Am I an incel or a volcel?

[MakinItHappenReturn]

quote by Nietzsche, "it is not that women don't want to have sex with you. It is you don't find yourself attractive."

I think this has to be true for any user who frequents sites like these where they desire perfection because they don't believe that they are good enough. perfect is the enemy of good.

To have sex as a man you have to fundamentally consider yourself an attractive person in some regard. The act of seducing a women in a forthright way has to come with the belief that you aren't being cringe in the act.

It's like someone who thinks that they are a bad dancer, preventing them from ever being good. they cannot fathom being perceived as a good dancer and have a horrid image in their head of what they look like. as a result, they never get better and always look terrible because they are filled with awkwardness and inhibition.

But if you have seen a good dancer, which i have and it really is something to behold. Every movement feels deliberate and their and unity and grace to their bodies. it helps if they are also attractive but it makes them look amazing. They aren't fixated on how they look that much because they don't care, and are simply listening to the music and allowing their bodies to follow the rhythm. they are listening to instinct.

this is similar to the act of sex, or just being a confident person in general. hesitation, awkwardness, and high inhibition creates an unattractive aura. the feeling of awkwardness isn't a comfortable feeling to have and makes people want to escape. liquor allows you to let go of the inhibition, but you lose too much control.

this is as far as i will take this essay.

The OP is a cute guy to JBs so you are wrong in his context, otherwise yes you are correct.

The problem with the OP is he recognises his height as a problem and so worked around it growing up as being super NT and pretty much becoming an entire people pleaser.

Since he was cute to JBs facially and had 'popularity' and 'people skills' from all the habits of being people NT pleaser, he was able to get a 4/10 girlfriend and he's had regularly made out with chicks. He just never got around to sex before he broke up with a girl. Whether that was because of him or her we do not know, but he seems like such a people pleaser that I wouldn't be surprised to know he didn't make any move at all for not wanting to 'upset' her.

Now you can attribute that to her not giving him subliminal signs of wanting sex or whatever incel black pill cope you have, but the truth is we just don't know.

You cannot categorise every woman the same, esp if she is 3-4/10 - inb4 some random incel chops in with the meme that any normie can get a subhuman 'foid'

 

[darkness97]

The OP is a cute guy to JBs so you are wrong in his context, otherwise yes you are correct.

The problem with the OP is he recognises his height as a problem and so worked around it growing up as being super NT and pretty much becoming an entire people pleaser.

Since he was cute to JBs facially and had 'popularity' and 'people skills' from all the habits of being people NT pleaser, he was able to get a 4/10 girlfriend and he's had regularly made out with chicks. He just never got around to sex before he broke up with a girl. Whether that was because of him or her we do not know, but he seems like such a people pleaser that I wouldn't be surprised to know he didn't make any move at all for not wanting to 'upset' her.

Now you can attribute that to her not giving him subliminal signs of wanting sex or whatever incel black pill cope you have, but the truth is we just don't know.

You cannot categorise every woman the same, esp if she is 3-4/10 - inb4 some random incel chops in with the meme that any normie can get a subhuman 'foid'

I don't know what the fuck you were smoking to write this kind of reply. there is very little in this response that has anything to do with what I had written. i pretty much just wrote just be confident and you wrote this madness. i have nothing to say to this.