Quicksand
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Already said: if you're male and you're a nice guy and you value ‘loyalty’ or other virtues in a woman, and you see that woman interacting with an assertive/disagreeable male in a friendly manner, you might have a low opinion of that woman and, if you were attracted to her, you might lose your attraction to her
Conversely, you might be attracted to a “mean”, blunt girl who tells that type of guy to go to hell
It works similarly for women, and it’s one of the reasons why being in a stable relationship with a woman is difficult because females (people in general) are attracted to novelty, and once you have established the seriousness necessary to maintain a “healthy” relationship, you, as a male, will be susceptible to the nonchalant/easygoing guy who will try to insinuate himself into your girlfriend's affections.
That guy will counteract the sense of habit that a relationship usually provides, unless it’s abusive because it’s “unpredictable” or thrilling (which is why women tend not to cheat in abusive relationships).
As a man, you have a heavy obligation to prove your worth with considerable diligence.
If two males are fighting for a girl's attention (assuming they are fairly similar in appearance, not subhuman vs Brad Pitt, obviously) and a third male interacts with that girl, ignoring the direct competition, guess who will often succeed in attracting her
Conversely, you might be attracted to a “mean”, blunt girl who tells that type of guy to go to hell
It works similarly for women, and it’s one of the reasons why being in a stable relationship with a woman is difficult because females (people in general) are attracted to novelty, and once you have established the seriousness necessary to maintain a “healthy” relationship, you, as a male, will be susceptible to the nonchalant/easygoing guy who will try to insinuate himself into your girlfriend's affections.
That guy will counteract the sense of habit that a relationship usually provides, unless it’s abusive because it’s “unpredictable” or thrilling (which is why women tend not to cheat in abusive relationships).
As a man, you have a heavy obligation to prove your worth with considerable diligence.
If two males are fighting for a girl's attention (assuming they are fairly similar in appearance, not subhuman vs Brad Pitt, obviously) and a third male interacts with that girl, ignoring the direct competition, guess who will often succeed in attracting her
