BF says I caused his ED by gaining weight.

[Deleted member 14693]

My (33F) BF (32M) were getting intimate and BF lost his erection. After saying this never happened before and was all flustered he walked off to the bathroom. I realize these things happen so I'm still in bed naked trying to think of what to say to make him feel better about the situation. When he came back he said "babe you really need to lose some weight" basically implying I've gotten too fat for him to hold an erection. I won't lie I started bawling, I have some body insecurities that he's very aware of. He then backtracked and started saying it was something else, I'm fairly sure it was to just calm me down. I have gained about 20 lbs since the start of the relationship (about 1 1/2 years now).

We've had long talks about it and we've set up gym days and workout plans. But everyday I go I simply get angry. Im not motivated to workout, I could stand to lose some weight but it feels like Im rewarding him for saying something so horrible while I was so vulnerable. Even intimacy is difficult for me now, I can't help but remember what he said so my confidence in myself while naked is at an all time low.

He keeps reassuring me that he loves me and that he didn't mean it but I just can't get it out of my head. How does someone who says they love you say that to you? Has anyone had any experience with this? Did he say it to deflect his embarrassment at his lost erection?

TLDR: My boyfriend lost his erection during sex, blames my weight gain. Is he deflecting because of embarrassment?

 

[LightSkinNoob]

Chad boyfriend

 

[germanlooks]

Based

It’s always the man who gets blamed for having ED but never the woman who just looks not arousing enough

 

[Deleted member 17735]

It's easier to get an maintain and erection with someone hot than someone ugly, just the same way that girls will ge more aroused/cum easier with a guy that find very attractive vs not. Looks or death.

 

[Renai]

tbh if he had it up in the first place making out with her and lost it shortly afterwards, thats on him, but no truth for roasties.

 

[Renai]

I wouldnt have problem maintaining erection with a chubby girl but there are chubby girls and there are absolute hippos larping as a "teehee, im a chubby girl with plumpy ass" when its more like plumpy everything not just ass

 

[Foreverbrad]

His main mistake was backtracking.
Gotta keep these bitches in line.

 

[Yliaster]

Will never understand how modern women aren't able to find the motiv to workout knowing how godly the boost
in smv for them becomes.A female getting in shape is the equivalent of an average man gaining 3 PSL including
height and winning the lottery for 500 million (jfl if you think this analogy is hyperbole)

women start already at the finish line,all they have to do from there is maintainance

 

[Chinacurry]

based bf

 

[Danish_Retard]

Fat whores cant cope


also just jfl @ this

 

[prettyboislime]

I will respect Looksmax users when they start raiding soy posts like this an turn the comment section from cucked to based

 

[forevergymcelling]

Redditors are truly bottom of the barrel

 

[Atem Rah]

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gaining 20 pounds is alot when you're already borderline obese.

 

[reborn]

It's easier to get an maintain and erection with someone hot than someone ugly, just the same way that girls will ge more aroused/cum easier with a guy that find very attractive vs not. Looks or death.

Yeah and females will always come up with stupid excuses like "It's not shallow that I like tall men... I just want to feel protected". But of course if you say: "It's not shallow that I like skinny women... I just want to feel like a protector" then it is discriminating and misogynistic.

 

[RecessedChinCel]

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Fat whores cant cope


also just jfl @ this
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Literally all reddit relationship advice
“Break up with him qween, he doesn’t deserve you!! YTA! YTA! YTA!”

 

[Amnesia]

Also retards knee jerk for losing weight is "going to the gym." That has nothing to do with it, u just need to eat less.

Also all my FWB are thin and they are always telling me about how other women are always telling them to gain weight. It's so funny how misery loves company

 

[coke]

Also retards knee jerk for losing weight is "going to the gym." That has nothing to do with it, u just need to eat less.

Also all my FWB are thin and they are always telling me about how other women are always telling them to gain weight. It's so funny how misery loves company

When I first met my girlfriend we clicked instantly, I was initially attracted to her because she looked like Liv Tyler.. very good looking alternative girl, but her diet was horrendous. Alcohol/Fast Food/Energy Drinks etc. Through-out high school her 'friend' who was overweight would fill her head with rubbish about guys hating thin girls and would enable her to eat like shit and drink crap. I recall how glued she was to this friend but started to get fed up of her after leaving school, eventually she started going to the gym with me, she wanted a body like 90s Gwen Stefani and she got it. It was funny because the guys who lacked interest in her were suddenly super interested, and her fat female friends were saying she looks ''sickly'' and one even said I was a control freak for helping her get in shape. I've been with her for a couple of years now and she told me how her 'friends' were too lazy to do any exercise but would also complain about the good looking music guys dating the popular girls instead of them. The typical overweight girls who ''don't care about how they look'' yet get multiple piercings/tattoos and colour their hair to try stand out lmao