darkness97
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1. be very selective of who you are patient with. Assert yourself always in a calm manner.
I have been very patient with people/friends generally. but what i have learned is that patience doesn't always buy you patience in return. it rarely recognized, it just becomes expected. patience emboldens people with their bullshit and you have to cut it off right away. there are very few people that i know that deserve patience and a lot of people just need their medicine straight.
2. women are anxious creatures.
i have learned this in class and it aligns with my experiences. women are generally very anxious and insecure beings. i don't mean that in an offensive way, i mean that they are generally very sensitive. you'd be surprised by any subtle action that makes them feel a way. they need a guy to make the first move because they generally can't stomach the anxiety of the making the move themselves. to be with a women you have to make them feel safe, secure and sexy.
when you're insecure and unconfident it rubs off on them and makes them overthink. overthinking then leads to withdrawal because to overthink is to be in an anxious state. anxious states causes their insecurity to swell making it more difficult to talk to them. you have to assert yourself well. if a woman acts rude or dismissive i rarely take it personally and just treat it as a defense mechanism. if you handle it well she will relax overtime.
I have been very patient with people/friends generally. but what i have learned is that patience doesn't always buy you patience in return. it rarely recognized, it just becomes expected. patience emboldens people with their bullshit and you have to cut it off right away. there are very few people that i know that deserve patience and a lot of people just need their medicine straight.
2. women are anxious creatures.
i have learned this in class and it aligns with my experiences. women are generally very anxious and insecure beings. i don't mean that in an offensive way, i mean that they are generally very sensitive. you'd be surprised by any subtle action that makes them feel a way. they need a guy to make the first move because they generally can't stomach the anxiety of the making the move themselves. to be with a women you have to make them feel safe, secure and sexy.
when you're insecure and unconfident it rubs off on them and makes them overthink. overthinking then leads to withdrawal because to overthink is to be in an anxious state. anxious states causes their insecurity to swell making it more difficult to talk to them. you have to assert yourself well. if a woman acts rude or dismissive i rarely take it personally and just treat it as a defense mechanism. if you handle it well she will relax overtime.
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