Becoming a functioning adult

[Deleted member 3828]

Now I am currently 21 and I have realized that at my current rate it's a real possibility that I could end up end up homeless and with 0 marketable skills. So I have been trying to figure out the best path forward and this is what I have come up with:

1. Get a job throwaway job and progress slowly progress through all of the softmaxxes
2. Start researching data analytics for the next few years and get certified (And get into a entry level position at 19~20)
3. Solidify my position as a functioning adult (Get a kitten, Improve my workstation ect)
4. Get surgery and progress into an LTR


Now I know that there are a lot of users who have already passed through the "Teenager -> Functioning Adult" barrier and I'm curious if you have any advice because it feels insanely overwhelming.

 

[Deleted member 761]

I'm in the same position

 

[Deleted member 14323]

not very sigma bro. wtf????

 

[Deleted member 3828]

not very sigma bro. wtf????

recently i realized that I'm trapped in this cycle

The problem is that because I see getting a girlfriend as a solution some deep part of me can't let go of living because maybe I could be happy one day but because of years of social alienation and binge eating my odds of getting a girlfriend are very low. This has left me trapped because I can either:

1. Lose weight and get a girlfriend (Which is very hard for me because of how emotionally dependent I am on food)
2. Kill myself (Which is also very hard to do because I am emotionally numb)

I am unable to move forward because I can't choose either of these options and so I'm just floating in limbo.

 

[Deleted member 14323]

recently i realized that I'm trapped in this cycle

The problem is that because I see getting a girlfriend as a solution some deep part of me can't let go of living because maybe I could be happy one day but because of years of social alienation and binge eating my odds of getting a girlfriend are very low. This has left me trapped because I can either:

1. Lose weight and get a girlfriend (Which is very hard for me because of how emotionally dependent I am on food)
2. Kill myself (Which is also very hard to do because I am emotionally numb)

I am unable to move forward because I can't choose either of these options and so I'm just floating in limbo.

you got this bruh bruh, up ur fucking grindset

 

[Deleted member 3828]

you got this bruh bruh, up ur fucking grindset

Just be uncomfortable every morning for the rest of your life theory

 

[LocalDanger]

recently i realized that I'm trapped in this cycle

The problem is that because I see getting a girlfriend as a solution some deep part of me can't let go of living because maybe I could be happy one day but because of years of social alienation and binge eating my odds of getting a girlfriend are very low. This has left me trapped because I can either:

1. Lose weight and get a girlfriend (Which is very hard for me because of how emotionally dependent I am on food)
2. Kill myself (Which is also very hard to do because I am emotionally numb)

I am unable to move forward because I can't choose either of these options and so I'm just floating in limbo.

Do you want a jb girlfriend? How old are you willing to go?

 

[Deleted member 3828]

Do you want a jb girlfriend? How old are you willing to go?

The best time to LTR is when you get bored of slaying (which will happen eventually.) It will take a different number of sexual partners for everyone. Maybe 10 maybe 20 maybe 50 maybe 100 maybe 1000 but at a certain point the emotion security and companionship offered by an LTR will be more pleasurable then chasing after a new sexual partner and at that point you should LTR.

 

[Deleted member 3828]

Do you want a jb girlfriend? How old are you willing to go?

For me personally even the thought of talking to an attractive women makes me want to hide under my blankets. And don't even get me started on dates. I can't even begin to imagine the pressure that you would be under.

 

[LocalDanger]

For me personally even the thought of talking to an attractive women makes me want to hide under my blankets. And don't even get me started on dates. I can't even begin to imagine the pressure that you would be under.

I asked you about age of a girl you want to ltr? Do you plan on going for jbs or older? Are jb pilled ?

 

[androciv]

DO NOT READ OR WATCH SELF IMPROVEMENT !!!!

The only self improvement advice you need is :

Meditate 20 min a day. Do a simple physical activity in the sun like jumping rope (20 min) or walking fast (40 min)
Cook for yourself and avoid PUFAs
Minimize screen time and internet time. Keep everything analog as much as possible *pocket notebook) over To-do app. Dumb phone over smart phone etc
Have extremely few tasks or projects on your agenda (daily, monthly or long term). Ideally just one thing. Break it down into small steps in detail and do them by setting a schedule (when to do) and time limit (how long to do)
If you have ADHD ( important to take a doctor test if you suspect), follow productivity advice specific to ADHD people only

This is literally it, do not go down the self improvement rabbit hole.


Edit: Agenda and to do list are different things. Use one side of the pocket book for to do lists and the other for agenda
Example items on to do list : Buy milk. Take cat to vet etc. Examples of agenda: Write two pages for my college assignment
Also, consider starting a journal. Write whatever you want in it. Make sure you date every post.

Have some kind of savings/investment scheme for a rainy day. Don't recommend crypto or stocks because they take up a lot of headspace. Just put money in an index fund or something

 

[Deleted member 3828]

I asked you about age of a girl you want to ltr? Do you plan on going for jbs or older? Are jb pilled ?

-I'm 21 and I still barely know.

-The fact that the average age that people lose there virginity is 17 still makes no sense to me

-Were are people having all this sex and why wasn't I invited

 

[Deleted member 3828]

I asked you about age of a girl you want to ltr? Do you plan on going for jbs or older? Are jb pilled ?

So in conclusion we should be able to fuck 13 year olds

 

[Deleted member 3828]

 

[one job away]

Now I am currently 21 and I have realized that at my current rate it's a real possibility that I could end up end up homeless and with 0 marketable skills. So I have been trying to figure out the best path forward and this is what I have come up with:

1. Get a job throwaway job and progress slowly progress through all of the softmaxxes
2. Start researching data analytics for the next few years and get certified (And get into a entry level position at 19~20)
3. Solidify my position as a functioning adult (Get a kitten, Improve my workstation ect)
4. Get surgery and progress into an LTR


Now I know that there are a lot of users who have already passed through the "Teenager -> Functioning Adult" barrier and I'm curious if you have any advice because it feels insanely overwhelming.
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Idk I just survive. Many of my friends just somehow make it. Stop trying to be responsible and just do shit while somehow paying bills

 

[Deleted member 13994]

is this grimba?

 

[Deleted member 3828]

is this grimba?'

lmao
Everything mine in this thread up to this one point was@Grimba

 

[Deleted member 13994]

lmao
Everything mine in this thread up to this one point was@Grimba

i miss him

 

[Deleted member 3828]

i miss him

same

 

[mulattomaxxer]

At 21 there are still alot of "mental teenagers". Even some of the NT normies just party and do drugs. Honestly I think its "acceptable" to be a mental teenager until your in your 30. Although after 25 the failio of being immature will slowly increase. At 30 if your life is still a mess you will be considered a loser by alot of people.

I am 22 and most of my peers aren't adults yet (it could just me my social circles idk). However time is of the essense, you don't have time to fuck around at 21. Just make sure your going somewhere and doing something, time quickly passes.

 

[Carolus]

There's being comfortable and there's being completely in over your head
Challenge yourself by going just outside what is comfortable, take responsibility, start working out, get a job.
Yeah it sucks **** getting up at 4:30, driving an hour to get to work and then work for 10 hours, but you do what you gotta do to advance

 

[Esteban1997]

same im 24 and have a teenager/adult mentality

 

[Deleted member 7044]

dunno man im 22 and just wanna go back to middleschool

 

[Vermilioncore]

that’s the issue with a lot of men. Women do not suffer from this “teen” or “childish” mentality. That’s why a lot of women hate that their boyfriends play video games and like “nerdy” stuff. They want men.

 

[Deleted member 7725]

that’s the issue with a lot of men. Women do not suffer from this “teen” or “childish” mentality. That’s why a lot of women hate that their boyfriends play video games and like “nerdy” stuff. They want men.

 

[Vermilioncore]

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I knew this was coming jfl

 

[ChristianChad]

recently i realized that I'm trapped in this cycle

The problem is that because I see getting a girlfriend as a solution some deep part of me can't let go of living because maybe I could be happy one day but because of years of social alienation and binge eating my odds of getting a girlfriend are very low. This has left me trapped because I can either:

1. Lose weight and get a girlfriend (Which is very hard for me because of how emotionally dependent I am on food)
2. Kill myself (Which is also very hard to do because I am emotionally numb)

I am unable to move forward because I can't choose either of these options and so I'm just floating in limbo.

You can eat 3,000+ calories a day and lose fat on a Ray Peat inspired dietary philosophy. Obesity is systematic bacterial overgrowth in the upper digestive system and chronic stress response (high FFA in blood; constant Lipolysis). Read on it: Raypeat.com Raypeatforum.com

I'm in the same position at 16 though I'm highly dysfunctional and in a bad spot because soon I have to go to mandatory military service in my country and this year exams and assignments and shit , ontop of complete social autism, I really don't know how I'll work with other people in the military, I can barely go to school.

 

[ChristianChad]

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My dad knows how to build a PC and plays World of Tanks and escape from tarkov and he is Chadlite, masc mogs other people his age and also NT mogs