OOGABOOGA
Check the weather & it’s gettin real sussy outside
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At no point have I ever felt like a guy with options. Grew up ugly/normie with a social life. Lost my social life after hs and ascended to chadlite but still no social life. Not in college. Not on social media. I live in a big ass city so hella competition.
There’s the pressure to be “toxic” and “alpha” or whatever and just use girls for sex and make them chase you. But no girl has ever chased me. I’ve never had multiple girls in my phone trying to get me to fuck them. I get laid now and then but since I’ve been so deficient in sex and female attention I spend too much time with them, try to see and fuck them too often, talk to them too much and give too much attention. Even when I pulled them first night off a dating app because they wanted to fuck an attractive guy I get hooked on that rare validation and sex and end up basically chasing them and acting like I want to date them.
So typically my hookups escalate quickly into fwbs, then to a bit more than that, then they fall apart bc there was too much time/emotional investment bc the girl just wanted a hot guy to hookup with or be casual fuckbuddies with. They want me to be the casual, toxic, no feelings fuckbuddy. But to become that I need options, but my lack of options prevents me from acting like that, i fuck up the dynamic, it falls apart, and I lose what could’ve been an option going forward.
How do I not give a fuck and be the toxic guy who just wants to fuck and be casual when I’m barely horny and I’m so starved of validation that I willingly spend more time with them and lack that sexual aggression and dgaf attitude?
There’s the pressure to be “toxic” and “alpha” or whatever and just use girls for sex and make them chase you. But no girl has ever chased me. I’ve never had multiple girls in my phone trying to get me to fuck them. I get laid now and then but since I’ve been so deficient in sex and female attention I spend too much time with them, try to see and fuck them too often, talk to them too much and give too much attention. Even when I pulled them first night off a dating app because they wanted to fuck an attractive guy I get hooked on that rare validation and sex and end up basically chasing them and acting like I want to date them.
So typically my hookups escalate quickly into fwbs, then to a bit more than that, then they fall apart bc there was too much time/emotional investment bc the girl just wanted a hot guy to hookup with or be casual fuckbuddies with. They want me to be the casual, toxic, no feelings fuckbuddy. But to become that I need options, but my lack of options prevents me from acting like that, i fuck up the dynamic, it falls apart, and I lose what could’ve been an option going forward.
How do I not give a fuck and be the toxic guy who just wants to fuck and be casual when I’m barely horny and I’m so starved of validation that I willingly spend more time with them and lack that sexual aggression and dgaf attitude?
