tdarg
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I feel like one of the biggest problems people have nowadays is that they don't really know who they are anymore. From such a young age we're basically given a blueprint for how we're supposed to live, what we're supposed to become and even how we're supposed to behave. Boys are expected to become successful, get a good job, provide, whilst girls are given their own set of expectations, and anything that falls outside of those norms are seen as outlandish. Over time, you start changing little parts of yourself just to avoid being judged, until eventually you have this fake version of yourself that you present to everyone else. The scary part is that you can do this for so long that you genuinely forget what the original version of you was like. If your childhood self could see you now, would they actually like the person you've become? And I don't mean some idealised version of yourself either, because I think there's a tendency to replace one fake identity with another by constantly imagining who we "should" be. You have to actually accept who you are, including the parts you're insecure about, before you can really change anything. Other people's opinions obviously matter to us because we're social creatures, but I think we give them far too much power. A lot of the shit people say about you is probably more about their own insecurities and experiences than it is about you. Obviously, you should care about the opinions of people who genuinely know and care about you, but changing your entire personality to satisfy everyone around you is impossible. At the same time, I think a lot of people build emotional walls because they've been hurt or embarrassed in the past, and eventually those walls stop them from actually connecting with people. You can't control how other people see you or what they think, but you can control the perspective you have of yourself. At the end of the day, I think the only way to find out what you're actually capable of is to stop worrying so much about how you're supposed to be and actually try things, even if you fail. You might find out that the person you were trying to become was never really you in the first place.
