Any tips on dealing with loss of purpose/dreams and breaking plateaus

PsychoDsk

PsychoDsk

Just a guy | ᴀʀᴄʜɪᴛᴇᴄᴛ ᴏꜰ ꜰᴀᴛᴇ
Contributor
Joined
Jan 8, 2024
Posts
12,331
Reputation
26,763
Anytime I get close to the financial stability I need to live freely I slap myself on the back of my head and spend recklessly giving it back.

When I do and dreams feel far-fetched again, it feels like I’m losing the purpose in why I was grinding years in the first place.

This has been a repeated cycle for 4 times already. Anytime I get close to one specific number, I give it back and get too comfortable in the place I’m at, essentially pushing away my biggest desires and dreams.

It’s weird, like deep down I know the plateau will eventually break but in this moment it feels like I don’t even want the plateau to break ykwim

I’ll give an example
I’ve been in the process of retiring out of my country for almost 3 years, when on the verge of actually having planned everything and being a month out of actually moving, I make dumb decisions that lead to me being unable to actively go through with my plans financially

Any tips on how to stop this nonsense comfort and stay focused on my larger goals?

@Seth Walsh @User28823
 
  • +1
  • So Sad
Reactions: User28823, Atman and Sayori
what are you even talking about
 
  • +1
Reactions: Quatza33
so no "muh dream"?
 
Anytime I get close to the financial stability I need to live freely I slap myself on the back of my head and spend recklessly giving it back.

When I do and dreams feel far-fetched again, it feels like I’m losing the purpose in why I was grinding years in the first place.

This has been a repeated cycle for 4 times already. Anytime I get close to one specific number, I give it back and get too comfortable in the place I’m at, essentially pushing away my biggest desires and dreams.

It’s weird, like deep down I know the plateau will eventually break but in this moment it feels like I don’t even want the plateau to break ykwim

I’ll give an example
I’ve been in the process of retiring out of my country for almost 3 years, when on the verge of actually having planned everything and being a month out of actually moving, I make dumb decisions that lead to me being unable to actively go through with my plans financially

Any tips on how to stop this nonsense comfort and stay focused on my larger goals?

@Seth Walsh @User28823
high iq discussion, i dont understand
 
just stop using digital payments lil bro
 
  • +1
Reactions: Potency
nigga just sounds like you're comfy as fuck and scared to actually take any action
 
  • +1
Reactions: PsychoDsk and Quatza33
If this is a repeated cycle where you spend the money. Why don’t you just put the money in an account that you won’t get access to for a year or something. And have that date set as the day you move up.
 
You’re simply afraid of big changes. That’s why at the last moment, u subconsciously sabotage everything.. u just can’t bring yourself to let go, my dear PsychoDsk..
18717
 
  • +1
  • Woah
Reactions: PsychoDsk, vision_n and Peubert
Anytime I get close to the financial stability I need to live freely I slap myself on the back of my head and spend recklessly giving it back.

When I do and dreams feel far-fetched again, it feels like I’m losing the purpose in why I was grinding years in the first place.

This has been a repeated cycle for 4 times already. Anytime I get close to one specific number, I give it back and get too comfortable in the place I’m at, essentially pushing away my biggest desires and dreams.

It’s weird, like deep down I know the plateau will eventually break but in this moment it feels like I don’t even want the plateau to break ykwim

I’ll give an example
I’ve been in the process of retiring out of my country for almost 3 years, when on the verge of actually having planned everything and being a month out of actually moving, I make dumb decisions that lead to me being unable to actively go through with my plans financially

Any tips on how to stop this nonsense comfort and stay focused on my larger goals?

@Seth Walsh @User28823
Financial stability is boring and not an endgame for me.

Anyone with a predictable income, boring low variance job can call themselves financially stable. If that's what you want, then you'll need to stop the trading.

What are your larger goals?

Also, separate your life capital from crypto trading money. Never cross contaminate.

I look at money like capital to deploy aggressively or strategically. Or liquidity to relocate, and upskill. Nothing comes easy.

If you want to start laying the foundations, you gotta start somewhere, just make sure your sinking your time into something that compounds and scales.

You don't seem to be the type to be content with linear wage growth. That's like a lifestyle stipend rather than capital that can be deployed creating future cash flywheels.

Relentlessly cut things that don't work. My advice would be to enter a career or business where you can compound skill over years. Don't be too focused on "a specific number". It's all just numbers on a screen. And crypto trading wins are worth nothing if you lose the capital after. I've done that all too many times.
 
  • +1
Reactions: Atman and PsychoDsk
what r u spending it on that is worth more than freedom?
 
  • +1
Reactions: 3pider, PsychoDsk and uksucks
Financial stability is boring and not an endgame for me.

Anyone with a predictable income, boring low variance job can call themselves financially stable. If that's what you want, then you'll need to stop the trading.

What are your larger goals?

Also, separate your life capital from crypto trading money. Never cross contaminate.

I look at money like capital to deploy aggressively or strategically. Or liquidity to relocate, and upskill. Nothing comes easy.

If you want to start laying the foundations, you gotta start somewhere, just make sure your sinking your time into something that compounds and scales.

You don't seem to be the type to be content with linear wage growth. That's like a lifestyle stipend rather than capital that can be deployed creating future cash flywheels.

Relentlessly cut things that don't work. My advice would be to enter a career or business where you can compound skill over years. Don't be too focused on "a specific number". It's all just numbers on a screen. And crypto trading wins are worth nothing if you lose the capital after. I've done that all too many times.
I see your point but I see trading less as a way of well-hedged positioning and more as a concentrated commitment. You’re right, skill compounds in a lot of different areas but trading for me is purely asymmetric agression. A way to exponentially expand ur worth tenfold (risk management in mind ofcourse)

I own quite a few hard assets, which I’m very lucky to have inherited so financial stability isn’t truly what I’m after either. I’m more after the exponential growth trading can give you, I have developed several strategies over the years and I know they’re foul-proof (in current conditions).

My main problem was just the mindset that interferes with this. My main goal in trading is to compound until I can safely say my kids and grandkids will have a comfortable life but whenever I come close to that goal coming to fruition, I tend to forget about it and let ego take over.
That’s what I’m struggling with the most, when I’m nearing fuck u money I tend to forget why I’m trading in the first place and stray away from my strategy, aswell as carelessly spend.

You’re right tho, I do mix up my spendable cash with trading money which is obviously not productive at all. But that’s the least of my worries, I just need to mentally take a stand and push through the comfort and keep my goal in mind.

Do you have some sort of routine built out for you that keeps u dedicated to your life goals? I feel like my life in general is chaotic which is what further strays me away from my actual goals.
How do you stay mentally focused when things are working out?
 
  • +1
Reactions: 3pider and Seth Walsh
I see your point but I see trading less as a way of well-hedged positioning and more as a concentrated commitment. You’re right, skill compounds in a lot of different areas but trading for me is purely asymmetric agression. A way to exponentially expand ur worth tenfold (risk management in mind ofcourse)

I own quite a few hard assets, which I’m very lucky to have inherited so financial stability isn’t truly what I’m after either. I’m more after the exponential growth trading can give you, I have developed several strategies over the years and I know they’re foul-proof (in current conditions).

My main problem was just the mindset that interferes with this. My main goal in trading is to compound until I can safely say my kids and grandkids will have a comfortable life but whenever I come close to that goal coming to fruition, I tend to forget about it and let ego take over.
That’s what I’m struggling with the most, when I’m nearing fuck u money I tend to forget why I’m trading in the first place and stray away from my strategy, aswell as carelessly spend.

You’re right tho, I do mix up my spendable cash with trading money which is obviously not productive at all. But that’s the least of my worries, I just need to mentally take a stand and push through the comfort and keep my goal in mind.

Do you have some sort of routine built out for you that keeps u dedicated to your life goals? I feel like my life in general is chaotic which is what further strays me away from my actual goals.
How do you stay mentally focused when things are working out?
I look at it like, if I’m not taking risk in one area, whether that’s meeting people, networking, building skills, working out. I gotta go and do it or be a bitch forever.

I feel like you’re addicted to the ups and downs. That can be tough. Trading is addicting. And maybe you need to look to take your mind off it. No one can ever get the better of the markets. The best things come when you’re a calm executioner taking every opportunity that comes. I think you are psychologically addicted to the variance. From my experience, trading extremely high volatility and high risk is more addicting than practically anything.

If you want my 2cents. Try put YOU first. Forget your future family and all that. Just think of something you want to work on changing in the next few months, it doesn’t have to be big, but it does have to be externally measurable. And you will feel better.

The markets are not going away. They will outlast all traders.
 
  • +1
Reactions: 3pider

Similar threads

OrbitMax
Replies
3
Views
57
AbelMakkonenTesfa
AbelMakkonenTesfa
OrbitMax
Replies
10
Views
124
ajhrer
ajhrer
itsoverformr
Replies
17
Views
130
itsoverformr
itsoverformr
Jesus_ist_König
Replies
47
Views
414
Jesus_ist_König
Jesus_ist_König
trannyescapecoper
Replies
9
Views
117
Cinnamon fan64
Cinnamon fan64

Users who are viewing this thread

Back
Top