been crying the last 2 days after getting dumped

[bddcoper]

it just the way she did it hurts. she says she wants someone better in every way (that she doesn't want to settle) and that she wouldnt change for me but would for someone else. she says im not considerate, that im not generous enough, that i dont treat her like other boyfriends treat their women, that im not emotionally mature, that my views are too traditional. i've also broken promises and started most arguments we've had, which she listed but not as bluntly.

we still talk and she still wants to hook up but doesnt want to date and doesn't want any of the commitments of dating because im such an awful boyfriend apparently. she says she wants me to keep seeing other people so i can find the right girl but i dont want to. she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

she says i treat/treated her better when we are just friends, which is true because im just being myself without taking anything to heart. im still the guy she loved first when we were friends and the opposite of the reasons she listed for the breakup were things she would always tell me (like im so considerate and such). i was just acting that way because of redpill was supposed to work but playing games and breaking promises and playing with her emotionally just made me lose her.

how can i get her back? we lost our V to each other and we meet up most days and last night she slept over. i honestly wish she would just admit its a looks thing so i can be over it but she insists its not and later that looks are the only reason she still talks to me. i dont want this i just want real authentic love like we had 3 months ago. yes im free and yes we are still doing things couples do but currently without the possibility of reciprocated love

 

[bddcoper]

bump please dont DNR me

 

[Sulfuras]

so she said she would change for others but not you, she doesn't appreciate you and doesn't want anything to do with you unless it is sex for her own pleasure and you cry about it?

get over it is the only and best advice I can give you and the easiest way to do that is to realise what a bitch she is and then ask yourself: "is she really worth crying over?"

 

[Yvann133]

it just the way she did it hurts. she says she wants someone better in every way (that she doesn't want to settle) and that she wouldnt change for me but would for someone else. she says im not considerate, that im not generous enough, that i dont treat her like other boyfriends treat their women, that im not emotionally mature, that my views are too traditional. i've also broken promises and started most arguments we've had, which she listed but not as bluntly.

we still talk and she still wants to hook up but doesnt want to date and doesn't want any of the commitments of dating because im such an awful boyfriend apparently. she says she wants me to keep seeing other people so i can find the right girl but i dont want to. she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

she says i treat/treated her better when we are just friends, which is true because im just being myself without taking anything to heart. im still the guy she loved first when we were friends and the opposite of the reasons she listed for the breakup were things she would always tell me (like im so considerate and such). i was just acting that way because of redpill was supposed to work but playing games and breaking promises and playing with her emotionally just made me lose her.

how can i get her back? we lost our V to each other and we meet up most days and last night she slept over. i honestly wish she would just admit its a looks thing so i can be over it but she insists its not and later that looks are the only reason she still talks to me. i dont want this i just want real authentic love like we had 3 months ago. yes im free and yes we are still doing things couples do but currently without the possibility of reciprocated love

 

[foreverstuckinLTN]

Idk man but i think she playin with u , she said that she wants someone better than u in every way right? And she wants u as friends , i think she's using u for her to feel better and when she feels more better she gonna move to another guy, i think sometimes its better to let it go , even if u love her.

 

[bddcoper]

so she said she would change for others but not you, she doesn't appreciate you and doesn't want anything to do with you unless it is sex for her own pleasure and you cry about it?

get over it is the only and best advice I can give you and the easiest way to do that is to realise what a bitch she is and then ask yourself: "is she really worth crying over?"

she says she would change for the right guy*

im crying because we spent 3 months out of our first 6 together long distance over the summer after only dating for a few weeks. she wasnt a bad person to begin with we had our ups and downs but i know if i had reacted more maturely to our disagreements none of this wouldve happened and we would still be happy together as last semester of uni was probably the happiest few months ive had in my life (my first real relationship). i mean even the day she broke up with me i had wronged her (not even 24 hours after seeing her again after LD) by not sitting next to her during an event we had to go to because she was acting bitchy and not talking much the day after she took a plan B after she told me "finish in me i dont care anymore".

i dont know who's in the wrong curious abt your thoughts. yes she was a huge bitch when she broke up with me but it hurts because she fell out of love with me after i started being someone i really wasn't

im not crying over her im crying because ill never find love. because of the things she said and because she meant every word. even when i thought i found love with someone who genuinely cared for me i lost it because of my actions and am afraid this sort of thing will keep happening

 

[Wicket]

You'll get over it soon brah keep going

 

[bddcoper]

Idk man but i think she playin with u , she said that she wants someone better than u in every way right? And she wants u as friends , i think she's using u for her to feel better and when she feels more better she gonna move to another guy, i think sometimes its better to let it go , even if u love her.

she wants me as a hookup (friends with benefits) but yes friends im sure u are just abbreviating

its possible shes using me to feel better and its possible shes waiting for a better guy. the person (me) she met in february will be hard to beat and i guess she also admits it. she says she wants looks and personality in a relationship and that my looks alone arent enough for her to stay dating. maybe its because i genuinely treated her horribly while we were dating and amazingly when we werent.

ive pretty much hit my rock bottom this year so my confidence to do anything except try to get back with her is 0.

 

[Sulfuras]

she says she would change for the right guy*

im crying because we spent 3 months out of our first 6 together long distance over the summer after only dating for a few weeks. she wasnt a bad person to begin with we had our ups and downs but i know if i had reacted more maturely to our disagreements none of this wouldve happened and we would still be happy together as last semester of uni was probably the happiest few months ive had in my life (my first real relationship). i mean even the day she broke up with me i had wronged her (not even 24 hours after seeing her again after LD) by not sitting next to her during an event we had to go to because she was acting bitchy and not talking much the day after she took a plan B after she told me "finish in me i dont care anymore".

i dont know who's in the wrong curious abt your thoughts. yes she was a huge bitch when she broke up with me but it hurts because she fell out of love with me after i started being someone i really wasn't

im not crying over her im crying because ill never find love. because of the things she said and because she meant every word. even when i thought i found love with someone who genuinely cared for me i lost it because of my actions and am afraid this sort of thing will keep happening

if she truly fell out of love with you then there is probably no point in trying to get her back
the best thing you could do is wait till you are over it and try to get another gf

use this failed relationship as a training ground, think about what you could've done better and apply that to your new relationship

 

[superchud90000]

you're better off cutting her off bro, as this guy said :

Idk man but i think she playin with u

ik this probably isnt what you want to hear right now but theres no chance of getting that love you had back. she's literally just using you to get what she wants (friends w/ benefits) and you're letting her. on normal circumstances id say just stay friends with benefits if you prefer it but clearly you can't handle that when you've loved someone so much.

for your mental i would suggest cutting her off. theres nothing good that will come from staying friends with benefits. block all of her pages and don't look back.

she says she wont be doing friends with benefits with other guys.

also please keep in mind she doesn't owe you anything, and as all foids will she will likely do as she pleases with other men when the time comes. girls lie about this alot, and its likely another method to keep you attatched to her

she's basically completely lost feelings bro, it likely hurts because it's your first body and all that but you need to let go. once a girl looses feelings shes basically done.

 

[deadmau154]

Tales from da basement, circa December 2010

 

[BlondKanyeWest]

Why are you crying over a subhuman, ascend and mog her to death.

 

[IsItTooLateToMaxx]

DID read, and bro im sorry, best thing i can tell you is just cut everything off with her cuz it’ll just hold you back more. i know you dont know me but feel free to message me we can talk whenever