whiteissuperior
Bu to the sinner he gives the task of gathering.
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Maxxxmax
·12h
Damn straight homie, same height as you. As a teen I hated it but by the time I got to uni I realised it was a boon (no one ever forgot my name, people instinctively rally to your defence, can win a big money game of hide and seek by fitting in under a sink). Only negative is not being able to reach the top shelf, but my 6ft gf covers that base.
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somethingswronglol
OP·12h
lmao i aint ever had a gf bro bc of my height but thats alright cuz as long as i make money ill be fine especially wit less back pain
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Maxxxmax
·12h
While there are obviously women out there that won't date or fuck a short guy, there's plenty of women who will. I spent my teen years trying to over compensate for my height by hooking up with every girl I could. It took curating some style and being confident, but it honestly wasn't particularly hard. Bit cringe i know, but its a numbers game. Hell, I've hooked up with some girls who really liked being with someone who was the same height as them (and as you and I are the same height, this could happen for you too), either because they felt safer or just because it was something different. Dont give up on it out of a sense of pride or defeat, love yourself, believe in yourself.
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somethingswronglol
OP·12h
lmao i have so much pride broski im all good but thanks!
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Maxxxmax
·12h
Good, glad you have pride, but also have confidence. Its crucial, if you don't conform to the masculine stereotype, confidence in yourself and passion for what you're interested in can work wonders on getting a partner (for the night or for the foreseeable).
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somethingswronglol
OP·12h
i have all what i need to have a healthy mental state mindset and bc i be me instead. but thanks a-lot!
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Maxxxmax
·12h
If it works for you man, thats great. All im saying is don't give up on one avenue to happiness because you've got another covered.
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somethingswronglol
OP·11h
I'll remember that, bur same goes to you man!
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Classicjammer
·8m
How the hell do you have that much confidence? What (in general) do you do for a career and hobby wise? Cause to do as good as you say you are with women I’m thinking you must be extremely varied and open with your interests and very sociable.
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JMSpider2001
·8h
5’4” | 163cm
Any tips on how to get good style, charisma, and confidence? I’m not naturally outgoing so I struggle with this.
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Maxxxmax
·7h
Sorry for the incoming wall, dusting off all I can remember that may be relevant.
Well when I was a teen, emo was big so style wise I have no idea what sub cultures are around today, but transferable lessons would be cool accessorises, effort on your hair (something a little different from standard dude hair), attention to outfits (tbh I wore a lot of black, band t shirts were a good indicator of common interest), cool shoes. I can't tell you what, because what I wore would probably be dated now.
Confidence is the key. Go into situations thinking that it doesn't matter if people like you, but if they do, its a boon. Theres so many fish in the sea if someone isn't into you, so don't obsess over it, there's always others. A dash of arrogance and a dash of self deprecation (I'm British, that might be an us thing) but if you do self deprecate, make sure it isn't your biggest character flaw so people don't think you're fishing for reassurance. Be flippant about it like you know you have a flaw but don't care, do not bummed about it.
Talk about what you're passionate about as long as it isn't too niche. I would wax lyrical about bands I liked or pop philosophy/ politics. I wouldn't for instance, talk about how I play warhammer with someone new unless they revealed something that might suggest an interest in the more niche things. Listen to people too, get a gauge in what someone is interested in and if you know something about it, talk about that. If you don't, ask questions about it and show/ feign interest.
Do something publicly. I did acting at school and played in a band and both helped my confidence loads. Honestly, I probably got too confident after a pair of girls started following me to all my gigs.
Get a good wingman. If you've got someone you're really comfortable talking with, have an interesting conversation with them around others will often engratiate yourself with them. Having a third person can take some of the social pressure off.
Keep trying. Fuck me, I spent way too many nights out at events or bars that I didn't like as a way to meet friends or prospective partners. If after the initial interactions you ask someone to dance or offer them a drink and they so no, be cool about it and wonder off to find some new folks. Rejection is a part of life, no one is perfect for everyone and most people aren't right for most other people. Just keep trying, don't get mad or sad.
Smoke, or hang out with smokers. This is probably terrible advice for your health, but being in smoking areas was the number 1 place I met people in a context where you could introduce yourself without creepily sliding up to someone, offering lighter or letting someone have a cig is a great opener.
Hope this helps in some way, obviously this is all the dusted off experiences I had before I got together with my partner a decade ago, so take it with a pinch of salt. If I could give a single piece of "easier said than done" advice, its love yourself, unconditionally. You may have things about yourself that you don't like, some which you can change, some which you can't, but always keep in mind you have as much value in the grand scheme of things as anyone else.
Good luck, I'm rooting for you.
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semiavocado
·4h
I am same height as you and I completely agree with your hide and seek point. I always win too because of my height Hehehhe
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Maxxxmax
·4h
One time at uni we had a game involving our entire dorm building. All the lights shut out, 40 people. I fucking rekt. Lotta places to hide away for those like us.
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mh1357_0
·10h
X'Y" | Z cm
Your WHAT
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Maxxxmax
·9h
Haven't yall also found tall girls are more likely to be into short guys than average hight girls? Always felt a sense of kinship in "unusual heights for our gender" with tall girls.
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mh1357_0
·8h
X'Y" | Z cm
I definitely do like tall girls more than short girls lol
Average height girls always want a dude who is like 6'3 like come on dude lower your expectations
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DanlexTheKnight
·8h
5'1" | 155cm
And another thing is that if thats your long term partner/ husband or wife and you plan on having kids, they probably will turn out average height
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Maxxxmax
·8h
The great irony here is that my attraction to my girlfriend of ten years now is probably in part a genetic response to an instinct to provide positive traits that I don't possess to any offspring e.g her height, but we don't want kids.
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DanlexTheKnight
·8h
5'1" | 155cm
I mean that’s perfectly cool, instincts are gonna instinct i suppose, that’s probably where most preferences/ tastes come from in general.
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thiccshredder57
·5h
I’m 5’3 and also turned 18 a few days ago. How did you get comfortable with your height?
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somethingswronglol
OP·4h
i started looking at the brightside of it yk
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thiccshredder57
·4h
Like wym?
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somethingswronglol
OP·4h
like think of all the advantages you have with it and think of how good it looks on you actually, it will help you especially since its not bad at all
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thiccshredder57
·3h
Thanks man
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mh1357_0
·10h
X'Y" | Z cm
I'm 5'8 so I always think I'm short but then I realize other guys are way shorter than me
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Nop_X
·8h
5’9| 175 | 15 years idk
Same
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Dr_Sosa
·12h
What is the meaning of the left hand gesture?
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somethingswronglol
OP·12h
nada
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Rafaelrios12356
·32m
5'3" | 160 cm
vc é br?
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bonuccigang
·11h
It’s his right hand, it’s a mirror lol
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Dr_Sosa
·11h
ok whats the meaning
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pwndaman9
·11h
It's usually just a "haha made you look " type of gesture.
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Dr_Sosa
·9h
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pwndaman9
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bonuccigang
·11h
nada
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Sloppy1sts
·6h
5'6"
He gets to punch you in the arm if you look directly at it.
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dj_fishwigy
·2h
5'6" | 169 cm
Oh you trolled us. I think you can punch my arm then.
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AverageGuyAround
·1h
5’6” | 167.64 Cm
why trolled ?
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clockhit
·43m
160 cm | 5’3” | M
cause of the symbol he’s making with his hands
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TheDeadMonument
·8h
X'Y" | Z cm
We're not short. We're super-concentrated.
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R0bo_Squatch
·9h
Hey man you're right. Being short sometimes is pretty darn nice like I have these lights above the dinner table and if I stand up fast I'll hit them almost always. It doesnt hurt but its just so annoying that it makes the stupid *ding* sound. Don't let people say you're short because you're not living your life for them. If you're happy with yourself in this world thats all that matters.
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hi_im_kai101
·1h
it’s cute
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Blueonyxboom
·43m
You look about 5’6
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Journytochad
·7h
It’s over
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Rafaelrios12356
·28m
5'3" | 160 cm
ur height doesn't make any sense,did disease stunth ur growth.
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