19M getting sliding genioplasty in Korea… How do i tell my familly?

[ori]

this is my second post about this subject I'm super stressed cortisol is high af

Decision already made: I’m getting a sliding genioplasty in Korea.

I’ve done the research, spoke to a surgeon, it’s and simple and quick 15 mins surgery, around $3k, and I’ll be in Bangkok for 3 months after so I won’t even see my family during recovery. logically it’s easy.

The only problem is telling my family.

Context: I’m not one of those “I’m perfect but insecure” cases. My side profile is objectively weak. I’ve compared, measured, looked at enough before/afters to know where I stand. This isn’t me chasing some fantasy, it’s fixing a structural L that actually fucking matters.

I already told my parents I’m doing fat grafting under/upper eyes and they were okay with it because I made it sound like a harmless “treatment.” But this? This is full on plastic surgery, no way to sugarcoat it.

They’re super old-school so I already know the script:
- “This is dangerous”
- “You don’t need this”
- “Be happy with what you have”

Meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking yeah, or I could just fix it when im there and move on instead of staying miserable for the rest of my life.
I also dont want people to know im doing cosmetic procedures because they wont understand and ill be looked at as fake plastic and crazy

So I’m stuck:
1. Tell them and deal with the screams + drama of getting surgery in another country far away that is not needed medically
2. Don’t say anything, get it done while I’m away, come back and act like nothing happened

Option 2 sounds way cleaner, not gonna lie. But I cant just comeback with a new fucking face and hope they dont notice
also I dont have much time to decide I will be in korea from the 18th of april to the 2 of may and i cant miss this opportunity
I spoke to the surgeon and told him I'm in I have the money ready just not the balls to tell anyone

 

[KinG_moSsAd]

fuck them why tell them

 

[ori]

fuck them why tell them

idk man i feel like i cant have it and not tell anyone

 

[KinG_moSsAd]

idk man i feel like i cant have it and not tell anyone

if you don't tell them they may or may not notice it, if they don't notice it you don't care and if they do notice it just tell them cause fuck are they gonna do bro

 

[ori]

if you don't tell them they may or may not notice it, if they don't notice it you don't care and if they do notice it just tell them cause fuck are they gonna do bro

yea thats right

 

[tyler1234]

this is my second post about this subject I'm super stressed cortisol is high af

Decision already made: I’m getting a sliding genioplasty in Korea.

I’ve done the research, spoke to a surgeon, it’s and simple and quick 15 mins surgery, around $3k, and I’ll be in Bangkok for 3 months after so I won’t even see my family during recovery. logically it’s easy.

The only problem is telling my family.

Context: I’m not one of those “I’m perfect but insecure” cases. My side profile is objectively weak. I’ve compared, measured, looked at enough before/afters to know where I stand. This isn’t me chasing some fantasy, it’s fixing a structural L that actually fucking matters.

I already told my parents I’m doing fat grafting under/upper eyes and they were okay with it because I made it sound like a harmless “treatment.” But this? This is full on plastic surgery, no way to sugarcoat it.

They’re super old-school so I already know the script:
- “This is dangerous”
- “You don’t need this”
- “Be happy with what you have”

Meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking yeah, or I could just fix it when im there and move on instead of staying miserable for the rest of my life.
I also dont want people to know im doing cosmetic procedures because they wont understand and ill be looked at as fake plastic and crazy

So I’m stuck:
1. Tell them and deal with the screams + drama of getting surgery in another country far away that is not needed medically
2. Don’t say anything, get it done while I’m away, come back and act like nothing happened

Option 2 sounds way cleaner, not gonna lie. But I cant just comeback with a new fucking face and hope they dont notice
also I dont have much time to decide I will be in korea from the 18th of april to the 2 of may and i cant miss this opportunity
I spoke to the surgeon and told him I'm in I have the money ready just not the balls to tell anyone

If u look like this u need bimax

 

[ori]

If u look like this u need bimax

i dont this is the surgeons before and after some shave the jaw down in korea so they look weird

 

[tony10]

Just grow your beard for a month before you go back, if you have the genetics

 

[ori]

Just grow your beard for a month before you go back, if you have the genetics

nah i kinda have alopicia

 

[AscendHQ]

this is my second post about this subject I'm super stressed cortisol is high af

Decision already made: I’m getting a sliding genioplasty in Korea.

I’ve done the research, spoke to a surgeon, it’s and simple and quick 15 mins surgery, around $3k, and I’ll be in Bangkok for 3 months after so I won’t even see my family during recovery. logically it’s easy.

The only problem is telling my family.

Context: I’m not one of those “I’m perfect but insecure” cases. My side profile is objectively weak. I’ve compared, measured, looked at enough before/afters to know where I stand. This isn’t me chasing some fantasy, it’s fixing a structural L that actually fucking matters.

I already told my parents I’m doing fat grafting under/upper eyes and they were okay with it because I made it sound like a harmless “treatment.” But this? This is full on plastic surgery, no way to sugarcoat it.

They’re super old-school so I already know the script:
- “This is dangerous”
- “You don’t need this”
- “Be happy with what you have”

Meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking yeah, or I could just fix it when im there and move on instead of staying miserable for the rest of my life.
I also dont want people to know im doing cosmetic procedures because they wont understand and ill be looked at as fake plastic and crazy

So I’m stuck:
1. Tell them and deal with the screams + drama of getting surgery in another country far away that is not needed medically
2. Don’t say anything, get it done while I’m away, come back and act like nothing happened

Option 2 sounds way cleaner, not gonna lie. But I cant just comeback with a new fucking face and hope they dont notice
also I dont have much time to decide I will be in korea from the 18th of april to the 2 of may and i cant miss this opportunity
I spoke to the surgeon and told him I'm in I have the money ready just not the balls to tell anyone

That is a sticky position to be in lol

 

[AscendHQ]

this is my second post about this subject I'm super stressed cortisol is high af

Decision already made: I’m getting a sliding genioplasty in Korea.

I’ve done the research, spoke to a surgeon, it’s and simple and quick 15 mins surgery, around $3k, and I’ll be in Bangkok for 3 months after so I won’t even see my family during recovery. logically it’s easy.

The only problem is telling my family.

Context: I’m not one of those “I’m perfect but insecure” cases. My side profile is objectively weak. I’ve compared, measured, looked at enough before/afters to know where I stand. This isn’t me chasing some fantasy, it’s fixing a structural L that actually fucking matters.

I already told my parents I’m doing fat grafting under/upper eyes and they were okay with it because I made it sound like a harmless “treatment.” But this? This is full on plastic surgery, no way to sugarcoat it.

They’re super old-school so I already know the script:
- “This is dangerous”
- “You don’t need this”
- “Be happy with what you have”

Meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking yeah, or I could just fix it when im there and move on instead of staying miserable for the rest of my life.
I also dont want people to know im doing cosmetic procedures because they wont understand and ill be looked at as fake plastic and crazy

So I’m stuck:
1. Tell them and deal with the screams + drama of getting surgery in another country far away that is not needed medically
2. Don’t say anything, get it done while I’m away, come back and act like nothing happened

Option 2 sounds way cleaner, not gonna lie. But I cant just comeback with a new fucking face and hope they dont notice
also I dont have much time to decide I will be in korea from the 18th of april to the 2 of may and i cant miss this opportunity
I spoke to the surgeon and told him I'm in I have the money ready just not the balls to tell anyone

i won’t either know how to tell my family once i get my surgery’s when i turn 18

 

[ori]

i won’t either know how to tell my family once i get my surgery’s when i turn 1

yea man its not easy ill let you know when i figure it out

 

[BronzeSpartan2]

this is my second post about this subject I'm super stressed cortisol is high af

Decision already made: I’m getting a sliding genioplasty in Korea.

I’ve done the research, spoke to a surgeon, it’s and simple and quick 15 mins surgery, around $3k, and I’ll be in Bangkok for 3 months after so I won’t even see my family during recovery. logically it’s easy.

The only problem is telling my family.

Context: I’m not one of those “I’m perfect but insecure” cases. My side profile is objectively weak. I’ve compared, measured, looked at enough before/afters to know where I stand. This isn’t me chasing some fantasy, it’s fixing a structural L that actually fucking matters.

I already told my parents I’m doing fat grafting under/upper eyes and they were okay with it because I made it sound like a harmless “treatment.” But this? This is full on plastic surgery, no way to sugarcoat it.

They’re super old-school so I already know the script:
- “This is dangerous”
- “You don’t need this”
- “Be happy with what you have”

Meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking yeah, or I could just fix it when im there and move on instead of staying miserable for the rest of my life.
I also dont want people to know im doing cosmetic procedures because they wont understand and ill be looked at as fake plastic and crazy

So I’m stuck:
1. Tell them and deal with the screams + drama of getting surgery in another country far away that is not needed medically
2. Don’t say anything, get it done while I’m away, come back and act like nothing happened

Option 2 sounds way cleaner, not gonna lie. But I cant just comeback with a new fucking face and hope they dont notice
also I dont have much time to decide I will be in korea from the 18th of april to the 2 of may and i cant miss this opportunity
I spoke to the surgeon and told him I'm in I have the money ready just not the balls to tell anyone

Just don’t tell them, even if they find out it’s easier to ask them to forgive you afterwards rather than deal with the stress of them arguing with you to not do it.

If you ascend enough, halo effect will kick in and they’ll forgive you more easily anyway.

 

[horsefacin]

don’t tell them. i have similar plans. they’ll just have to accept we’re grown ass dudes with our own lives and hopefully see it was worth it after we’re happier

 

[Lookologist003]

Try disguise it. Make it sound like you have a problem with your breathing or swallowing and make it sound necessary to a bluepiller. Say the surgeon had to do something with your jaw and this new chin was a side effect of that.

 

[Jgns]

don't tell them just tell them you started working out and got leaner if they ask im kinda in the same situation lol but getting way more shit

 

[emir5306]

Ur 19 not a little kid anymore make your own decisions bro