
Quasary1x
Bronze
- Joined
- Mar 22, 2024
- Posts
- 311
- Reputation
- 188
01 LEAD FLOW
02 YOUR TOO PICKY
03 THE FIRST DATE JUST WASN'T THAT POPPIN
04 THE ATTRACTION IS FIZZLING OUT
05 YOU LACKED BOYFRIEND QUALITIES
- Lead flow refers to the number of interactions and conversation you have with potential romantic partners.
- Many men don't have enough lead flow because they don't socialize or interact with others enough in their daily life.
- Audit your weekly schedule to find opportunities for small talk and interactions.
- Work, commute, lunch, gym, classes, errands, weekends. Start with brief friendly interactions and work to gradually extend them.
- Consider locations that have people with similar interests as you to easily strike up conversations.
02 YOUR TOO PICKY
- Being too picky hinders relationship opportunities.
- Waiting for perfection without the necessary skills leads to missed opportunities.
- Lack of essential skills like teasing and flirting limits success in dating.
- Settling standards doesn't mean lowering them; it's about being
open to potential.
- Gradually improve skills and standards as confidence grows.
03 THE FIRST DATE JUST WASN'T THAT POPPIN
- If the first date doesn't leave the girl craving more and pursuing you, it likely wasn't very successful in creating attraction.
- Many guys think a first date went well because they had a nice conversation, but that alone won't create a spark or strong attraction.
- You need to lead the interaction, just being polite and reserved won't cut it.
- Skills like creating comfort while escalating attraction, displaying high value through your actions/words, and having a fun, engaging energy are important for a successful "popping" first date.
- In summary, really focus on building strong attraction and don't just settle for a nice friendly conversation if you want things to progress beyond the first date. Lead with confidence and use flirting/teasing to create a spark.
04 THE ATTRACTION IS FIZZLING OUT
- Escalate intimacy appropriately on dates without rushing.
- Expect kissing by 2nd date, further if escalated well.
- Limit excessive texting, spice up communication between dates.
- Avoid over-pursuing, falling into her frame, or pedestaling
- Use voice messages to convey personality and keep her interested
05 YOU LACKED BOYFRIEND QUALITIES
- Need to indicate you can be a provider and partner long term, not just for sex
- Qualities like trust, protection, emotional connection are important.
- Money, status, nice lifestyle can help signal you're high-value but aren’t everything
- Focus on genuine connection and suitability as a partner over just looks/money