Can a self defeating mindset make it over?

[Deleted member 8244]

Aka you think its over before trying to imrpve yourself locks in place that youll stay incel forever?

 

[Deleted member 9670]

definitely

 

[Deleted member 8244]

definitely

Why do you looksmax? And do you consider it becoming someone different or changing who you are when your done / doing it

 

[Deleted member 9670]

Why do you looksmax? And do you consider it becoming someone different or changing who you are when your done / doing it

im ugly

not really just a better version of myself

 

[Gaia262]

Aka you think its over before trying to imrpve yourself locks in place that youll stay incel forever?

Depends, some people can pick themselves out of it and use it as motivation.

Others just wollow in their self pity forever and will always self sabotage themselves.

You see it on this forum all the time, the real surgerymaxxers vs self hating ethnics and shit posters.

I knew people in real life that just talk negatively about literally everything and put themselves in inferior positions.

It's a mindset.

No different to the elephant in the circus held down by a small rope , which it could easily break free from , but its too conditioned not to and sees it as its prison.

 

[TUSSELEIF]

Yes, or else decent looking blokes wouldn’t kill themselves or go ER

 

[JosephGarrot123]

Yes psl makes you bdd then make you feel hopeless turns into depression and eventually the path will be suicide. It's hard to break out of that mindset when you think it's over. Where being negative becomes your normal and be self comforting. Doesn't help that it's your way of coping, this is why it's hard to leave this place once you've found it. The only person that can change your life is you. No one can convince you. Some people can be here for years and it'll slowly kill their life because of the brutal truth, and Some people can't handle that negativity. That bdd can make people self conscious and avoid other people if they think they are ugly

 

[Deleted member 8244]

Yes psl makes you bdd then make you feel hopeless turns into depression and eventually the path will be suicide. It's hard to break out of that mindset when you think it's over. Where being negative becomes your normal and be self comforting. Doesn't help that it's your way of coping, this is why it's hard to leave this place once you've found it. The only person that can change your life is you. No one can convince you. Some people can be here for years and it'll slowly kill their life because of the brutal truth, and Some people can't handle that negativity. That bdd can make people self conscious and avoid other people if they think they are ugly

Thats where im at rn

 

[SeiGun]

yea but if you get out of it,
you either became blue/redpill guy calling himself ex incel on reddit
or you start looksmaxing and consider surgery
when you get a gf you cant stop thinking about their nature

 

[JosephGarrot123]

Thats where im at rn

Its bad. I haven't left my house in 4 years but I'm actually deformed. A 8 year old has more life experience than me. You have to change or it's too late man. Most of my life is inside my room playing games because of me avoiding other people. My confidence is 0 because of I perceive myself cuz I'm ugly which means no self esteem.

 

[Deleted member 8244]

yea but if you get out of it,
you either became blue/redpill guy calling himself ex incel on reddit
or you start looksmaxing and consider surgery
when you get a gf you cant stop thinking about their nature

I think im in a depressing self defeatest loop of me not believing in myself and that non belief becoming reality

like i do this with my homework where i think “ i dont have enough time to do it” even though i dont try because i think the time wont be enough even though i dint start it

 

[Deleted member 8244]

Its bad. I haven't left my house in 4 years but I'm actually deformed. A 8 year old has more life experience than me. You have to change or it's too late man. Most of my life is inside my room playing games because of me avoiding other people. My confidence is 0 because of I perceive myself cuz I'm ugly which means no self esteem.

I’m sorry if your actually deformed but i think im having really bad mental side effects and getting nothing done…

like my body wants to stay at 190lbs no matter what and if i dont eat i binge the next day

i always feel like i have no time to do stuff because i think homework is boring yet i dont do it and thats why im failing…

And im confused of “being something your not” is in the same catagory as self imorovement

 

[SeiGun]

I think im in a depressing self defeatest loop of me not believing in myself and that non belief becoming reality

like i do this with my homework where i think “ i dont have enough time to do it” even though i dont try because i think the time wont be enough even though i dint start it

how old are you?

 

[Deleted member 8244]

how old are you?

18

gonna be 19 in feb

 

[Deleted member 6164]

Not so much. In my case it is very clearly over, like no amount of self improvement can make me decent looking. What would make me decent looking is surgery, but that costs thousands of dollars and the only way I’d acquire that money is through several years of college, so by the time I’m decent looking I’d be 25-27 years old and have to go for 30 year old chicks. Yuck.

 

[Deleted member 8244]

Not so much. In my case it is very clearly over, like no amount of self improvement can make me decent looking. What would make me decent looking is surgery, but that costs thousands of dollars and the only way I’d acquire that money is through several years of college, so by the time I’m decent looking I’d be 25-27 years old and have to go for 30 year old chicks. Yuck.

im sorry about that...

my case is im average but i'm most definitely autistic to some extent or have adhd


and im confused and hopeless

 

[Deleted member 8244]

i have mood swings so often... i felt like a million bucks this moring but now it feels really bad