vanillaicecream
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Ok hear me out
Say you rate yourself a 3/10 and someone else rates you a 5/10, you may jump to the easy conclusion that they think you're actually 2 full points about your self perceived rating and the your real world results will follow from that, but that's wrong
In reality people may still treat you the same way you expect a 3/10 by your own standards to be treated, your social perception and dating success won't change a bit, anything you expect to experience as a 3/10 you'll also experience as a 5/10 by someone else's standards. The difference in numbers is just a scale mismatch, not a difference in lived reality. Your internal 3 and their 5 may map to the same social outcome, so the number itself doesn’t change anything. Ratings are just a cognitive shorthand, not the causal factor in social treatment.
Please try to keep up because as the smartest forum user it can feel very alienating, but I dumbed it down for you guys.
Say you rate yourself a 3/10 and someone else rates you a 5/10, you may jump to the easy conclusion that they think you're actually 2 full points about your self perceived rating and the your real world results will follow from that, but that's wrong
In reality people may still treat you the same way you expect a 3/10 by your own standards to be treated, your social perception and dating success won't change a bit, anything you expect to experience as a 3/10 you'll also experience as a 5/10 by someone else's standards. The difference in numbers is just a scale mismatch, not a difference in lived reality. Your internal 3 and their 5 may map to the same social outcome, so the number itself doesn’t change anything. Ratings are just a cognitive shorthand, not the causal factor in social treatment.
Please try to keep up because as the smartest forum user it can feel very alienating, but I dumbed it down for you guys.
