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What was the worst advice you've been given that you've then went on to take in?
Being a social recluse in my teens and with anxiety issues, needless to say I wasn't a social butterfly. Yet, I still somehow managed to develop myself into a person who can talk with other people or stare them down, if need be, and who isn't afraid of standing on his own ground, even if the other person is intimidating.
Still though, doesn't mean I'm able to make friends, let alone get a girl. So over the years I'd either ask or receive an advice, on what's wrong with me or what I should do. And there was always a common theme - be more confident or just be yourself.
Imo, I'm very confident in things I have a lot of experience with, I can become a monster, if I understand the subject deeply. I act carefully or try to think through things, before acting on things with which I'm not familiar with, so sometimes it might seem that I have confidence issues and I can see that myself. In general I never thought I had too big of a confidence issue.
Now comes the "just bee urself, bro" part, which is imo the absolute death sentence in either inter personal relations or even business relations. You NEVER want to be yourself, never show your weaknesses or say what you think. You lie, deceive and manipulate people or it's death. Whenever I ever talked with a girl and opened up about myself, my thoughts, I'd instantly see how the entire interaction changes. Which always results in essentially nothing coming out of it.
At work interviews you won't get a job or if you get a job, say good bye to 30-50% of your wage, if you try to be honest or present yourself, the way that you actually are. I guess same goes for taking an advice from a female, or even asking for an advice - don't consider them as a grown up person, they're absolutely stupid spoiled kids, not much more.
The problem I have, is I want to have that deep connection with a person, to share the weakness and open up about my thoughts and inner feelings, yet you can never do that as a man. What a shitty existence. I know, water etc etc. Ways to cope?
What were your experiences with terrible advices?
Just bee urself, bro.
Being a social recluse in my teens and with anxiety issues, needless to say I wasn't a social butterfly. Yet, I still somehow managed to develop myself into a person who can talk with other people or stare them down, if need be, and who isn't afraid of standing on his own ground, even if the other person is intimidating.
Still though, doesn't mean I'm able to make friends, let alone get a girl. So over the years I'd either ask or receive an advice, on what's wrong with me or what I should do. And there was always a common theme - be more confident or just be yourself.
Imo, I'm very confident in things I have a lot of experience with, I can become a monster, if I understand the subject deeply. I act carefully or try to think through things, before acting on things with which I'm not familiar with, so sometimes it might seem that I have confidence issues and I can see that myself. In general I never thought I had too big of a confidence issue.
Now comes the "just bee urself, bro" part, which is imo the absolute death sentence in either inter personal relations or even business relations. You NEVER want to be yourself, never show your weaknesses or say what you think. You lie, deceive and manipulate people or it's death. Whenever I ever talked with a girl and opened up about myself, my thoughts, I'd instantly see how the entire interaction changes. Which always results in essentially nothing coming out of it.
At work interviews you won't get a job or if you get a job, say good bye to 30-50% of your wage, if you try to be honest or present yourself, the way that you actually are. I guess same goes for taking an advice from a female, or even asking for an advice - don't consider them as a grown up person, they're absolutely stupid spoiled kids, not much more.
The problem I have, is I want to have that deep connection with a person, to share the weakness and open up about my thoughts and inner feelings, yet you can never do that as a man. What a shitty existence. I know, water etc etc. Ways to cope?
What were your experiences with terrible advices?
Just bee urself, bro.
