ezio6
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When women lead with being confrontational it is a shit-test.
Direct shit-tests from women are in essence lose-lose set ups where one operates from the mindset of a loser.
The default belief is that the person you attract is not the one you want so you don’t give them the benefit of the doubt so you have to shit-test them.
Why is it a lose-lose?
“Passing” the shit-test is validating her frame of her as the judge of you. So even if you show yourself to have the right quality you indirectly confirmed to her that it was her legitimate position to put you to the test.
You are the aspiring actor, she is the casting director.
You may get the role, but it is just a role, it is not the essence. Essentially, she will be your director and you will be reciting the lines she wants you to recite.
You may believe in your role but eventually it is just a work of fiction.
By entertaining the shit-tests and feeling validated by it, you are only who you say you are based upon her validating it. It may wok in short run, but on a longer timeframe it won’t as she is not convinced. Why?Because the medium is the shit test.
Shit tests are evidence of low trust either towards oneself (self-doubt, and low belief in your discernment) or towards an entity (the relationship or the person you interact with), which weakens the dynamics.
It is an attrition war of the mind which serves the purpose of fooling oneself if not both people who think they are working towards something more legitimate when they are just getting swallowed by their own psychological warfare.
Going back to the original premise, women leading as masculine to assess if the guy is above a certain masculinity threshold will only better fool themselves in finding the guy they say they want because that shit test segmented the only guys that would validate their BS, thus the opposite of what they seek. They don’t know it yet but they will lose attraction.
She does not get what she says she wants (provided she is genuine), and the men get her by “passing” the shit-test which makes her great for short-term fun, but not for long-term prospects.
Manifesting the outcome they try to avoid the most.
Going back to using shit-tests is that of a loser mentality.
Direct shit-tests from women are in essence lose-lose set ups where one operates from the mindset of a loser.
The default belief is that the person you attract is not the one you want so you don’t give them the benefit of the doubt so you have to shit-test them.
Why is it a lose-lose?
“Passing” the shit-test is validating her frame of her as the judge of you. So even if you show yourself to have the right quality you indirectly confirmed to her that it was her legitimate position to put you to the test.
You are the aspiring actor, she is the casting director.
You may get the role, but it is just a role, it is not the essence. Essentially, she will be your director and you will be reciting the lines she wants you to recite.
You may believe in your role but eventually it is just a work of fiction.
By entertaining the shit-tests and feeling validated by it, you are only who you say you are based upon her validating it. It may wok in short run, but on a longer timeframe it won’t as she is not convinced. Why?Because the medium is the shit test.
Shit tests are evidence of low trust either towards oneself (self-doubt, and low belief in your discernment) or towards an entity (the relationship or the person you interact with), which weakens the dynamics.
It is an attrition war of the mind which serves the purpose of fooling oneself if not both people who think they are working towards something more legitimate when they are just getting swallowed by their own psychological warfare.
Going back to the original premise, women leading as masculine to assess if the guy is above a certain masculinity threshold will only better fool themselves in finding the guy they say they want because that shit test segmented the only guys that would validate their BS, thus the opposite of what they seek. They don’t know it yet but they will lose attraction.
She does not get what she says she wants (provided she is genuine), and the men get her by “passing” the shit-test which makes her great for short-term fun, but not for long-term prospects.
Manifesting the outcome they try to avoid the most.
Going back to using shit-tests is that of a loser mentality.
