Accepting your uglyness.

[Deleted member 10699]

I'm going to therapy, because of my low self steem, self hate, depression, etc. I told my therapist about the negative feedback I've been receiving over the years because of my looks. She tried to disregard everything I told her by saying that these comments behind my back weren't about me (which is just not true), by saying that I'm normal (something that people, specially girls, doesn't agree with), and etc., etc., etc.

Is therapy just mental cope? I want to have self-love, and to stop being an insecure piece of shit, but I want to stop receiving negative feedback on my looks.

I even get anxiety attacks when thinking about these experiences, because I feel worthless, sad, angry and really weird, because I feel that their hate towards me is justified because of my extremely shy behaviour.

I was even banned in a Discord server for complaining too much about these issues. They told me to "accept being ugly, because if you live in constant denial, you'll never grow", to which I said that I preffer to die than accepting that almost everyone is better looking than me, and that I'm going to get surgery.

Then, everyone complained about my bitter personality. I'll never accept being ugly, but I want to know why I'm getting called ugly, so I can know what surgeries should I get.

Accepting uglyness is the key of unhappyness, since I don't know any non NT person who is ugly and happy. Ugly NT people can be saved by their personality (kinda bluepilled, I know). I want to know what's my worth and how to get over the suicidal and homicidal thoughts.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

The day I'll accept my uglyness I'll lose my will to live, because I won't have any kind of confidence or of value in my environment.

 

[Deleted member 4612]

I told my therapist about the negative feedback I've been receiving over the years because of my looks.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

I'm even doing bad in school because of this, and I don't see a clear future. Once I'll lose my actual friends, I'll end up completely isolated from the world.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

The thing is that when I told her about my flaws, she was legit angry because she couldn't see them. She thinks that I have BDD.

 

[Deleted member 4612]

The thing is that when I told her about my flaws, she was legit angry because she couldn't see them. She thinks that I have BDD.

no idea what you look like. i mean if you have autism like you say then it could indeed be your social awkward tendencies. i dont know what girls said behind your back

 

[Deleted member 6475]

you arent ugly

 

[StrangerDanger]

People will not mock you unless you look comical/deformed or act weird. You aren't ugly at all so your negative experiences is most likely due to your behaviour being creepy

 

[Deleted member 10699]

no idea what you look like. i mean if you have autism like you say then it could indeed be your social awkward tendencies. i dont know what girls said behind your back

That my personality is shit (without knowing me, they just see m being very shy and submisive), that I'm ugly, etc.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

People will not mock you unless you look comical/deformed or act weird. You aren't ugly at all so your negative experiences is most likely due to your behaviour being creepy

My behaviour is just extremely shy, submisive and uncomfident.

 

[Deleted member 4562]

ive rated you before, you're literally dead center of the scale, normie, maybe high-tier normie after looksmaxxing, the problem is you have severe autism and BDD and don't want to take the necessary steps and find it easier to rot on an incel forum

 

[Deleted member 4612]

looksmax and hit the gym OP, maybe even get a rhino

 

[Deleted member 10699]

ive rated you before, you're literally dead center of the scale, normie, maybe high-tier normie after looksmaxxing, the problem is you have severe autism and BDD and don't want to take the necessary steps and find it easier to rot on an incel forum

I'm softmaxxing, right now. But it doesn't make any sense, since I won't be happy if I get to HTN (my goal).

 

[Deleted member 10699]

looksmax and hit the gym OP, maybe even get a rhino

I'll never get a rhino, but a lip lift.

 

[Deleted member 4612]

I'll never get a rhino, but a lip lift.

ok then do that

 

[AutismMaxing]

I'm going to therapy, because of my low self steem, self hate, depression, etc. I told my therapist about the negative feedback I've been receiving over the years because of my looks. She tried to disregard everything I told her by saying that these comments behind my back weren't about me (which is just not true), by saying that I'm normal (something that people, specially girls, doesn't agree with), and etc., etc., etc.

Is therapy just mental cope? I want to have self-love, and to stop being an insecure piece of shit, but I want to stop receiving negative feedback on my looks.

I even get anxiety attacks when thinking about these experiences, because I feel worthless, sad, angry and really weird, because I feel that their hate towards me is justified because of my extremely shy behaviour.

I was even banned in a Discord server for complaining too much about these issues. They told me to "accept being ugly, because if you live in constant denial, you'll never grow", to which I said that I preffer to die than accepting that almost everyone is better looking than me, and that I'm going to get surgery.

Then, everyone complained about my bitter personality. I'll never accept being ugly, but I want to know why I'm getting called ugly, so I can know what surgeries should I get.

Accepting uglyness is the key of unhappyness, since I don't know any non NT person who is ugly and happy. Ugly NT people can be saved by their personality (kinda bluepilled, I know). I want to know what's my worth and how to get over the suicidal and homicidal thoughts.

As an ugly man here is my advice:

1) Accept you are CURRENTLY ugly- look in the mirror. take pictures of yourself from different angles with harsh lighting (don't try to fraud). And accept that's who you are.
2) Looks Max -- being less ugly will still make your life more enjoyable even if you are still ugly. Guy's with ugly faces and good bodies are usually respected somewhat, and it sounds like you are going to do surgery as well so keep going with all of it.
3) Gymcel - It's better to be an ugly person that people don't fuck with than an ugly person that they do


As far as "What's your worth", no one has any more worth than any one else. Some people are doing better and some people are doing worse in life than you. Focusing on the people doing worse in life such as older homeless people may make you feel better.

 

[Vibez]

Therapists like a fair amount of doctors are pretty shit. You gotta look for the more intuitive types people that work outside of their own institution or "by the book".
The best people ive known skillwise in their work are the quirky rebellious types. Those are the people you want to search if you want real wisdom.