Anyone else has social skills on two opposite ends?

[audimax]

I dont get it. On some occasions I am the most social guy there is, everyone wants to talk to me, girls are interested, I am high status and just in the flow and enjoying my life. In other situations, everyone feels uncomfortable around me. I dont know what to say to girls. I get socially anxious, high heart rate. I come up with stupid stuff just to keep the conversations going and girls are weirded out. Wtf is wrong with me, why do I have these two extreme ends of social skills?

Background is, I was a social outcast as a kid and then in my teens I found some social circles outside of school and it was just easy going and I was accepted and everything felt cool. Back in school everything was awkward again. Maybe this is where the personality duality began for me. I am in my late 20s now and still often experience extreme social anxiety.

 

[PLA1092]

You still have abused dog syndrome boyo. No escaping it. It will always remain the worm in your brain making you the high inhib cuck you become

 

[audimax]

You still have abused dog syndrome boyo. No escaping it. It will always remain the worm in your brain making you the high inhib cuck you become

I am not really high inhib anymore though, I learned to overcome it. I am able to approach girls compared to fearful normies

 

[longjohnmong]

I'm incredibly charming as long as I'm on Effexor, alcohol, phenibut, and kratom at the same time. And only for the 5 minute window in between not being fucked up enough and falling asleep in my own vomit on the floor of my car.

 

[Deleted member 25705]

I'm incredibly charming as long as I'm on Effexor, alcohol, phenibut, and kratom at the same time. And only for the 5 minute window in between not being fucked up enough and falling asleep in my own vomit on the floor of my car.

I'm incredibly charming when I'm daydreaming in the shower.

 

[Deleted member 19442]

It’s easy to socialise outside of school because you’re already in a common interest + you can talk about school. In school you’re with complete randos and there’s all sorts of fuckery. Also there’s less of a status game

 

[bwrauycnee]

I’ve realized that my interactions become awkward when I think too much about how to structure the convo before hand. It’s better to just be in the moment.

 

[Deleted member 32514]

I dont get it. On some occasions I am the most social guy there is, everyone wants to talk to me, girls are interested, I am high status and just in the flow and enjoying my life. In other situations, everyone feels uncomfortable around me. I dont know what to say to girls. I get socially anxious, high heart rate. I come up with stupid stuff just to keep the conversations going and girls are weirded out. Wtf is wrong with me, why do I have these two extreme ends of social skills?

Background is, I was a social outcast as a kid and then in my teens I found some social circles outside of school and it was just easy going and I was accepted and everything felt cool. Back in school everything was awkward again. Maybe this is where the personality duality began for me. I am in my late 20s now and still often experience extreme social anxiety.

Same, it's just that u feel more comfortable with different groups. Only way to fix this is to get in as many groups as u can so u learn how to get comfortable quick

 

[Clown Show]

Maybe this is where the personality duality began for me.

That's it. Growing up, I also had periods of exceptional social charisma and flow, and then there was a time when I got seriously bullied which afterwards resulted in severe social anxiety and autistic tendencies. Even to this day, I might shift from one state to another, depending on the day.

Your brain literally developed in both ways, because you had those vastly different experiences.

This is why it's so important for a kid to have normal social life growing up.