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An approach invitation is a girl’s way of making your job easier - instead of you having to put yourself out there as much, she's making it as effortless as possible for you to approach her. Because she wants you. Hence if a girl wants you, she’ll leave hints. But how can you tell as a guy?
1.. The internet holla.As a man, I find this approach cool. When a girl musters up some courage to inbox you, tweet or Whatsapp you, it means a lot. Social media has become a common place for people to hook up nowadays. Contrary to popular belief there’s no problem with hooking up on the internet really. You just have to be smart and careful and you’ll meet a lot of awesome people who are just a click away.Many women have a guy on social media that they admire but are too afraid to approach the guy they admire but are too afraid to approach the guy.In life you should have the courage to take what you believe should be yours or else someone else will take it as you watch. .Some women will go ahead to start a conversation with you via inbox but she won’t really tell you how she feels. She’ll show interest in you then pass the ball to you. Where things go from there is up to you.
2.The Plant.Perhaps the most obvious approach invitation, although not without its own challenges. A girl goes to where you are - seated at the bar, leaning against a wall, in a specific aisle in the bookstore or clothing store, waiting for a matatu - and plants herself right nearby you, always within peripheral vision eyeshot. Sounds great, right? Well, there are a couple of downsides:*.Sometimes a girl will plant herself a little too far away, meaning you need to move to talk to her. That's okay if it's easy enough to slide a few feet next to her, but if it's an obvious plant but she's farther than a few feet, you're still going to have to close a distance to open*.If you fail to strike up a conversation with her within the first minute or two, she'll often still be there for a while (after all, she's planted herself there), but it can get awkward - you know why she's there, and she knows you know why she's there, but neither of you say anything... this is embarrassing to her; it's like being rejected, then awkwardly hanging around the person who rejected you.For those reasons, if you like a girl, and she plants herself near you,make sure to start a conversation within 120 seconds of her doing so(faster or slower depending on the girl .
3.The Hover.You'll see this one most often with inexperienced girls, who are used to inexperienced men, who tend to be pretty oblivious to women's signals and need those women to be as LOUD with their signaling as humanly possible, though you'll also sometimes see it with a highly sexual woman who simply doesn't want to waste time with playing coy. The Hover is when a woman walks over to where you are... then just hovers there, staring in your direction. Girls who do this are making it obvious for you; all you've got to do is turn their direction,smile warmly, and say, "Hello."
4.The Linger.Quick - think fast! The Linger is the briefest of approach invitations - and also the hardest to capitalize on. Girls using lingering as an A.I. often give you too little time to react, unless you're good. These tend to be moderately experienced women,who feel too obvious doing the Hover, so instead try to rush through their approach invitations as quickly as possible - usually, too quickly. A girl will walk over to where you are...pause, for anywhere from half a second to three seconds... and then continue walking on, as if nothing had happened.Because she's in a, "Okay, let's do this and then get out of there if he doesn't do anything," mindset, if your opener is anything other than smooth, she'll play dumb and keep going, too. This one's often hard to differentiate between a girl who legitimately did just happen to pause as she was walking past you - use context to figure it out, or just open every girl who does this if you want to err on the side of false positives instead of false negatives.
5.The Look About.Similar to a Linger, but with a duration more akin to a Hover, the Look About is when a girl walks over to right near where you are, then... glances about, confusedly, as if wondering where that thing she was looking for could possibly have gone. You will see this one most often in day game, and when meeting women in shops and stores. A girl will invariably react "pleasantly surprised" on your approach, and if she's interested, will show that interest right away. If your approach rubbed her the wrong way / she realizes you're not as cute as she thought from a distance (or, if she genuinely WAS just there by chance and happened to be confused), she'll be nice / polite, and get back to looking for whatever she was supposedly looking for.
6.Mutters and Sighs.Ever have a girl walk up next to you and mutter to herself, "God, this mat is taking forever!" or, "Oh my God... what a day!" Or maybe she just sighs -hufffff. Usually feel like you're supposed to say something here, right?That's for good reason- people usually only do this when they want someone to engage them in conversation. So - engage!
7.Requests for Help.Girls who want to talk to you will often ask for help:*."Can you take our picture?"*."Do you know what time it is?"How do you know if it's a genuine request (i.e., she's really just looking for information) or it's just an excuse to get you to talk to her? There're no hard and fast rules, unfortunately, but some rough guidelines include if she's giving you signals of interest (her voice is softer / less matter-of-fact; she's smiling an interested-in-you type of smile) and the request is non-specific (i.e., not something like, "Do you know where the 24 Hour Fitness is around here?"), there's a better chance she wants to meet you. If you're not sure, just ask her something else - and see if she's happy to chat (it's an approach invitation), or acts like it's funny you want to talk to her when all she wanted was information (it wasn't an approach invitation).
8.The Glance.Any of the above,followed by a glance at you, then looking away and smiling to herself, is a blaringly loud approach invitation. About as loud as it gets. Approach immediately... don't even bother trying to look smooth; it's not necessary. She didn't bother either.
1.. The internet holla.As a man, I find this approach cool. When a girl musters up some courage to inbox you, tweet or Whatsapp you, it means a lot. Social media has become a common place for people to hook up nowadays. Contrary to popular belief there’s no problem with hooking up on the internet really. You just have to be smart and careful and you’ll meet a lot of awesome people who are just a click away.Many women have a guy on social media that they admire but are too afraid to approach the guy they admire but are too afraid to approach the guy.In life you should have the courage to take what you believe should be yours or else someone else will take it as you watch. .Some women will go ahead to start a conversation with you via inbox but she won’t really tell you how she feels. She’ll show interest in you then pass the ball to you. Where things go from there is up to you.
2.The Plant.Perhaps the most obvious approach invitation, although not without its own challenges. A girl goes to where you are - seated at the bar, leaning against a wall, in a specific aisle in the bookstore or clothing store, waiting for a matatu - and plants herself right nearby you, always within peripheral vision eyeshot. Sounds great, right? Well, there are a couple of downsides:*.Sometimes a girl will plant herself a little too far away, meaning you need to move to talk to her. That's okay if it's easy enough to slide a few feet next to her, but if it's an obvious plant but she's farther than a few feet, you're still going to have to close a distance to open*.If you fail to strike up a conversation with her within the first minute or two, she'll often still be there for a while (after all, she's planted herself there), but it can get awkward - you know why she's there, and she knows you know why she's there, but neither of you say anything... this is embarrassing to her; it's like being rejected, then awkwardly hanging around the person who rejected you.For those reasons, if you like a girl, and she plants herself near you,make sure to start a conversation within 120 seconds of her doing so(faster or slower depending on the girl .
3.The Hover.You'll see this one most often with inexperienced girls, who are used to inexperienced men, who tend to be pretty oblivious to women's signals and need those women to be as LOUD with their signaling as humanly possible, though you'll also sometimes see it with a highly sexual woman who simply doesn't want to waste time with playing coy. The Hover is when a woman walks over to where you are... then just hovers there, staring in your direction. Girls who do this are making it obvious for you; all you've got to do is turn their direction,smile warmly, and say, "Hello."
4.The Linger.Quick - think fast! The Linger is the briefest of approach invitations - and also the hardest to capitalize on. Girls using lingering as an A.I. often give you too little time to react, unless you're good. These tend to be moderately experienced women,who feel too obvious doing the Hover, so instead try to rush through their approach invitations as quickly as possible - usually, too quickly. A girl will walk over to where you are...pause, for anywhere from half a second to three seconds... and then continue walking on, as if nothing had happened.Because she's in a, "Okay, let's do this and then get out of there if he doesn't do anything," mindset, if your opener is anything other than smooth, she'll play dumb and keep going, too. This one's often hard to differentiate between a girl who legitimately did just happen to pause as she was walking past you - use context to figure it out, or just open every girl who does this if you want to err on the side of false positives instead of false negatives.
5.The Look About.Similar to a Linger, but with a duration more akin to a Hover, the Look About is when a girl walks over to right near where you are, then... glances about, confusedly, as if wondering where that thing she was looking for could possibly have gone. You will see this one most often in day game, and when meeting women in shops and stores. A girl will invariably react "pleasantly surprised" on your approach, and if she's interested, will show that interest right away. If your approach rubbed her the wrong way / she realizes you're not as cute as she thought from a distance (or, if she genuinely WAS just there by chance and happened to be confused), she'll be nice / polite, and get back to looking for whatever she was supposedly looking for.
6.Mutters and Sighs.Ever have a girl walk up next to you and mutter to herself, "God, this mat is taking forever!" or, "Oh my God... what a day!" Or maybe she just sighs -hufffff. Usually feel like you're supposed to say something here, right?That's for good reason- people usually only do this when they want someone to engage them in conversation. So - engage!
7.Requests for Help.Girls who want to talk to you will often ask for help:*."Can you take our picture?"*."Do you know what time it is?"How do you know if it's a genuine request (i.e., she's really just looking for information) or it's just an excuse to get you to talk to her? There're no hard and fast rules, unfortunately, but some rough guidelines include if she's giving you signals of interest (her voice is softer / less matter-of-fact; she's smiling an interested-in-you type of smile) and the request is non-specific (i.e., not something like, "Do you know where the 24 Hour Fitness is around here?"), there's a better chance she wants to meet you. If you're not sure, just ask her something else - and see if she's happy to chat (it's an approach invitation), or acts like it's funny you want to talk to her when all she wanted was information (it wasn't an approach invitation).
8.The Glance.Any of the above,followed by a glance at you, then looking away and smiling to herself, is a blaringly loud approach invitation. About as loud as it gets. Approach immediately... don't even bother trying to look smooth; it's not necessary. She didn't bother either.
