brain plasticity: trauma, negative reinforcement, gratitude, love, ego

[TiktokUser]

i always saw this as a comical cope. "how ridiculous... this is human nature! the jock picks on the nerd! it's the cycle of life!" - i really thought i was winning at life for picking on some random unfortunate guy on the forum for how he looked. just fucking lol. there are a million better things i could have been doing with my time. it's only once you reach a state where you genuinely are proud of everything about yourself and content with your life that you realise that your attempts at hating really were just a projection of your own insecurities.

I agree with almost everything you said except for this part. I’ve seen plenty of situations, both related to me and not where someone who was clearly better at something would make fun of others simply because they didn’t like them, and it had nothing to do with insecurity.

I remember a kid who was terrible as a quarterback, played third or fourth string, and the first string quarterback would constantly make fun of him, both his skill level and his appearance. And it definitely wasn’t insecurity, since he had a better face, better popularity, better height, and better grades

So I’m curious why you changed your belief on this. Cause back when you were under 18, wouldn’t you agree that the people who bullied you were “better” than you in those areas and weren’t acting out of insecurity, but just trying to make you feel like shit?

 

[Glorious King]

I agree with almost everything you said except for this part. I’ve seen plenty of situations, both related to me and not where someone who was clearly better at something would make fun of others simply because they didn’t like them, and it had nothing to do with insecurity.

I remember a kid who was terrible as a quarterback, played third or fourth string, and the first string quarterback would constantly make fun of him, both his skill level and his appearance. And it definitely wasn’t insecurity, since he had a better face, better popularity, better height, and better grades

So I’m curious why you changed your belief on this. Cause back when you were under 18, wouldn’t you agree that the people who bullied you were “better” than you in those areas and weren’t acting out of insecurity, but just trying to make you feel like shit?

WHY DO U REACT LIKE A FOID

WITH UGH EMOJI

 

[karmacitathugmaxx]

I agree with almost everything you said except for this part. I’ve seen plenty of situations, both related to me and not where someone who was clearly better at something would make fun of others simply because they didn’t like them, and it had nothing to do with insecurity.

I remember a kid who was terrible as a quarterback, played third or fourth string, and the first string quarterback would constantly make fun of him, both his skill level and his appearance. And it definitely wasn’t insecurity, since he had a better face, better popularity, better height, and better grades

So I’m curious why you changed your belief on this. Cause back when you were under 18, wouldn’t you agree that the people who bullied you were “better” than you in those areas and weren’t acting out of insecurity, but just trying to make you feel like shit?

I think you missed the point bro...

if you feel the need to make fun of somebody, you have not reached a place of true contentment. Some great wisdom in this thread

 

[TiktokUser]

I think you missed the point bro...

if you feel the need to make fun of somebody, you have not reached a place of true contentment. Some great wisdom in this thread

I don’t think most people ever reach contentment in life, so I don’t think that’s what really matters. And they'll still have more contentment than the person they bullied, and probably always will for majority of such cases

 

[Qautiy.]

I just saw this thread and it brought a smile to my face: https://looksmax.org/threads/i-hate-when-normies-who-call-every-looksmaxxer-toxic.1689242/

what i don't think people understand about me is that not only have i taken great leaps to pharmacologically alter my physiology, but I've also taken equal leaps to pharmacologically plasticize my brain. what i've accomplished with this is:

• the microtraumas and negative reinforcement all throughout my childhood and adolescence (being unattractive, never having experienced the interest of a woman until i was nearly 19, growing up being called ugly and even disrespected and insulted by girls i had crushes on) have largely been erased from having any effect on my present thoughts and behaviors.
• i've had huge perspective shifts that have allowed me to see many different "bubbles" (for example the blackpill and looksmax spheres) from external perspectives to see how brutally in a bubble a lot of you/we are in. this bubble traps you and keeps you looking at everyone as if they're a mirror of your own insecurities.
• i operate far less egocentrically - i frame things differently in my head - mainly transforming from a feeling of self-righteousness about my positive traits (my ability to have so drastically changed my life, some of my objectively good traits, etc) to a feeling of pure gratitude for all the blessings i've been given in life.
• my intentions have become far more "good" and "pure" - i genuinely feel a strong purpose to do good in the world and teach other people how to succeed and be happy in life, and i think i can do a world of good in this regard (though obviously, changing your life will take far more than idolizing a role model - you have to put in the work).
• i always give respect to those who show respect to me - no exceptions. never would i disrespect a person who recognizes me as androgenic or is just genuinely going out of their way to compliment me or have a conversation. now with my platform growing and having more and more people supporting me, it brings a smile to my face to see the palpable real-world impact that i am having on the world.
• i have completely gotten over my complex of not being desired by women, and this is both due to having sufficient experience and success with women as well as seeing interactions with women far more as a "side quest" than the main objective now. spending time with nice women is lovely, but at the end of the day, the main thing that matters to me is the strong sense of purpose from the online movement that i've created + my own internal contentment.
• i somehow find, almost to a spooky extent, that women can sniff out egocentricity from a mile away. i always notice that i get treated so much better when i'm genuinely in an empathetic, loving and non-egocentric mood.
• love: i have immense self-love and not just for shallow egocentric reasons. i deeply love my actual self, not just the physical attributes i've been given but my actual raw consciousness. i also feel a sense of compassion for others because i know at the end of the day we're all just figuring out life on our own and none of us really have a clue what the fuck is going on or what we're doing here in this world.
• it's helped me emotionally and experientially internalize/understand many things that i could only comprehend on a cognitive/intellectual level beforehand. the negative reinforcement point being one example of this - i knew after ascending logically that i could walk up to a group and be instantly respected or at least taken seriously, but emotionally i couldn't internalize this principle because i had so many years growing up where i would walk up to a group and instantly be judged, discarded or excluded predominantly based on my appearance, and this took a lot to get over on an emotional level.

i think a lot of the reputation about me being a mean and egotistical person stems from my past in the looksmax-sphere, such as on this forum, where years ago, when i had partially ascended looks-wise but still had very minimal financial/status/girl success and was pretty discontent with life, i was known as a "forum bully" and would take my frustrations out on random people online because it made me feel better. the fascinating thing is: i never had the self awareness to realize this at the time. i remember hearing successful people spouting the quotes "hate only comes from below"; "hate is a projection of people's own insecurities" and i always saw this as a comical cope. "how ridiculous... this is human nature! the jock picks on the nerd! it's the cycle of life!" - i really thought i was winning at life for picking on some random unfortunate guy on the forum for how he looked. just fucking lol. there are a million better things i could have been doing with my time. it's only once you reach a state where you genuinely are proud of everything about yourself and content with your life that you realise that your attempts at hating really were just a projection of your own insecurities. this is why i no longer even check my filtered comments on tiktok etc, there are thousands of comments about me that i never even read.

another thing is: even the average semi-popular influencer, even if they're not intelligent/introspective + plasticize their brain etc, still becomes "unnaturally indifferent to insults/hate". what i mean by this is: in the ancient days, to insult someone you had to say it to their face. no one really says anything to my face in real life though. so if this was still the ancient times, i would probably be very unequipped to handle insults and criticism. now though? i get literally thousands of hate comments - it wouldn't even be possible to not become desensitized. and each month that goes by i care less and less, to the point where i don't often seek out to read comments about me anymore because i just don't really care what people are saying - if they're hating, i automatically see through the facade and see the projection and insecurity of a person who is likely suffering. why would you ever take hate/criticism seriously if it's from someone who you don't admire?

i also find the concept of neurotypicality to be very poorly understood in the looksmax-sphere. acting normal doesn't set you apart, and yes there are ways you can act poorly that will lead to be disrespected and women to be turned off (displaying shyness, insecurity, avoidance, low verbal fluency, low intelligence/competency, saying dumb shit due to lack of social acumen, low empathy). being truly confident in yourself, your uniqueness, your passions, your purpose, especially if you have looks-money-status on top of this, is ideal for all social encounters. i actually spent years especially throughout 2020-2021 attempting to mirror normies as hard as i could. i suppressed my intellect extremely hard, acted as much like a dumb / average intelligence jock as i could, and it genuinely got me nowhere. i was still a loser with minimal success or contentment in life. now i act however i want, using the most abstract PSL terms with women, filming random cringe tiktok lives, genuinely not even considering the opinions of outsiders - just doing whatever i feel like, and the level of respect and love i've gained from both men and women in doing so has been astounding. i hope all of you become comfortable and successful enough one day to be able to be able to act however you please and be both internally and externally rewarded for doing so. even if hypothetically i conjure up a fake persona that would lead to more external success, i would still prefer to be myself because my internal contentment is placed above external success on my hierarchy, and i derive contentment from acting how i want.

i understand many people will feel the need to be comedians by saying they didn't read the thread, or attempting to disrespect me, and that's fine - i understand that this is out of insecurity, and genuinely, to anyone who ends up doing that on this thread: i pray that one day you'll make it over the hill and realize how misguided the hate was. one thing i think plagues people in blackpill majorly is the belief that it's genuinely impossible to change the outcome of your life - that you could actually go from a discontent loser to genuinely being happy and grateful for everything in your life - but i promise it's possible, and for me, it's still only the beginning. i wish you the best of luck.

Read the entire thread I know this is a unrelated topic but I am keen to hear your thoughts. I still feel like that short fat and acne riddled kid piloting a new lean body, I have the "jocks pick on nerds" ideology I am aware this is wrong but yet i often find myself bullying those who used to bully me,I was wondering how you evolved from this Thanks for the thread i found it very entertaining