Brutal dating app story (why inhib + risks are cockblocking me from the apps) [long, TLDR at the end]

[luuk]

I’ve gotten to the point where I’m more than attractive enough to get matches & I honestly have somewhat low standards (annoyingly high libido & abused dog childhood), the problem is that I just don’t interact with enough women on a regular basis outside of clubs that aren’t either taken, not interested or not interesting

Dating apps seem like the logical answer but:

• I’m living in a small uni city where you will probably interact with girls you meet/hookup with on there again, often repeatedly (i’m haunted by particular whoreish club slays who seem to always be out when i am)
• The chance of matching with people you know is very high and pretty embarrassing given how cringy dating app prompts and pics can be & i’m still high inhib but working on it
• I have foid friends who have literally just used the apps to troll and get attention/validation. They might genuinely still be on there and see me if i sign up jfl

Regarding my last point I have a very brutal story..

I used to live in a mixed uni flat, more girls than guys & half of the guys were antisocial so it was really just me and my friend alongside the girls. They were nice (& hot) but the typical rich, privately educated popular girl types, fun to be around but immensely privileged and well off

One of the antisocial male flatmates was rather.. odd, he was probably a bit ND and had a few embarrassing incidents that left a bad first impression and he was a bit of a meme after that. He could’ve easily played it off if he kept hanging out with us imo but he became very isolated and didn’t go out a lot, often waiting until stupid hours in the morning to make dinner just to avoid us (and often, to his dismay, encountering drunk people coming back from the pub/club)

But anyways, he was like a cryptid of sorts in our flat, often being mentioned and making noise but rarely showing his face. I felt bad for him and he was honestly kind of cool when we first met. He got along fine with me (hardly spoke to the others) and I tried to help him out of his shell, get him to socialise with the others but it never really clicked for him and he was always pretty introverted

I feel like he was probably BP’d because despite being nearly 6’ and probably MTN (just incredibly skinny), he commented on how tall I was very early on and about how he wished he was my height (i’m maybe 3 inches taller than him?) which felt very random. Nonetheless, I often saw him going out on his own very nicely dressed (and once even with flowers), and it turned out that he’d been going on tinder/hinge dates. He never brought a girl home, sadly

But one day a few of us were having predrinks in the kitchen and were messing around, and two of the girls (rich blonde HTBs) were giggling to themselves because they were trolling on hinge and were just saying random unhinged shit to guys to see how they’d respond and if they’d remain interested (the joys of being a foid..)

Suddenly they end up laughing and screaming hysterically, and we all gather around to find out that she’d found our flatmate’s hinge account and it was bad. Cringy photos, ghastly attempts at being a performative male (like 3 period related prompts) and just a lot of weird embarrassing shit all over the profile

They swiped on him at first which would have been embarrassing enough, but then as we got drunker of them had the absolutely brutal idea to take photos of his profile, print them out (had a small printer in her room) and tape them to his door.

Nonetheless he became a massive meme in the flat & wider accommodation as the word got out and his reputational damage was irreversible. We very rarely saw him come out for anything after that and he deleted his account, brutal shit

But yeah, dating apps are literally a game for decently attractive women and you can get absolutely brutalised if you do things wrong, in such a way that you’re fucked if you’re in a place like mine where people know eachother & word gets out. I wanna slay on them but the prospect of matching with a girl I know or anyone like them (one of the pair i mentioned is basically Regina George irl jfl) and getting trolled and/or reputationally raped scares me off a bit idk

TLDR: ND normie flatmate tries dating apps, cringemaxxes on profile and gets trolled, exposed and reputationally destroyed by WASP HTBs who use it as a game, scaring me off of trying the apps

 

[luuk]

bvmp

 

[luuk]

up

 

[luuk]

site is genuinely cucking me i thought this would be a banger

@ragingmanlet @Former Shortcel @afroheadluke @turkcelfatcel @HundredManSlayer @incels @mohi_100

 

[HundredManSlayer]

hm well

 

[luuk]

site is genuinely cucking me i thought this would be a banger

@ragingmanlet @Former Shortcel @afroheadluke @turkcelfatcel @HundredManSlayer @incels @mohi_100

@lnceIs didn’t realise you were namefrauding jfl

 

[uglyman86594]

site is genuinely cucking me i thought this would be a banger

@ragingmanlet @Former Shortcel @afroheadluke @turkcelfatcel @HundredManSlayer @incels @mohi_100

It should have .how was he 6'0 and mtn and got bullied I still don't get it even if he was cringe I see a lot of attractive guys doing cringe ass shit and still get away with jt

 

[luuk]

It should have .how was he 6'0 and mtn and got bullied I still don't get it even if he was cringe I see a lot of attractive guys doing cringe ass shit and still get away with jt

He had potential but he was probably under 60kg at 5’11” and was incredibly awkward

Looks are obviously very important but a guy who behaves very eccentrically and avoids everyone is inevitably going to end up being bullied by cliquey girls, not out of hate but because they become a source of amusement

Like for these kinds of girls this stuff is pure entertainment, they don’t have the slightest clue of what it is like and don’t have much empathy for people not like themselves

 

[JohanLieberttt]

not sure what you're looking for here. who tf cares if they find ur profile just own that shit and dont be a loser or ugly

 

[uglyman86594]

He had potential but he was probably under 60kg at 5’11” and was incredibly awkward

Looks are obviously very important but a guy who behaves very eccentrically and avoids everyone is inevitably going to end up being bullied by cliquey girls, not out of hate but because they become a source of amusement

Like for these kinds of girls this stuff is pure entertainment, they don’t have the slightest clue of what it is like and don’t have much empathy for people not like themselves

Its sad I relate to this guy tho I also avoid most people in my class except some of my close I friends (I know them since grade 5)

 

[ragingmanlet]

site is genuinely cucking me i thought this would be a banger

@ragingmanlet @Former Shortcel @afroheadluke @turkcelfatcel @HundredManSlayer @incels @mohi_100

The site is full of DNRCucks that’s why.

 

[luuk]

not sure what you're looking for here. who tf cares if they find ur profile just own that shit and dont be a loser or ugly

eh maybe, its more the fact that it feels like every pretty girl on there is just there to take the piss

 

[luuk]

Its sad I relate to this guy tho I also avoid most people in my class except some of my close I friends (I know them since grade 5)

Sorry to hear
I felt bad for him too but this kind of stuff is bound to happen in this environment, its like an extension of the popular girls patronising the autistic kid and treating him like a pet back in school

I could have ended up like him tbh I was like HLTN and a bit sheltered when I first came to uni and I jestermaxxed way too hard unintentionally, but I ended up playing it all off by not letting it get to me and being as social as i could

He could have had a decent social life if he played it off and didn’t retreat himself in defeat whenever he messed up but I can’t blame him its a learned behaviour, a defense mechanism

 

[JohanLieberttt]

eh maybe, its more the fact that it feels like every pretty girl on there is just there to take the piss

a couple chicks seems like a small sample size to be going off. if u LM enough i guarantee they wouldn't be there to take a piss

 

[luuk]

a couple chicks seems like a small sample size to be going off. if u LM enough i guarantee they wouldn't be there to take a piss

I mean I can confidently say that like half of my female friends here have used the apps at one point or another to troll and mess with people as a game whilst drinking & I feel like most girls don’t need them to get laid/meet guys considering that this is a uni city and there’s attractive people our age everywhere

Honestly though its mainly these 2 girls in particular that I know that did it to him who I’m friendly with but also know would absolutely eviscerate me and share it with everyone we know for shits and gigs if they found my profile

 

[JohanLieberttt]

@luuk Honestly I used to think the same thing in regards to being in a uni area and assuming chicks had 0 reason to be on apps, but i currently reside in a uni area and have gone on dates with objectively attractive women that go to the university. Either way its not like apps are everything and meeting people in person is much better anyway. With that being said though id think it takes higher inhibition to secure a date and go up to somebody irl vs in the comfort of your house on an app. at the end of the day you are choosing how to live your life according to others frameworks and id say fuck that and do what you want.

 

[chudpiller]

Aaand that why I don’t use tinder despite being of age and in need of slays. Jfl at the number of girl from my school I have seen on there. Kinda social suicide if you get caught and my rep is already rock bottom.

 

[zombey]

Aaand those who do nothing get nothing.

But seriously you could just try and change the location to further away and drive out to them.

 

[luuk]

@luuk Honestly I used to think the same thing in regards to being in a uni area and assuming chicks had 0 reason to be on apps, but i currently reside in a uni area and have gone on dates with objectively attractive women that go to the university. Either way its not like apps are everything and meeting people in person is much better anyway. With that being said though id think it takes higher inhibition to secure a date and go up to somebody irl vs in the comfort of your house on an app. at the end of the day you are choosing how to live your life according to others frameworks and id say fuck that and do what you want.

Yeah you’re right its just a psychological block ig

Might see whats on there I just have terrible texting game and I don’t like performing like a jester to get attention, which is what edating really is much of the time when you don’t have her right in front of you and you’re just another profile to swipe on

I need better places to chat to girls that are actually relationship material tbh

Girls at clubs and pubs rarely want long term and even rarer suitable for it, I never really see any social opportunities with randoms at the library/cafes (people are either with friends or minding their own business and I’m not low inhib/foolish enough to cold approach). Girls I meet through friends are too often taken, off limits or undesirable and my course is predominantly male and the women that are there aren’t anything to write home about

 

[JohanLieberttt]

Yeah you’re right its just a psychological block ig

Might see whats on there I just have terrible texting game and I don’t like performing like a jester to get attention, which is what edating really is much of the time when you don’t have her right in front of you and you’re just another profile to swipe on

I need better places to chat to girls that are actually relationship material tbh

Girls at clubs and pubs rarely want long term and even rarer suitable for it, I never really see any social opportunities with randoms at the library/cafes (people are either with friends or minding their own business and I’m not low inhib/foolish enough to cold approach). Girls I meet through friends are too often taken, off limits or undesirable and my course is predominantly male and the women that are there aren’t anything to write home about

yeah i cant deny there is alot of jester involved, especially on tinder. its basically just a game and even if it works (1%) of the time it's just fatherless thots. id check hinge or bumble. as far as girls in clubs go yeah its the same demographic as the women who use tinder so they are not LTR material. Some bars or dive bars in my exp do i have higher value women, i just met a nurse like two weeks ago who im still talking to here and there. is there one main nightlife area or other spots by you?