousy from males. Even my dad was always insecure and overly competitive with me... until i beat him up jfl.

 

[CupOfCoffee]

i mostly get along with high status guys. Otherwise i seem to attract unwarranted jealousy from males. Even my dad was always insecure and overly competitive with me... until i beat him up jfl.

Legit u beat him up?

 

[Deleted member 9787]

i can’t carry any conversations whatsoever

well that and I’m just not interested in befriending every guy within a 5 mile radius

 

[fukmylyf]

Legit u beat him up?

yea when i was 15. He threatened me with a belt and i couldn't allow that anymore.

 

[Deleted member 12002]

I'm curious what causes this. I always had some trouble making friends although usually I had 1 or 2 people I talked regularly with and got close to. But when it comes to guys, once I got to college it is literally impossible for me to form any connection at all with other guys my age. It's way easier for me to talk to girls, I only get close to them if it's a sexual/romantic way but I can still manage to be around their friends to some extent. But if I ever have a convo with a guy at some party it will just cut off right there and we'll never speak again. It seems to me like its my brain not wanting to associate with them becuz there's nothing I can gain from them anyway. Maybe it's subconsciously avoiding your competition? Enlighten me if u have this issue

It just probably means you're not a normie. That's a good thing.

 

[Growth Plate]

impossible because you type essays

 

[CupOfCoffee]

yea when i was 15. He threatened me with a belt and i couldn't allow that anymore.

Good call.

 

[curryslayerordeath]

u are probably very unlikeable irl, but gl so girls want to be around u. prob harmless, but still rly weird to not have any friends lol.

 

[Deleted member 4797]

i mostly get along with high status guys. Otherwise i seem to attract unwarranted jealousy from males. Even my dad was always insecure and overly competitive with me... until i beat him up jfl.

Ive felt this way a lot too, majority if guys who arent high status just let their insecurity take over. Its like they can't chill without their need to mog someone killing the atmosphere.

In 2021 average guy is more insecure than ever before, for obvious reasons. So this is at its worst and will continue downwards.

 

[Deleted member 502]

I wouldn't say hated per se but definitely for some reason after my first year in college my guy friends all cut ties with me.

How good looking are you and are you intimidating looking?

 

[CupOfCoffee]

How good looking are you and are you intimidating looking?

I look low trust. Wide face wide eyes wide mouth high hairline. In psl terms I'm about 5psl because of my eyes mostly

 

[Deleted member 502]

I look low trust. Wide face wide eyes wide mouth high hairline. In psl terms I'm about 5psl because of my eyes mostly

The older you get the harder it is to make friends. I'd say after mid twenties it's near impossible.

 

[MikeMew'sBitch]

in my town in central eastern europe u need to have male friends if u want social circle. there are some losers that tried infiltrating my old social circle only to get chance to fuck sluts that were friends of my social circle. we realized very quickly what these men wanted and threw them out of social circle. also there are lot of men that think similiarly to you, they dont want to hang out with men because they think they have nothing to gain from it and are basically a parasits that contribute nothing and only hang out if they know theres chance someone will bring their sister or female friends so they can try and fuck them. such men are quickly figured out and, unless they are chads, people cut contact with them and dont invite them anymore. you gotta understand its all about networks of people, doesnt matter if male or female, if u got male friends they might eventually invite you to some party where there will be sluts and you will profit. being shortsighted and only accepting invitiations or hanging out with sluts and avoiding men will get you nowhere. several sluts i had a chance to fuck or make out with where all friends of male friend's sister or friends of his friends.

tl dr; basically all chances i ever got to fuck women were thanks to other men who supplied them (be it their sister or friends), i never got to have intimate contact with women when i was hanging out only with women.

 

[Conspiracy]

They just arent normies I guess, outcasts that cant act the way they need to, to go undetected