Boyfriend lost his abs and gained weight. I no longer find him attractive. Am I a terrible person?

[ElySioNs]

So my boyfriend of two years has put on some weight. He is by no means fat, or even chubby. He is 5'8" and when I first met him, he weighed around 155, and now he is about 165, but in significantly worse shape. He has basically replaced a lot of muscle with fat.

I love him very much. And I used to be absolutely crazy about sex with him. But now, it's like it's just hard for me to get in the mood. I find myself having to work at it, where before it just came naturally. Every now and then I picture what he looked like a year ago, and it is an instant turn on. I hate myself for it, but I have finally admitted (at least in my own head) that I don't really find him physically attractive with clothes off anymore.

Does this make me a terrible, shallow woman? I should mention that I take a lot of pride in my own physical appearance. I model part time and am comfortable saying that I am very physically attractive. Is it bad that I crave the same thing from my partner? Should I just learn to deal with disappointment or would it be better to tell him and try to change him? Or change myself..? Help!

 

[Enfant terrible]

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gay conversion therapy is always an option op

 

[EverythingMattersCel]

So my boyfriend of two years has put on some weight. He is by no means fat, or even chubby. He is 5'8" and when I first met him, he weighed around 155, and now he is about 165, but in significantly worse shape. He has basically replaced a lot of muscle with fat.

I love him very much. And I used to be absolutely crazy about sex with him. But now, it's like it's just hard for me to get in the mood. I find myself having to work at it, where before it just came naturally. Every now and then I picture what he looked like a year ago, and it is an instant turn on. I hate myself for it, but I have finally admitted (at least in my own head) that I don't really find him physically attractive with clothes off anymore.

Does this make me a terrible, shallow woman? I should mention that I take a lot of pride in my own physical appearance. I model part time and am comfortable saying that I am very physically attractive. Is it bad that I crave the same thing from my partner? Should I just learn to deal with disappointment or would it be better to tell him and try to change him? Or change myself..? Help!

Reddit LARP made by a subhuman gym-cel. The giveaway was when "she" mentioned his "abs". Women care about a beautiful FACE, everything else is a secondary cope.

 

[banyerrr]

Tell him to get in shape mf