17 n going to the first day of college tmr

[vLotus]

Any expectations. First day dictates a lot so I better make it useful tbh. Might break the dry spell in college aswell

 

[Deleted member 6113]

 

[Deleted member 5522]

 

[vLotus]

Jfl all of youse useless smh

 

[Enfant terrible]

approach strangers
you need to create a large social circle

 

[Deleted member 6113]

Jfl all of youse useless smh

Jfl at thinking youd get good advice

 

[Deleted member 8576]

good luck

 

[vLotus]

approach strangers
you need to create a large social circle

The only problem is that I’m usually quiet outside my social friend group from high school. Not nessecsrily shy. But literally all of them except for 1-2 is going to the college I go to. So rip and it’ll be harder since the majority of people from my HS is moving to the same college.

 

[Deleted member 8919]

its over

 

[court monarch777]

sasukemaxxing

 

[vLotus]

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Nah did the opposite of that. College went smooth. Feel confident I’m finna break the dry season there.

 

[Gonthar]

17???
Isn't this a little too young for college? In school you need to be around the same age as the other people to fit in.

 

[Jamal2222]

approach strangers
you need to create a large social circle

im working on a huge thread about this

 

[Deleted member 11705]

ShySaxons me

 

[Deleted member 7076]

talk to anyone and everyone and have fun

i have my first day in a couple weeks

 

[vLotus]

17???
Isn't this a little too young for college? In school you need to be around the same age as the other people to fit in.

i believe in the US highschool goes from 15-18 if I stand correct. over here where I live it goes (highschool) 13-16 then college 17-18

 

[Deleted member 6573]

which college?

 

[vLotus]

im working on a huge thread about this

nice looking forward to it.

Basically what I did was expose myself to as many groups as possible. first thing I did when i arrived when everyone was outside was head straight to a group of people I knew even though I wasn't necessarily friends with them. chatted and hanged with them.

I made sure to always stick to a group. not just standing around looking lonely by myself ( my HS former self would've something like that JFL)


most classes I had people I knew so would sit next to them. for the ones I don't I would just sit next to table with people. basically invite myself to it.


I definitely noticed a-lot more attraction from others as the girls from my previous school would say my name and sit closer to me lmao.

I would definitely attribute this to looking more NT from getting a haircut, bulking then cutting. Male grooming. and being open as from before i was very closeted. ( arms crossed, didn't speak a word, always fidgeting) Now I'm more relaxed more confident with an open posture.

and have a NT resting face. e.g not a resting face that seems uninterested and looks like he doesn't want to talk to anyone. ( I always had my earphones in during HS acted like I didn't want to talk. always on my phone when others we're socialising. usually when I'm out of my social group and don't know anyone in the class and then I wondered why no one didn't talk to me JFL)

that pretty much sums up what I did but I still have a-lot to improve on especially my speech and a bit of holding conversations as I still stutter from time to time as I speak. Once I'm able to improve on those aspects college would be a breeze.

hope this might help in some way.

edit: hanging out in a group is considered a halo effect making you more attractive.