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Anyone else hate their husband?
Or is it just me. We’ve been together 8 years. Always so in love. Sexually active - like 5 or more times a week. Then we had a baby. When I was pregnant I had HG really badly. He sometimes would make things harder on me. So I started to sort of hate him then. Then we had our baby and he’s made mistake after mistake. The simplest mistakes. Little stuff. But important stuff. Makes me hate him. I have to do everything. I watch my child all day and work from home. He comes home, helps some by simply doing bath time. Everything is on me. On the weekends when my husband is home, it’s like he knows absolutely nothing about our child. I have to micro manage everything or he does it wrong. When I wash freshly postpartum through now (my child is now 2) he has all of a sudden had severe anger issues. Yells at me. Makes faces at me. Scoffs at me. So I’ve really grown to hate him. He’s like another child. I have to tell him every day how to talk to me. Like a normal human. Have respect for me, ect. It’s making me emotionally check out. We are never intimate. Don’t even kiss anymore. Last time we had intercourse was 7 months ago. Before that, 6 months. Like 0 interest on his end. Which I find weird. Obviously my body changed… makes me feel bad. Idk. I don’t know if this is an everyone normal thing. I just cannot stand him. Not attracted to him. The love just seems gone. And yet he talks of having another child? Like what??? I feel crazy. And him yelling at me/making faces/talking to me rude…. I’m over it. I don’t want my son seeing that growing up or seeing parents who fight 24/7. I want to be the best mother for my son. When I had my son, it was the best day of my life. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been being a mother. My husband ruins it. So I think I resent him for that too. Ruining my motherhood moments with his dark cloud of anger. I’ve thought about counseling but mostly I just want to divorce and move on. But I can’t in a way. We have our child, our house, our stuff ect. Idk. Will this go away? Anyone else in a roommate/hate you phase? Sometimes I find myself hoping he will cheat or do something bad so that I have an excuse to leave and the break up of our family isn’t on me.
Or is it just me. We’ve been together 8 years. Always so in love. Sexually active - like 5 or more times a week. Then we had a baby. When I was pregnant I had HG really badly. He sometimes would make things harder on me. So I started to sort of hate him then. Then we had our baby and he’s made mistake after mistake. The simplest mistakes. Little stuff. But important stuff. Makes me hate him. I have to do everything. I watch my child all day and work from home. He comes home, helps some by simply doing bath time. Everything is on me. On the weekends when my husband is home, it’s like he knows absolutely nothing about our child. I have to micro manage everything or he does it wrong. When I wash freshly postpartum through now (my child is now 2) he has all of a sudden had severe anger issues. Yells at me. Makes faces at me. Scoffs at me. So I’ve really grown to hate him. He’s like another child. I have to tell him every day how to talk to me. Like a normal human. Have respect for me, ect. It’s making me emotionally check out. We are never intimate. Don’t even kiss anymore. Last time we had intercourse was 7 months ago. Before that, 6 months. Like 0 interest on his end. Which I find weird. Obviously my body changed… makes me feel bad. Idk. I don’t know if this is an everyone normal thing. I just cannot stand him. Not attracted to him. The love just seems gone. And yet he talks of having another child? Like what??? I feel crazy. And him yelling at me/making faces/talking to me rude…. I’m over it. I don’t want my son seeing that growing up or seeing parents who fight 24/7. I want to be the best mother for my son. When I had my son, it was the best day of my life. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been being a mother. My husband ruins it. So I think I resent him for that too. Ruining my motherhood moments with his dark cloud of anger. I’ve thought about counseling but mostly I just want to divorce and move on. But I can’t in a way. We have our child, our house, our stuff ect. Idk. Will this go away? Anyone else in a roommate/hate you phase? Sometimes I find myself hoping he will cheat or do something bad so that I have an excuse to leave and the break up of our family isn’t on me.
