Anyone know how to deal with this “avoidant attachment” bullshit

[nedum4y0u]

this shit is genuinely so annoying and i KNOW it’s a manipulating tactic, yet im still falling for it, i don’t know how to get her more interested besides being avoidant back. and if we do officially end things, should i hook up with her friends or would that be too petty? (my rep could be ruined if it gets out i hooked up with one of her friends tho)

like literally 2 things are preventing me from not roping rn and that’s the gym, and music. so idk. i just need some fucking help.

 

[134applesauce456]

so she is avoiding YoU?

 

[nedum4y0u]

so she is avoiding YoU?

yeah dude

 

[134applesauce456]

yeah dude

just break up with her and say 'its because you are avoiding me'

see what she does, if she cares she will stop avoiding you and try and get youback

 

[nedum4y0u]

just break up with her and say 'its because you are avoiding me'

see what she does, if she cares she will stop avoiding you and try and get youback

i’ll think about that, she’s coming to one of my tournament games on sunday, so i might js try and stay with her till then and hopefully i get sum more head then prolly dip

 

[Panchitosbroncs]

this shit is genuinely so annoying and i KNOW it’s a manipulating tactic, yet im still falling for it, i don’t know how to get her more interested besides being avoidant back. and if we do officially end things, should i hook up with her friends or would that be too petty? (my rep could be ruined if it gets out i hooked up with one of her friends tho)

like literally 2 things are preventing me from not roping rn and that’s the gym, and music. so idk. i just need some fucking help.

What's "Avoidant attachment"??

 

[nedum4y0u]

What's "Avoidant attachment"??

where someone doesn’t want another person to be too “clingy” i guess

 

[Panchitosbroncs]

where someone doesn’t want another person to be too “clingy” i guess

I think it's not bad at all. I mean, you can't force people to change the way they think or act

 

[nedum4y0u]

I think it's not bad at all. I mean, you can't force people to change the way they think or act

the thing is i’m not even clingy, so it’s hard to show affection without me feeling like i’m pissing her off

 

[Panchitosbroncs]

the thing is i’m not even clingy, so it’s hard to show affection without me feeling like i’m pissing her off

Maybe she is just not interested in you. It's something I don't know since I'm an incel, tho.
You should talk with her and see what's going on.
Hope I helped you

 

[nedum4y0u]

Maybe she is just not interested in you. It's something I don't know since I'm an incel, tho.
You should talk with her and see what's going on.
Hope I helped you

somewhat, hope you escape your inceldom brother

 

[2ndAscension]

this shit is genuinely so annoying and i KNOW it’s a manipulating tactic, yet im still falling for it, i don’t know how to get her more interested besides being avoidant back. and if we do officially end things, should i hook up with her friends or would that be too petty? (my rep could be ruined if it gets out i hooked up with one of her friends tho)

like literally 2 things are preventing me from not roping rn and that’s the gym, and music. so idk. i just need some fucking help.

She's playing you, in some way women are very simple and if she wanted to be with you, she would make it as easy for you as possible

 

[nedum4y0u]

She's playing you, in some way women are very simple and if she wanted to be with you, she would make it as easy for you as possible

that’s what i’m thinking, one of my ex’s hmu yesterday so i might just leave her after sunday and attempt to hang out with my ex, AND my ex genuinely understands my pain, like she didn’t even judge me for bringing up me watching the christchurch mosque thing when i was venting.

 

[aztecas]

nigga how old are you. She obviously isn’t interested, slay her friends

 

[2ndAscension]

that’s what i’m thinking, one of my ex’s hmu yesterday so i might just leave her after sunday and attempt to hang out with my ex, AND my ex genuinely understands my pain, like she didn’t even judge me for bringing up me watching the christchurch mosque thing when i was venting.

Trust your instincts, if you're already "thinking" of leaving her you've pretty much made up your mind

 

[nedum4y0u]

nigga how old are you. She obviously isn’t interested, slay her friends

ik ur going to be pissed but i’m 15

 

[Wildlife]

this shit is genuinely so annoying and i KNOW it’s a manipulating tactic, yet im still falling for it, i don’t know how to get her more interested besides being avoidant back. and if we do officially end things, should i hook up with her friends or would that be too petty? (my rep could be ruined if it gets out i hooked up with one of her friends tho)

like literally 2 things are preventing me from not roping rn and that’s the gym, and music. so idk. i just need some fucking help.

Just stop talking to her, that shit isn't worth it

 

[lifestyle21873]

stop playing the bullshit games, you can't negotiate attraction, use simple tactics like lovebombing/build up scenarios, this is your tools but don't listen to shit what she says. learn to see if she's interested or using you for attention

 

[aztecas]

ik ur going to be pissed but i’m 15

I wish I had this forum at your age, would’ve saved me so much wasted time on trying to force attraction

 

[nedum4y0u]

I wish I had this forum at your age, would’ve saved me so much wasted time on trying to force attraction

my friend irl was even luckier, how old are you?

 

[nedum4y0u]

stop playing the bullshit games, you can't negotiate attraction, use simple tactics like lovebombing/build up scenarios, this is your tools but don't listen to shit what she says. learn to see if she's interested or using you for attention

thx this is actually decent advice ngl

 

[lifestyle21873]

thx this is actually decent advice ngl

if you can't beat them, join them, but I have to tell you going into the path of using, lying and manipulating women can lead you into a path that may make you suffer even more in the long term. I have manipulated and hurt women and that shit is on my conscience forever.

 

[Mavueis]

this shit is genuinely so annoying and i KNOW it’s a manipulating tactic, yet im still falling for it, i don’t know how to get her more interested besides being avoidant back. and if we do officially end things, should i hook up with her friends or would that be too petty? (my rep could be ruined if it gets out i hooked up with one of her friends tho)

like literally 2 things are preventing me from not roping rn and that’s the gym, and music. so idk. i just need some fucking

just hook up with her friend, dont officially wnd things if shes just ghosting u

 

[nedum4y0u]

if you can't beat them, join them, but I have to tell you going into the path of using, lying and manipulating women can lead you into a path that may make you suffer even more in. the long term. I have manipulated and hurt women and that shit is on my conscience.

how have you manipulated the manipulators , teach me please

 

[lifestyle21873]

how have you manipulated the manipulators , teach me please

literally its all about finding what makes people tick and just pushing on that point, all of the women that have some sort of trauma respond incredibly well to lovebombing. you just shower them with compliments and stuff and then it gets to a point where you fall back and, when you do that back and forth it creates a incredible strong attachment(her to you), in other words, she will chase you forever but you also have to fuck her good and always be prepared to leave her when she is disrespectful, however all this shit is pointless in the end IMO because ur dealing with damaged goods. Remember you are not a savior nor is it your responsibility to save hoes, they need to save themselves

 

[nedum4y0u]

literally its all about finding what makes people tick and just pushing on that point, all of the women that have some sort of trauma respond incredibly well to lovebombing. you just shower them with compliments and stuff and then it gets to a point where you fall back and, when you do that back and forth it creates a incredible strong attachment(her to you), in other words, she will chase you forever but you also have to fuck her good and always be prepared to leave her when she is disrespectful, however all this shit is pointless in the end IMO because ur dealing with damaged goods. Remember you are not a savior nor is it your responsibility to save hoes, they need to save themselves

thanks man, at this point i’m not even looking for much since it’ll almost never work out in high school, i js wanna fuck bitches

 

[lifestyle21873]

thanks man, at this point i’m not even looking for much since it’ll almost never work out in high school, i js wanna fuck bitches

oh yeah try not to get too involved with the crazy ones, they are a pain in the ass to get rid of. remember its all games, dont take things personally