Any cope advice

[Anatole]

Do you have any good activity similar to going on walks I could utilize to cope with the fact that I rot all day

 

[Sceptical]

idk im running out of things to cope with too

 

[incelincel]

benzos

 

[fantamaxxer]

suicide

 

[Anatole]

suicide

Now that you say it

 

[fantamaxxer]

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[Sycophant]

The solution to LDAR is routine.

- personally, having an immediate set of things I need to do in the morning provides me with some autonomous actions to get me in a productive mood.

- making decisions in the morning when youre not in the mood for it is very taxing - I find just setting a routine that achieves the absolute minimum of what I need done to leave the house best. You can stream line this by eating the same food each day, and organizing chores that dont need to be completed daily on particular days/or set intervals.

- ultimately, brushing your teeth isnt innately rewarding, neither is cooking food or any other bare minimum tasks. So to cope I found doing them mindlessly preserves how much reward I garner from doing actual productive things outside of this routine.

To achieve something new, depends entirely on your situation.
- If youre dependent on your parents for transportation, or live by yourself - the answer will vary.

- The core focus is to spend less time on your phone consuming instagram/tiktok slop - as this is a synthetic overloading of dopamine that allows you to rot, whilst still gaining a sense of accomplishment.

- bare minimum extra curricular activity I would suggest is the gym (entirely dependent on your living situation, tied with your transportation situation) - make an effort to visit the gym.

- if you have any spontaneous bursts of energy, utilize them. I found when am in a particularly good mood - Id make an effort to run the the gym, clean my place, or make a decent meal/meal prep.

To achieve something in particular.
- @Luuk has a very good guide on achieving your goals, and controlling agency. He suggests that you can assist with achieving your goals by physically manifesting your ideas.

1. Anecdotally I found writing lists of things I needed doing with a checkbox drew a very clear correlation between doing something and feeling a sense of accomplishment.
2. Daily I write out things in the shower screen in short hand. This way a I find a theoretical concept in my mind can be transferred to something I can do physically. It actively assists with my sense of identity because its a constant reinforcement of my ideology.
3. Diary. In a similar sense to the one above, sometimes I need to make conceptual thoughts in my head into something physical that I can have some malleable control over. This diary is digital, and just contains random rants about particular things I feel - and it lets me see how I feel at any given moment, and compare it to how I think I should be feeling in the written text on the screen. This method is particularly useful if you can independently type how you should be feeling and compare it to how you are currently feeling - and draw conclusions from that.

benzos

- using something external to synthesize a false sense of homeostasis will only further exasperate the existing core issue.

suicide

- sunk cost fallacy, realistically you only gain more agency from here.

idk im running out of things to cope with too

- consider above, lmk if you draw any useful conclusions.



@Askinov @buccalfatremoval @tgun564636 @7nclave
- let me know if ive missed any advice.

- also op, besure to click the rep button on me and other users in this thread

 

[Anatole]

The solution to LDAR is routine.

- personally, having an immediate set of things I need to do in the morning provides me with some autonomous actions to get me in a productive mood.

- making decisions in the morning when youre not in the mood for it is very taxing - I find just setting a routine that achieves the absolute minimum of what I need done to leave the house best. You can stream line this by eating the same food each day, and organizing chores that dont need to be completed daily on particular days/or set intervals.

- ultimately, brushing your teeth isnt innately rewarding, neither is cooking food or any other bare minimum tasks. So to cope I found doing them mindlessly preserves how much reward I garner from doing actual productive things outside of this routine.

To achieve something new, depends entirely on your situation.
- If youre dependent on your parents for transportation, or live by yourself - the answer will vary.

- The core focus is to spend less time on your phone consuming instagram/tiktok slop - as this is a synthetic overloading of dopamine that allows you to rot, whilst still gaining a sense of accomplishment.

- bare minimum extra curricular activity I would suggest is the gym (entirely dependent on your living situation, tied with your transportation situation) - make an effort to visit the gym.

- if you have any spontaneous bursts of energy, utilize them. I found when am in a particularly good mood - Id make an effort to run the the gym, clean my place, or make a decent meal/meal prep.

To achieve something in particular.
- @Luuk has a very good guide on achieving your goals, and controlling agency. He suggests that you can assist with achieving your goals by physically manifesting your ideas.

1. Anecdotally I found writing lists of things I needed doing with a checkbox drew a very clear correlation between doing something and feeling a sense of accomplishment.
2. Daily I write out things in the shower screen in short hand. This way a I find a theoretical concept in my mind can be transferred to something I can do physically. It actively assists with my sense of identity because its a constant reinforcement of my ideology.
3. Diary. In a similar sense to the one above, sometimes I need to make conceptual thoughts in my head into something physical that I can have some malleable control over. This diary is digital, and just contains random rants about particular things I feel - and it lets me see how I feel at any given moment, and compare it to how I think I should be feeling in the written text on the screen. This method is particularly useful if you can independently type how you should be feeling and compare it to how you are currently feeling - and draw conclusions from that.




- using something external to synthesize a false sense of homeostasis will only further exasperate the existing core issue.


- sunk cost fallacy, realistically you only gain more agency from here.


- consider above, lmk if you draw any useful conclusions.



@Askinov @buccalfatremoval @tgun564636 @7nclave
- let me know if ive missed any advice.

- also op, besure to click the rep button on me and other users in this thread

Mirin the time you took to wrote this, thank you for that.

 

[Prøphet]

Learn an instrument, it’s a fun cope for me

Sometimes the boredom is a good thing, turns into motivation you can channel into overcoming your situation

Throw your phone at the wall hard