Am i the only one who just can't socialize in a group?

[Shotgun]

Had today my 1st day of school and it was fucking over

I can function 1v1 with people and in small groups of 4 but when the group is like 8 my head just completely shutdown.

What to say when you are not funny? They already good friends? And they just make jokes only friends could make at eachother?

 

[The_God]

don't ask yourself so many questions, that's worse. just chill bro.
You only feel that way, because in groups of 1 to 1 you feel more comfortable.

 

[Gengar]

DEPRESSIEF KANKER KIND​

 

[Danish_Retard]

jfl I can barely hold a convo 1v1 but I do good in groups. You just gotta joke around, don't be afraid to say something even if you aren't the funniest person.
You can train your comedic timing and wit by watching comedy shows and shit like that. Also if you know the guys you can just rely on inside jokes if you aren't funny.

Also if you're like me and have no life outside of school and work just make funny stories up, nobody ever questions shit. Especially if it's not important.

 

[metagross]

Same. It's the same reason I don't like going to partys. Too much stuff going on at the same time. Too loud, too crowdy.

I hate large social gatherings.

 

[Gengar]

DEPRESSIEF KANKER KIND​

wat is er trouwens gebeurd bro

 

[Shotgun]

DEPRESSIEF KANKER KIND​

wat is er trouwens gebeurd bro

Wat bedoel je precies broeder?

 

[Gengar]

Wat bedoel je precies broeder?

ik bedoelde wat is er gebeurd op school bro, waarom ga je ervan uit dat je niet kan socializeren? hoe het ook klinkt, je moet gewoon jezelf zijn. als je niet grappig van nature bent moet je niet expres grapjes maken. als je op het hbo zit dan kent niemand elkaar en dan kun je elkaar gewoon leren kennen. als je op de middelbare school zit is het natuurlijk een ander verhaal, maar ik ga ervan uit dat je op het hbo zit nu of uni tenminste?

 

[Shotgun]

jfl I can barely hold a convo 1v1 but I do good in groups. You just gotta joke around, don't be afraid to say something even if you aren't the funniest person.
You can train your comedic timing and wit by watching comedy shows and shit like that. Also if you know the guys you can just rely on inside jokes if you aren't funny.

Also if you're like me and have no life outside of school and work just make funny stories up, nobody ever questions shit. Especially if it's not important.

They all lowkey hate me bro i can just feel it. I known them for maybe 2 years but i have almost nothing in common while they are this really tight friend group Like they do not even tell eachother stories but only joke to eachother 24/7 in what i cannot really join in

But thank you for your advice!

 

[Danish_Retard]

They all lowkey hate me bro i can just feel it. I known them for maybe 2 years but i have almost nothing in common while they are this really tight friend group Like they do not even tell eachother stories but only joke to eachother 24/7 in what i cannot really join in

But thank you for your advice!

leave that friend group. It really isn't worth it. Trust me.

I've been with a similar group back when I was morbidly obese. Them talking about parties I wasn't even invited to was suifuel. Seriously not worth it bro, try to find some other people to hang out with.
I eventually got kinda close with some of them, but really not worth it.

 

[Deleted member 6403]

high serotonin

 

[Deleted member 13137]

I was homeschooled and I’m more NT than half this forum IT’S OVER

 

[Shotgun]

I was homeschooled and I’m more NT than half this forum IT’S OVER

What is your PSL and age?

 

[Deleted member 13137]

What is your PSL and age?

Psl4, 20

 

[Shotgun]

high serotonin

Elab

leave that friend group. It really isn't worth it. Trust me.

I've been with a similar group back when I was morbidly obese. Them talking about parties I wasn't even invited to was suifuel. Seriously not worth it bro, try to find some other people to hang out with.
I eventually got kinda close with some of them, but really not worth it.

I was never really part in it but that is so fucking rough man because they did that also to me on multiple occasions

Yeah that is the plan buddy boyo but i feel like everyone already has a friend group while i will be a loner forever when my last friendgroup also ditched me completely

 

[Deleted member 12669]

I had to enrol at a new school today, I start next week properly. I really wanna make friends but I think im gonna mess it up

 

[Danish_Retard]

Elab

I was never really part in it but that is so fucking rough man because they did that also to me on multiple occasions

Yeah that is the plan buddy boyo but i feel like everyone already has a friend group while i will be a loner forever when my last friendgroup also ditched me completely

It gets better with time tbh.
Your social skills can be practised. If you're introverted with 0 social status it will be 10x harder to practise them.

But almost anyone that doesn't have mental illness will be able to become at least slightly charismatic from working hard on social skills.

This guide is slightly bluepilled and not really for our age group but it has a lot of very good information

Succeed Socially.com | Free Social Skills Guide For Adults

A completely free guide on how to improve social skills for adults, written by a former shy, awkward guy

www.succeedsocially.com

This book on body language is also very good

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When you have read both of these you'll know roughly how to practice your social skills. Then all that is left is practising them.


Personally, It got better for me and I've become a lot better socially. I can't really compare though because I was 110kg morbidly obese before (183cm) and I am like 90kg right now which is still obese but halo effect might have had a small effect on it.

 

[Shotgun]

It gets better with time tbh.
Your social skills can be practised. If you're introverted with 0 social status it will be 10x harder to practise them.

But almost anyone that doesn't have mental illness will be able to become at least slightly charismatic from working hard on social skills.

This guide is slightly bluepilled and not really for our age group but it has a lot of very good information

Succeed Socially.com | Free Social Skills Guide For Adults

A completely free guide on how to improve social skills for adults, written by a former shy, awkward guy

www.succeedsocially.com

This book on body language is also very good

Z-Library single sign on

Z-Library single sign on | Z-Library. Download books for free. Find books

dk1lib.org

When you have read both of these you'll know roughly how to practice your social skills. Then all that is left is practising them.


Personally, It got better for me and I've become a lot better socially. I can't really compare though because I was 110kg morbidly obese before (183cm) and I am like 90kg right now which is still obese but halo effect might have had a small effect on it.

Thank you bruv Will definetely read those!