women liking stories/expressing interest first on IG - cope? (NEED ADVICE GTFIH)

[dravidiancel]

I've been posting a lot more stories of myself on social media recently

a few months ago i would have some ioi - women i found attractive liking my stories or replying (gym stories, pictures of me)

recently likes are more from women i'm not really into per say and not really any women i'd look at and think wow she's really good looking

i've also a girl stalk me and like specific highlights, but she was a fair bit younger so didn't do anything with it

however i also have friends who have had girls i've found very attractive get their profile stalked and stories liked, heavy ioi

if i want women in this league via social media, is it cope to wait for their IOI before pursuing? am i just defying natural men/women dynamics where men should pursue?

feels like my results are stagnating and i'm looking into the past for encouragement that i can get results, not sure what to do

 

[lcberg04]

a few months ago i would have some ioi - women i found attractive liking my stories or replying (gym stories, pictures of me)

Why didn't you pursue these women back then?

recently likes are more from women i'm not really into per say and not really any women i'd look at and think wow she's really good looking

Do you still post the same content? (Pics that you have used few months ago) Has your appearance changed? (Higher bodyfat %, more bloat...)

if i want women in this league via social media, is it cope to wait for their IOI before pursuing?

Waiting for IOI's is more ideal since the rejection rate is lower and you likely will get treated better by these high interest women. But doesn't mean you can't make the first step and pursue women who don't give you iois right away. When you interact with them you will probably know sooner than later if they are into you. The rejection will probably be higher with women who haven't given you iois first.

 

[dravidiancel]

1. i did pursue most of these women back, some ended up just being disinterested/dry, one of them was going fairly well and then she ended up getting a bf like a month later

2. content i posted before was a bit more about gym, some vlog style stories which were selfie vids of my face, i've also clean shaven as recommended by someone who rated my face (used to have a goatee/moustache). Weirdly weight gain hardly shows on my face but I have put on fat around the abdomen area, not sure how much my face will be affected by weight loss, probs 22% bf rn?

3. i do agree waiting for ioi's is better, what would you recommend doing so i can get ioi's from women i myself find genuinely attractive? I think current ioi's are from 6/10s and i want to push that to the 7.5/10 ballpark

thanks for ur reply though, making me think about the difference in what i posted did help

 

[ItsOverLawg]

she wants you bro

 

[dravidiancel]

she wants you bro

some girl i was interested in went on my friends profiles n liked all of his highlights, ropemax soon

 

[lcberg04]

i did pursue most of these women back, some ended up just being disinterested/dry, one of them was going fairly well and then she ended up getting a bf like a month later

Happens bro online dating is a numbers game. Maybe you were also texting too much who knows.

content i posted before was a bit more about gym, some vlog style stories which were selfie vids of my face, i've also clean shaven as recommended by someone who rated my face (used to have a goatee/moustache). Weirdly weight gain hardly shows on my face but I have put on fat around the abdomen area, not sure how much my face will be affected by weight loss, probs 22% bf rn

Yeah see what gets most engagement and then try to replicate similar content over and over again. 22% is quite a lot borderline obese actually imo. Definitely need to lose some weight then.

i do agree waiting for ioi's is better, what would you recommend doing so i can get ioi's from women i myself find genuinely attractive? I think current ioi's are from 6/10s and i want to push that to the 7.5/10 ballpark

Obviously the most effective way is to become more attractive. Second best would be the generic blue pulled answer to put yourself out there, so post more content of yourself maybe even on various other platforms if you are posting gym content. Make sure alot if people see you content or your profile

 

[dravidiancel]

Happens bro online dating is a numbers game. Maybe you were also texting too much who knows.

yeah honestly maybe i was just approaching it the wrong way

Yeah see what gets most engagement and then try to replicate similar content over and over again. 22% is quite a lot borderline obese actually imo. Definitely need to lose some weight then.

yeah i had a look, it's mainly gym, boxing and pictures of me but its a mixed bag which ones do well and which ones are kinda meh. running and hitting gym again now exams are done so hopefully can claw back the fat i've put on

Obviously the most effective way is to become more attractive. Second best would be the generic blue pulled answer to put yourself out there, so post more content of yourself maybe even on various other platforms if you are posting gym content. Make sure alot if people see you content or your profile

for sure, honestly i'm rocking clean shaven atm but i'm not sure if it's my look because i think my lower third might be weak. mind if i pm you n get your thoughts?

 

[lcberg04]

yeah honestly maybe i was just approaching it the wrong way

Yh sometimes these hoes also just want attention or validation

for sure, honestly i'm rocking clean shaven atm but i'm not sure if it's my look because i think my lower third might be weak. mind if i pm you n get your thoughts?

Sure again the bodyfat will probably hide your lower third by quite a lot too definitely need to lose the bodyfat soon