Women in my proximity beleive im homosexual/gay. How do I reverse this?

[Methylphenidate]

Hey everyone so I’ve been thinking about something for a while and I’m hoping someone here might get it or at least offer me some advice or maybe just tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way so here goes I’m a young guy in my mid 30s and for as long as I can remember women in my area have thought I was gay or at least assumed I was gay even though I’m 100% straight like I’m not interested in men or anything I’m just trying to understand why they think that and what I’m doing that makes them feel that way it’s kind of hard to explain but it’s like no matter how much I try to just be myself or show interest in women they still give me that “are you sure you’re not gay” look or like they don’t take me seriously when I try to talk to them it’s not like I’m over the top or anything but I guess I’m just not the kind of guy who fits the “masculine” mold that a lot of women seem to expect I’m not a big party guy or the type to talk about sports or act “tough” and I don’t really know if that’s a bad thing or what but it’s definitely left me in this weird spot where I feel like I can’t connect with women the way I want to so here’s the thing I think part of the reason they think I’m gay is because I’ve learned to act a certain way not because I want to be gay but because of private reasons and I know this sounds confusing but let me explain growing up I was always the odd one out I wasn’t popular in school I didn’t fit in with the guys or the girls and I was made fun of a lot for being different it wasn’t just about looks I guess it was more about my personality I was always quieter more introverted and honestly I just had a hard time understanding how to talk to people or relate to them I didn’t have that “swagger” or confidence that other guys seemed to have I would try to fit in but it never worked I got used to being the outsider and over time I think I just adapted to that feeling I started mimicking behaviors from other people who were also kind of outcasts or people who didn’t fit into the traditional mold I guess it’s like a coping mechanism or a way of blending in without drawing too much attention to myself but in doing that I think I unintentionally started picking up habits that made me seem “feminine” or “soft” or whatever you want to call it and now that I look back on it I see how those little things I do, like the way I talk or the way I hold myself or even just the way I laugh, could be misinterpreted as gay and that’s not something I ever wanted to happen it’s just the way I’ve learned to be over the years because I didn’t know any other way to be I’ve realized that all these little things I’ve done to try and survive socially have somehow created this image of me that women can’t seem to shake and even though I’m not trying to act gay it just comes across that way because of the way I’ve conditioned myself to behave over the years I think a part of me is still trying to avoid rejection or judgment so I act in ways that make me less of a “threat” or less “intense” but it’s ended up doing the opposite it’s like I’ve created this shield of behaviors that, while they make me feel safer and more accepted, also make me seem like I’m not straight and honestly I’m getting kind of frustrated because I can’t figure out how to undo it I don’t want to act like something I’m not but at the same time I don’t want to be misunderstood or judged based on how I act it feels like no matter what I do I’m either too “soft” or too “awkward” or too “different” and I don’t know what to do about it it’s like a cycle I can’t get out of and it sucks because I feel like I’m stuck between two identities that don’t really fit me but I’ve somehow become used to them now and maybe I’m overthinking all of this but it’s hard not to feel like I’m doing something wrong when it seems like the more I try to fit in the more I get pushed away I guess what I’m asking is has anyone else been in this situation where you’ve acted in a way that you didn’t mean to but it ended up making you come across differently than you wanted and how did you deal with it because I’m really struggling to figure out how to break this cycle without feeling like I'm betraying myself or pretending to be someone I’m not anyway thanks for reading if anyone has any advice or even just can relate please reply to this thread I'm looking forward to hearing from my bhais

@2025cel @LTNUser @moggerofhumanity @canoli @SoverignJohnathon

 

[xX_ovrb4itstrtd_Xx]

its not so much not being true to yourself, but an act of self-preservation. when youre with your oneitis for a decent bit of time, THEN you can act feminine or do whatever the hell you want, shes in to deep by then.

 

[HappyCamper76]

I definitely relate to the antisocial aspect; I just picked up different defense mechanisms, I guess. I know you were asking for emotional advice mainly, but here is some looksmaxing advice and emotional advice together that I feel would be very beneficial to you. If you do not plan to have kids, or even if you do, I strongly recommend TRT. I have not taken it, but not only will it make you feel more like a man, it will literally rewire your brain in certain aspects. Those "feminine traits" you say you picked up as a defense mechanism? It will quite literally change those. Here is a chart showing the neuroscience.

Why High Test = “Feeling Masculine”​

Effect	Brain Area	Result
↑ Dopamine	Mesolimbic system	Motivation, confidence
↓ Serotonin	Prefrontal cortex	Reduced inhibition, more assertive
↑ Amygdala reactivity	Amygdala	Stronger emotional intensity, defense, aggression
↑ Androgen receptor activity	Multiple areas	Physical and mental changes in alignment with “masculinity”

So it will work mentally and physically. But as the black pill proves, some dude like Dolph Lundgren could be very feminine, like wearing pink, playing with Barbies, etc. But he will be seen as masculine because of the high-test traits he has.

I wish you the best of luck with your situation man. Hope you change those habits!

 

[browncurrycel]

DNR, but Its most probably because you're in your 30s without a woman


I've been called gay by girls too and thats because they've never seen me with a girlfriend. They also made fun of me for being ugly so I think these two things go hand in hand with each other

 

[Methylphenidate]

I definitely relate to the antisocial aspect; I just picked up different defense mechanisms, I guess. I know you were asking for emotional advice mainly, but here is some looksmaxing advice and emotional advice together that I feel would be very beneficial to you. If you do not plan to have kids, or even if you do, I strongly recommend TRT. I have not taken it, but not only will it make you feel more like a man, it will literally rewire your brain in certain aspects. Those "feminine traits" you say you picked up as a defense mechanism? It will quite literally change those. Here is a chart showing the neuroscience.

Summary: Why High Test = “Feeling Masculine”​

Effect	Brain Area	Result
↑ Dopamine	Mesolimbic system	Motivation, confidence
↓ Serotonin	Prefrontal cortex	Reduced inhibition, more assertive
↑ Amygdala reactivity	Amygdala	Stronger emotional intensity, defense, aggression
↑ Androgen receptor activity	Multiple areas	Physical and

So it will work mentally and physically. But as the black pill proves, some dude like Dolph Lundgren could be very feminine, like wearing pink, playing with Barbies, etc. But he will be seen as masculine because of the high-test traits he has.

I wish you the best of luck with your situation man. Hope you change those habits!

Thank you, for bestowing this scholarly knowledge upon me, kind user. I wish you the best in life!

DNR, but Its most probably because you're in your 30s without a woman


I've been called gay by girls too and thats because they've never seen me with a girlfriend. They also made fun of me for being ugly so I think these two things go hand in hand with each other

But I've been perceived this way since I was a teenager, so I don't believe that it's due to my age. 30-35 is still young.

 

[enlightful]

What do u look like? I find that prettyboys and softer looking guys in general are more likely to be seen as "gay" esp the very introverted quiet ones

 

[moggerofhumanity]

Watch pay gorn and see if you get hard.
I’ll be waiting for your result.

 

[Methylphenidate]

Watch pay gorn and see if you get hard.
I’ll be waiting for your result.

Ive tested this, and came to the conclusion that I'm not gay. I only got hard when I watched pemboy forn (High T trait)

What do u look like? I find that prettyboys and softer looking guys in general are more likely to be seen as "gay" esp the very introverted quiet ones

Im around 20% bodyfat with no facial hair

its not so much not being true to yourself, but an act of self-preservation. when youre with your oneitis for a decent bit of time, THEN you can act feminine or do whatever the hell you want, shes in to deep by then.

Yeah, but how?
It's not something I do consciously

 

[davidlaidisme67]

Hey everyone so I’ve been thinking about something for a while and I’m hoping someone here might get it or at least offer me some advice or maybe just tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way so here goes I’m a young guy in my mid 30s and for as long as I can remember women in my area have thought I was gay or at least assumed I was gay even though I’m 100% straight like I’m not interested in men or anything I’m just trying to understand why they think that and what I’m doing that makes them feel that way it’s kind of hard to explain but it’s like no matter how much I try to just be myself or show interest in women they still give me that “are you sure you’re not gay” look or like they don’t take me seriously when I try to talk to them it’s not like I’m over the top or anything but I guess I’m just not the kind of guy who fits the “masculine” mold that a lot of women seem to expect I’m not a big party guy or the type to talk about sports or act “tough” and I don’t really know if that’s a bad thing or what but it’s definitely left me in this weird spot where I feel like I can’t connect with women the way I want to so here’s the thing I think part of the reason they think I’m gay is because I’ve learned to act a certain way not because I want to be gay but because of private reasons and I know this sounds confusing but let me explain growing up I was always the odd one out I wasn’t popular in school I didn’t fit in with the guys or the girls and I was made fun of a lot for being different it wasn’t just about looks I guess it was more about my personality I was always quieter more introverted and honestly I just had a hard time understanding how to talk to people or relate to them I didn’t have that “swagger” or confidence that other guys seemed to have I would try to fit in but it never worked I got used to being the outsider and over time I think I just adapted to that feeling I started mimicking behaviors from other people who were also kind of outcasts or people who didn’t fit into the traditional mold I guess it’s like a coping mechanism or a way of blending in without drawing too much attention to myself but in doing that I think I unintentionally started picking up habits that made me seem “feminine” or “soft” or whatever you want to call it and now that I look back on it I see how those little things I do, like the way I talk or the way I hold myself or even just the way I laugh, could be misinterpreted as gay and that’s not something I ever wanted to happen it’s just the way I’ve learned to be over the years because I didn’t know any other way to be I’ve realized that all these little things I’ve done to try and survive socially have somehow created this image of me that women can’t seem to shake and even though I’m not trying to act gay it just comes across that way because of the way I’ve conditioned myself to behave over the years I think a part of me is still trying to avoid rejection or judgment so I act in ways that make me less of a “threat” or less “intense” but it’s ended up doing the opposite it’s like I’ve created this shield of behaviors that, while they make me feel safer and more accepted, also make me seem like I’m not straight and honestly I’m getting kind of frustrated because I can’t figure out how to undo it I don’t want to act like something I’m not but at the same time I don’t want to be misunderstood or judged based on how I act it feels like no matter what I do I’m either too “soft” or too “awkward” or too “different” and I don’t know what to do about it it’s like a cycle I can’t get out of and it sucks because I feel like I’m stuck between two identities that don’t really fit me but I’ve somehow become used to them now and maybe I’m overthinking all of this but it’s hard not to feel like I’m doing something wrong when it seems like the more I try to fit in the more I get pushed away I guess what I’m asking is has anyone else been in this situation where you’ve acted in a way that you didn’t mean to but it ended up making you come across differently than you wanted and how did you deal with it because I’m really struggling to figure out how to break this cycle without feeling like I'm betraying myself or pretending to be someone I’m not anyway thanks for reading if anyone has any advice or even just can relate please reply to this thread I'm looking forward to hearing from my bhais

@2025cel @LTNUser @moggerofhumanity @canoli @SoverignJohnathon

I have the Exact same issue

 

[enlightful]

Im around 20% bodyfat with no facial hair

Would you say you look closer to a prettyboy or a chad?

 

[chadhamed]

Gaymaxx

 

[Methylphenidate]

Would you say you look closer to a prettyboy or a chad?

Prettyboy, obviously

I think most of us don't look anything close to a chad

Gaymaxx

 

[enlightful]

Prettyboy, obviously

I think most of us don't look anything close to a chad

I mean in terms of dimorphism

Looking more masculine=looking closer to a chad but i get ur point

ur looks combined with ur personality are likely contributors to the gay perception tbh