Any other oldcels getting the internal dread of being behind in life?

[vigor]

Just saw an ig real of a guy at my uni who now owns a real estate company. I see these kinds of things every so often, priviledged private school kids getting capital injections from their parents to start companies. Mind you we’re all 20. My friend just bought a mercedes. On the cheaper side, but still a beautiful car which he saved up for whilst working retail alongside his uni studies.

And here’s me who has never had a lasting, serious romantic relationship. Never had a job (i’m at university, parents never pushed me to get one before and pay for my maintenance, i’m getting my first job in a few weeks so i can earn my keep). Not got my driving license yet (currently impractical and pointless for me to drive but it still feels embarassing to have a provisional license). I still waste so many of my days rotting, I have little to no extracurriculars or personal projects.
At 19 I could still say that I was basically still a kid, still figuring out how to be an adult. But 20 feels different, at 20 some people have kids, some people have already got rich, some people have already found their soulmate. 20 is an adult.

I always got by in school by being naturally smart but I’ve never had the executive function, the initiative and work ethic to thrive on my own. Grades crashed and burned first year of uni and just got an adhd diagnosis which makes so much of my life make sense.

My whole childhood I was touted as a genius with a bright future but I’ve failed to live up to any of that potential. I’m not doing bad, I’m studying engineering at a high ranked uni. But the job market is terrifyingly difficult and even then I’d feel like I’ve wasted my potential if all I get out of this is a generic above average paying 9-5..

 

[vigor]

up

 

[vigor]

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[Whatever]

I’m 32, I’m very developed and experienced in some ways but very “behind” in others, we’re all on our own timelines. I know that sounds like cope but it really isn’t, age is arbitrary, life isn’t.

If you want kids then you wanna be making serious progress towards that by your late 20s, if not then age is just a number, doesn’t matter at all.

 

[truecel9]

Just saw an ig real of a guy at my uni who now owns a real estate company. I see these kinds of things every so often, priviledged private school kids getting capital injections from their parents to start companies. Mind you we’re all 20. My friend just bought a mercedes. On the cheaper side, but still a beautiful car which he saved up for whilst working retail alongside his uni studies.

And here’s me who has never had a lasting, serious romantic relationship. Never had a job (i’m at university, parents never pushed me to get one before and pay for my maintenance, i’m getting my first job in a few weeks so i can earn my keep). Not got my driving license yet (currently impractical and pointless for me to drive but it still feels embarassing to have a provisional license). I still waste so many of my days rotting, I have little to no extracurriculars or personal projects.
At 19 I could still say that I was basically still a kid, still figuring out how to be an adult. But 20 feels different, at 20 some people have kids, some people have already got rich, some people have already found their soulmate. 20 is an adult.

I always got by in school by being naturally smart but I’ve never had the executive function, the initiative and work ethic to thrive on my own. Grades crashed and burned first year of uni and just got an adhd diagnosis which makes so much of my life make sense.

My whole childhood I was touted as a genius with a bright future but I’ve failed to live up to any of that potential. I’m not doing bad, I’m studying engineering at a high ranked uni. But the job market is terrifyingly difficult and even then I’d feel like I’ve wasted my potential if all I get out of this is a generic above average paying 9-5..

It will all work out unc

 

[Big Boss]

Im 21 and it doesnt get better, unless you forcibly change your reality.

 

[vigor]

I’m 32, I’m very developed and experienced in some ways but very “behind” in others, we’re all on our own timelines. I know that sounds like cope but it really isn’t, age is arbitrary, life isn’t.

If you want kids then you wanna be making serious progress towards that by your late 20s, if not then age is just a number, doesn’t matter at all.

The problem is that its so much harder to get your foot in the door the older you are

A 16yo getting their first job will be afforded leniency for having no experience. A 22yo will be considered a failure to launch, unemployable.
A 14yo getting his first girlfriend without prior experience is teen love. A 24 year old doing so is a red flag, an undateable manchild

And yeah I do want kids, and a family, and a place of my own and enough money to do what I want in life. But I can’t help but fear that I’m never going to get that. Maybe I’m not stable and NT enough to hold down a job, a lasting relationship, a position of responsibility. If I got stuck in the rut of prolonged NEETdom and long term loneliness I’d just rope or worse. Growing up with massive expectations placed on me just made me unable to cope with the prospect of mediocrity.

The slow, gradual backsliding of my own parents ambitions for me is the most depressing part. From “get into oxford and earn millions” to “get a 1st in your degree and get a prestigious job” to “pass this year and earn a living when you graduate and keep your mental health stable”. And the growing sadness in my mother’s eyes when I have nothing to report on the topic of relationships yet again. They worry for me

 

[AestheticsHell]

Try spending the 5 years that follow your HS grad rotting and restarting your life at 23 with a brain half atrophied from totally cutting yourself off from society.

 

[Jgns]

Just saw an ig real of a guy at my uni who now owns a real estate company. I see these kinds of things every so often, priviledged private school kids getting capital injections from their parents to start companies. Mind you we’re all 20. My friend just bought a mercedes. On the cheaper side, but still a beautiful car which he saved up for whilst working retail alongside his uni studies.

And here’s me who has never had a lasting, serious romantic relationship. Never had a job (i’m at university, parents never pushed me to get one before and pay for my maintenance, i’m getting my first job in a few weeks so i can earn my keep). Not got my driving license yet (currently impractical and pointless for me to drive but it still feels embarassing to have a provisional license). I still waste so many of my days rotting, I have little to no extracurriculars or personal projects.
At 19 I could still say that I was basically still a kid, still figuring out how to be an adult. But 20 feels different, at 20 some people have kids, some people have already got rich, some people have already found their soulmate. 20 is an adult.

I always got by in school by being naturally smart but I’ve never had the executive function, the initiative and work ethic to thrive on my own. Grades crashed and burned first year of uni and just got an adhd diagnosis which makes so much of my life make sense.

My whole childhood I was touted as a genius with a bright future but I’ve failed to live up to any of that potential. I’m not doing bad, I’m studying engineering at a high ranked uni. But the job market is terrifyingly difficult and even then I’d feel like I’ve wasted my potential if all I get out of this is a generic above average paying 9-5..

Dude holy shit everything u wrote is exactly what I’m going through rn too and were the same age jfl. I rlly don’t know how to cope ig im coping by hardmaxxing soon and like making good money but this feeling of having lost years (i lost these past 3 years due to medical and mental issues and my frades first year tanked hard due to that). Currently out of uni i’ll be back next year maybe even at 22 and i have 0 idea of how to cope cause like, nothing could have gone differently yet i grieve the time lost since it was lost to just sickness

 

[Whatever]

The problem is that its so much harder to get your foot in the door the older you are

A 16yo getting their first job will be afforded leniency for having no experience. A 22yo will be considered a failure to launch, unemployable.
A 14yo getting his first girlfriend without prior experience is teen love. A 24 year old doing so is a red flag, an undateable manchild

And yeah I do want kids, and a family, and a place of my own and enough money to do what I want in life. But I can’t help but fear that I’m never going to get that. Maybe I’m not stable and NT enough to hold down a job, a lasting relationship, a position of responsibility. If I got stuck in the rut of prolonged NEETdom and long term loneliness I’d just rope or worse. Growing up with massive expectations placed on me just made me unable to cope with the prospect of mediocrity.

The slow, gradual backsliding of my own parents ambitions for me is the most depressing part. From “get into oxford and earn millions” to “get a 1st in your degree and get a prestigious job” to “pass this year and earn a living when you graduate and keep your mental health stable”. And the growing sadness in my mother’s eyes when I have nothing to report on the topic of relationships yet again. They worry for me

Don’t worry about being “NT enough” and shit like that. There’s plenty of people you wouldn’t call NT working all kinds of different jobs and also in relationships. Just worry about finding opportunities and jumping on them, and then you do what you have to make it work once you’re in. If college and degree related career paths aren’t opening up for you, then consider the trades. People start trade careers well into their 20s, 30s, even older.

 

[karmacitathugmaxx]

lmao bruh i came in here 2 relate but u aint seen NUN yet

 

[Truebloatcel]

Just saw an ig real of a guy at my uni who now owns a real estate company. I see these kinds of things every so often, priviledged private school kids getting capital injections from their parents to start companies. Mind you we’re all 20. My friend just bought a mercedes. On the cheaper side, but still a beautiful car which he saved up for whilst working retail alongside his uni studies.

And here’s me who has never had a lasting, serious romantic relationship. Never had a job (i’m at university, parents never pushed me to get one before and pay for my maintenance, i’m getting my first job in a few weeks so i can earn my keep). Not got my driving license yet (currently impractical and pointless for me to drive but it still feels embarassing to have a provisional license). I still waste so many of my days rotting, I have little to no extracurriculars or personal projects.
At 19 I could still say that I was basically still a kid, still figuring out how to be an adult. But 20 feels different, at 20 some people have kids, some people have already got rich, some people have already found their soulmate. 20 is an adult.

I always got by in school by being naturally smart but I’ve never had the executive function, the initiative and work ethic to thrive on my own. Grades crashed and burned first year of uni and just got an adhd diagnosis which makes so much of my life make sense.

My whole childhood I was touted as a genius with a bright future but I’ve failed to live up to any of that potential. I’m not doing bad, I’m studying engineering at a high ranked uni. But the job market is terrifyingly difficult and even then I’d feel like I’ve wasted my potential if all I get out of this is a generic above average paying 9-5..

Not as old but I can understand u very well, money has so much pressure and worth in this life it’s super depressing, I’m very disappointed at myself for being broke and not having anything going for myself

 

[Jgns]

The problem is that its so much harder to get your foot in the door the older you are

A 16yo getting their first job will be afforded leniency for having no experience. A 22yo will be considered a failure to launch, unemployable.
A 14yo getting his first girlfriend without prior experience is teen love. A 24 year old doing so is a red flag, an undateable manchild

And yeah I do want kids, and a family, and a place of my own and enough money to do what I want in life. But I can’t help but fear that I’m never going to get that. Maybe I’m not stable and NT enough to hold down a job, a lasting relationship, a position of responsibility. If I got stuck in the rut of prolonged NEETdom and long term loneliness I’d just rope or worse. Growing up with massive expectations placed on me just made me unable to cope with the prospect of mediocrity.

The slow, gradual backsliding of my own parents ambitions for me is the most depressing part. From “get into oxford and earn millions” to “get a 1st in your degree and get a prestigious job” to “pass this year and earn a living when you graduate and keep your mental health stable”. And the growing sadness in my mother’s eyes when I have nothing to report on the topic of relationships yet again. They worry for me

Yeah exactly that dude the backsliding is the hardest part. I’m tryna become a doctor here in canada but i messed up my diest year due to health and i’ll be wayyy older when i get back. I’m insanely hardheaded tho so i’ll try till i crack my skull to become ➊ but fuck dude it fills me with such insane rage that i got fucked right out the gate. And as u said the expectations my parents and i placed onmyself don’t let me be content with mediocrity shit burns me alliiiiiiiiiivee

 

[ihatereddit]

Nigga 20 isn't oldcel

 

[vigor]

Dude holy shit everything u wrote is exactly what I’m going through rn too and were the same age jfl. I rlly don’t know how to cope ig im coping by hardmaxxing soon and like making good money but this feeling of having lost years (i lost these past 3 years due to medical and mental issues and my frades first year tanked hard due to that). Currently out of uni i’ll be back next year maybe even at 22 and i have 0 idea of how to cope cause like, nothing could have gone differently yet i grieve the time lost since it was lost to just sickness

Its brutal shit. I was a KHHV until 19 and I still grieve the fact that I never got to experience that innocent, naive teen love that everyone else got. And my teen years in general were spent rotting indoors. I’ve developed a disdain for videogames despite spending 1000s of hours of my teens playing them because I feel like they gave me the opportunity to waste my best years.

I feel nothing but bitterness hearing stories from those who had better childhoods than me. I just lie about everything about myself to my uni friends to sound more interesting and not like a total loser

Like I can turn my life around but I’ll never get the best years back

 

[vigor]

Nigga 20 isn't oldcel

avg user here is like 15 might as well be

 

[GoErOnFoids]

im 18 and scared

 

[vigor]

Don’t worry about being “NT enough” and shit like that. There’s plenty of people you wouldn’t call NT working all kinds of different jobs and also in relationships. Just worry about finding opportunities and jumping on them, and then you do what you have to make it work once you’re in. If college and degree related career paths aren’t opening up for you, then consider the trades. People start trade careers well into their 20s, 30s, even older.

I’d never make it in the trades jfl blue collar culture is not forgiving to a posh sounding cerebral sperg.

I’m not exactly worried about not getting a job in my field I’ve always been incredibly academically gifted. But just in a sperg way, the kind that can memorise an entire syllabus in a week but can’t sort his own life out. Only reason I’ve struggled is due to depression and major executive dysfunction. I still passed despite basically opening the course materials for the first time a week before my exams thats how bad it got. Hopefully the adhd meds help

I know some people like me end up alright but how many don’t? Have you seen the autistic male fertility rates? Facts are, I’m a high inhib , neurotic, borderline autist and so I’m going to struggle at initiating relationships, maintaining them and building a connection with anyone. I’m not even unattractive I have no difficulty getting hookups as long as I binge drink beforehand. But I could only fall in love with a very specific kind of woman who would probably destroy me

 

[Jgns]

Its brutal shit. I was a KHHV until 19 and I still grieve the fact that I never got to experience that innocent, naive teen love that everyone else got. And my teen years in general were spent rotting indoors. I’ve developed a disdain for videogames despite spending 1000s of hours of my teens playing them because I feel like they gave me the opportunity to waste my best years.

I feel nothing but bitterness hearing stories from those who had better childhoods than me. I just lie about everything about myself to my uni friends to sound more interesting and not like a total loser

Like I can turn my life around but I’ll never get the best years back

Fucking exactly dude, i was khhv till 18 but basically the same shit. Ive personally cut off everyone till i come back from my hardmaxxing trip, i refuse to take a step forward without being that dude ive always seen in my head but never been able to reach. It’s not even the teen love that i grieve dude it’s the feeling of just having no responsibilities like not having that insane pressure of having to be productive. Like the feeling of youth is escaping and i just cannot hold it and ive never really tasted it due to rotting inside with thousands of hours in games. I cannot wait till i ascend soon dude i’ll be outside doing smt every single fucking day

 

[vigor]

Fucking exactly dude, i was khhv till 18 but basically the same shit. Ive personally cut off everyone till i come back from my hardmaxxing trip, i refuse to take a step forward without being that dude ive always seen in my head but never been able to reach. It’s not even the teen love that i grieve dude it’s the feeling of just having no responsibilities like not having that insane pressure of having to be productive. Like the feeling of youth is escaping and i just cannot hold it and ive never really tasted it due to rotting inside with thousands of hours in games. I cannot wait till i ascend soon dude i’ll be outside doing smt every single fucking day

Good luck dude hope it works out and gets you the life you want
And I hope we can both eventually stop grieving the years we were robbed of
No idea if it ever gets better though

 

[Jgns]

Good luck dude hope it works out and gets you the life you want
And I hope we can both eventually stop grieving the years we were robbed of
No idea if it ever gets better though

Tysm dude, i hope it all changes for u aswell man. I completely get being insanely high inhib with major executive dysfunction shit sucks. My only cope other than ascension is hopping on an insanely aggressive anti-aging/youth indicator retaining stack so i could age really well in my 20s. Plus money, were both academically behind in life and it fucking burns but money would offset that yk. Like being a wealthier than average 5 figure per month 21 year old sounds relatively as young as a 18 year old going to collage if thwt makes sense, idk i havent slept I’m retarded rn

 

[vigor]

Tysm dude, i hope it all changes for u aswell man. I completely get being insanely high inhib with major executive dysfunction shit sucks. My only cope other than ascension is hopping on an insanely aggressive anti-aging/youth indicator retaining stack so i could age really well in my 20s. Plus money, were both academically behind in life and it fucking burns but money would offset that yk. Like being a wealthier than average 5 figure per month 21 year old sounds relatively as young as a 18 year old going to collage if thwt makes sense, idk i havent slept I’m retarded rn

yeah good strat, really hope i age well but my collagens already shit, my dad most certainly did not age well and i’m a low dimo prettyboy so im running against a clock here

at least there’s no balding in my family so hopefully the norwood reaper stays away

if i agepill in my 20s im just roidmaxxing until it kills me or makes me go ER

 

[Jgns]

yeah good strat, really hope i age well but my collagens already shit, my dad most certainly did not age well and i’m a low dimo prettyboy so im running against a clock here

at least there’s no balding in my family so hopefully the norwood reaper stays away

if i agepill in my 20s im just roidmaxxing until it kills me or makes me go ER

Orr u could hop on a crazy ass stack that has estrogen included (not that type just a cream for ur face) and like orher hard shit to hold onto ur youth. Most guys age like ass due to their lifestyle and habits. Btw collagen really only starts decreasing after 25 and it goes down by 1percent a year so irs most likely ur just not on the right shit yk. Baldings so brutal it’s a huge part of what fucked me over gettinf a forehead reduction then dense ht very soon to get a straightup nw0

 

[vigor]

Orr u could hop on a crazy ass stack that has estrogen included (not that type just a cream for ur face) and like orher hard shit to hold onto ur youth.

I’ll definitely work on improving my skincare when I’ve moneymaxxed a bit, I’ve heard of estradiol cream ik it works wonders. But you can’t hold onto your youth forever. I started going grey at THIRTEEN, it looks like I have grey highlights. I don’t dye it because it actually looks decent and I get compliments but like it just goes to show how shit my aging genetics are.

Most guys age like ass due to their lifestyle and habits. Btw collagen really only starts decreasing after 25 and it goes down by 1percent a year so irs most likely ur just not on the right shit yk. Baldings so brutal it’s a huge part of what fucked me over gettinf a forehead reduction then dense ht very soon to get a straightup nw0

Yeah the norwood reaper is terrifying I would end my shit if I went bald. Good luck with that stuff its definitely going to be high ROI

 

[Jgns]

I’ll definitely work on improving my skincare when I’ve moneymaxxed a bit, I’ve heard of estradiol cream ik it works wonders. But you can’t hold onto your youth forever. I started going grey at THIRTEEN, it looks like I have grey highlights. I don’t dye it because it actually looks decent and I get compliments but like it just goes to show how shit my aging genetics are.

Yeah the norwood reaper is terrifying I would end my shit if I went bald. Good luck with that stuff its definitely going to be high ROI

Yeah agreed u can’t hold onto it forever but late twenties doesn’t seem impossible. Obv alot of it depends on genetics there’s this one guy thats a 39 year old mogger thwy looks like a teenager on ig it’s insane, that would be like hitting the jafkpot jfl. Going gray that early is insane hopefully it’s just a hair specific thing, i have some cousins that have had that happen to them early it’s wild.

Tysm dude, not bald just a nw0 with a nw1.5 pattern of diffuse thinning, it’s why i wnna get a forehead reduction to basically delete the thinner bands of hair. Tysm dude we gt reach self actualization no matter fucking what. This journey of pain hurts like crazy, but it is a journey that wee can influence, i mean dude imagine finally becoming the dude u see in ur head and losing ur inhibness through self actualization and going outside. Escaping these 4 horrible walls and being out free from dispair in nature, god it would prolly feel like crack sniffing the cool fall air. Fuckkk i cannot stop till that bro u better not either

 

[vigor]

Yeah agreed u can’t hold onto it forever but late twenties doesn’t seem impossible. Obv alot of it depends on genetics there’s this one guy thats a 39 year old mogger thwy looks like a teenager on ig it’s insane, that would be like hitting the jafkpot jfl. Going gray that early is insane hopefully it’s just a hair specific thing, i have some cousins that have had that happen to them early it’s wild.

Tysm dude, not bald just a nw0 with a nw1.5 pattern of diffuse thinning, it’s why i wnna get a forehead reduction to basically delete the thinner bands of hair. Tysm dude we gt reach self actualization no matter fucking what. This journey of pain hurts like crazy, but it is a journey that wee can influence, i mean dude imagine finally becoming the dude u see in ur head and losing ur inhibness through self actualization and going outside. Escaping these 4 horrible walls and being out free from dispair in nature, god it would prolly feel like crack sniffing the cool fall air. Fuckkk i cannot stop till that bro u better not either

Hopefully man, hopefully
My pessimism comes from the fact that I DID ascend and I’m arguably less happy than I was before because the last few years of my life have made me severely mentally ill

I grew up a borderline subhuman fatcel and had a late puberty. Went from 5’10” skinnyfat and boneless at like 17 to 6’3” fairly muscular and like HMTN at 20. Made getting laid a lot easier but I’m still barely sane and only really getting worse as I get older

You seem mentally healthier so maybe ascension will solve your problems. For me they’re mental, and material. Therapy and a lot of (the right) drugs is probably the only way I get better. Although the wrong drugs will probably send me into full blown psychosis. Maybe if I can get over the hurdles of romantic experience, work experience and financial dependence I can finally start my adult life rather than just feeling like a child that failed to launch in life idk

 

[Alienmaxxer]

Nigga what are you talking about of course you don't have money you aren't done your engineering degree. What do you expect lol

 

[vigor]

Nigga what are you talking about of course you don't have money you aren't done your engineering degree. What do you expect lol

I know plenty of people who are already doing well for themselves through startups and internships. And many of my friends work whilst studying, I haven’t so much as had a retail job before

And its not so much about the money but more that I’ve been developmentally stunted

 

[Jgns]

Hopefully man, hopefully
My pessimism comes from the fact that I DID ascend and I’m arguably less happy than I was before because the last few years of my life have made me severely mentally ill

I grew up a borderline subhuman fatcel and had a late puberty. Went from 5’10” skinnyfat and boneless at like 17 to 6’3” fairly muscular and like HMTN at 20. Made getting laid a lot easier but I’m still barely sane and only really getting worse as I get older

You seem mentally healthier so maybe ascension will solve your problems. For me they’re mental, and material. Therapy and a lot of (the right) drugs is probably the only way I get better. Although the wrong drugs will probably send me into full blown psychosis. Maybe if I can get over the hurdles of romantic experience, work experience and financial dependence I can finally start my adult life rather than just feeling like a child that failed to launch in life idk

Damn dude u might just be me, striaghtuo went througg the exact same shit and did go through psychosis shits fucked. I get the drugs and shit did that too to cope, but after all of that i realized that it’s truly all cope. These feelings ig stem from the fact we lost time, went through horrible shit, and even through all of that were still not at the point where we wna be. It’s asif no matter what we do ig (maybe tis rhe same for u) nothing ever truly changes, like ur destined to ur fate and i thought that way til now dude. Ig u could say it’s identity dysphoria in a way and it’s brutal asf, but the answer is to reach self actualization. What are the core things that matter to u and what steps do u have to take to fix them, and what would u say would make u truly happen there’s always something. Went through a/ period of psychosis even though i ascended at the time and lost 3 years. Shit was super fucked at one point i didn’t eat for almost a month and went from 145 at 5’10 to 125. U can’t fully make the time back, but u can make up for it ig with a purer more dopamine distilled experience in ur future years of youth. The material issue is a hard one, i have no idea how to fix that the markets are super dogshit rn so tradings impossible and shit. But u have to persevere there is hope espc as a 6’3 hmtn

 

[vigor]

Damn dude u might just be me, striaghtuo went througg the exact same shit and did go through psychosis shits fucked. I get the drugs and shit did that too to cope, but after all of that i realized that it’s truly all cope.

I think drugs can help with finding insight and overcoming certain mental blocks but are definitely a slippery slope and can easily turn into a dangeroue cope tbh

These feelings ig stem from the fact we lost time, went through horrible shit, and even through all of that were still not at the point where we wna be. It’s asif no matter what we do ig (maybe tis rhe same for u) nothing ever truly changes, like ur destined to ur fate and i thought that way til now dude.

Very good description. I often fall into a kind of fatalism where I think that its just over for me bc of my cooked brain chemistry. Because I always break every promise I make myself, I act illogically despite knowing what I should do, I keep repeating the same mistakes. Learned helplessness and such

Ig u could say it’s identity dysphoria in a way and it’s brutal asf, but the answer is to reach self actualization. What are the core things that matter to u and what steps do u have to take to fix them, and what would u say would make u truly happen there’s always something. Went through a/ period of psychosis even though i ascended at the time and lost 3 years. Shit was super fucked at one point i didn’t eat for almost a month and went from 145 at 5’10 to 125. U can’t fully make the time back, but u can make up for it ig with a purer more dopamine distilled experience in ur future years of youth.

Damn man thats crazy. I had what I’m starting to think was a psychotic episode in may when i was taking a lot of stimulants whilst cramming for my exams and not sleeping for days on end. I didn’t eat much, lost like 5kg and had a lot of strange thought patterns and hypomanic episodes. It was weirdly insightful but I was definitely unhinged.

But yeah self actualisation is the goal. But my identity is so unstable that i can never stick to anything

The material issue is a hard one, i have no idea how to fix that the markets are super dogshit rn so tradings impossible and shit. But u have to persevere there is hope espc as a 6’3 hmtn

Yeah times are tough. I imagine that stuff falls into line once your life is sorted and you can dedicate yourself to professional development and networking

 

[Peachy]

I already knew it was over when I was 26 and the judge sentenced me to two years in prison. I’m a convicted felon and most opportunities in life (in US) are closed for me. I’m originally from Russia so I might move after my probation is over.

 

[Alienmaxxer]

I know plenty of people who are already doing well for themselves through startups and internships. And many of my friends work whilst studying, I haven’t so much as had a retail job before

And its not so much about the money but more that I’ve been developmentally stunted

Why tf would you work while studying, unless you're talking about some shitty job, in which case who gives af. And then you talk about how people are getting cars, a horrible decision for a young person since they have to pay ridiculous insurance rates, usually don't buy the car outright but through a downpayment and interest, and get tickets and accidents. People who are my friend who have got a car have told me they regret it because all their money goes towards it and it forces them to work.

You are complaining over nothing. You want an internship? Then get an internship, that's expected anyways if you're in uni. I don't know why you'd be crying about it online like it's the end of the world or over for you.

In fact I don't have sympathy at all for you. Everything you want is pretty easily in your grasp and you're just crying about it like a little bitch. Man up. It's another thing if it was over for you, but you're literally just crying over nothing.

 

[g4rlic]

up

you had no real mentors. ppl assumed you'd be fine cuz our were quiet and confirmative. but no one actuall cared Abt ur future. high inhib children is such a trap of mediocrity. the most successful children are high inhib and fight for what the want despite adults killing that. punished for following directions. I relate 100%

 

[Whatever]

I’d never make it in the trades jfl blue collar culture is not forgiving to a posh sounding cerebral sperg.

I’m not exactly worried about not getting a job in my field I’ve always been incredibly academically gifted. But just in a sperg way, the kind that can memorise an entire syllabus in a week but can’t sort his own life out. Only reason I’ve struggled is due to depression and major executive dysfunction. I still passed despite basically opening the course materials for the first time a week before my exams thats how bad it got. Hopefully the adhd meds help

I know some people like me end up alright but how many don’t? Have you seen the autistic male fertility rates? Facts are, I’m a high inhib , neurotic, borderline autist and so I’m going to struggle at initiating relationships, maintaining them and building a connection with anyone. I’m not even unattractive I have no difficulty getting hookups as long as I binge drink beforehand. But I could only fall in love with a very specific kind of woman who would probably destroy me

I was diagnosed with autism in 1998, I consider myself long grown out of most of the symptoms but either way, I’ve done much better in the trades than I would in some STEM office job. And I’ve definitely had coworkers who were less NT than me. I can say from the inside that it’s not what people expect.

But I’m in the US, maybe it’s easier to get around the NT pill here, I get how brutal groups of British guys can be.