Can someone scientifically explain to me why being NT is important for dating?

[Clown Show]

I can only accept these factors as important for dating as a man:
1. Looks - good genetics overall
2. Resources - being able to provide for foid and offspring
3. Capacity for violence - being able to defend the foid and offspring

I see no evolutionary reason why being 'NT' would be important for dating, if there is such thing as NT... Was there any period in history where man had to have good 'rizz', be social clown, to be able to speak about popular TV shows and songs, to get laid?

I would have been saved from so much suffering in my teens if someone just said to me, clear that disgusting acne from your face, hit the gym, and just have enough balls to talk to a foid, I would have slayed like crazy, instead I went down the PUA, rizz, confidence rabbit hole, which unironically made me more autistic and inhibited towards social situations.

Why would 'socially weird male' be any less desirable if he fulfills those requirements that I listed above than some oofy doofy??

Can someone explain this to me, so that we can end this NT cope and help people here focus on things that really matter and will yield results...

 

[Vermilioncore]

Usually NT people have the capacity to be violent, approachable, and outspoken. If you’re some bizarre weirdo who can’t act like a normal guy, then how the fuck will you stand up for yourself in a normal way without resorting to violence as a first option or without blowing things out of proportion like a little brat? Also, how will she take you to dinner parties, social gatherings, etc, if you can’t “speak” and “converse” like everyone else. It’ll be like dating a special needs child instead of dating a man.

 

[Deleted member 14693]

It is just so you can grasp social situations and know what is attractive to the opposite gender.

Autists are usually just ugly as fuck

 

[hypernormie]

humans are a social species and the primary skill in social situations is navigating people’s emotions. Being NT basically means you don’t have a psychologically abrasive personality as you will only broach the kinds of topics in the kinds of ways that are least likely to arouse strong and more specifically strong negative emotions.

Talking about the blackpill for example is not NT because this can generate strong negative emotions.

However you can talk about the blackpill in an NT way, ie: delivering uncomfortable information in a way that is mindful of people’s emotions and least likely to generate strong negative emotions.

The most NT person neither talks about things that can generate strong negative emotions and talks about those safer topics in ways that are least likely to generate strong negative emotions.

The least NT person both talks about things that are liable to generate strong negative emotions and talks about them in ways that aren’t psychologically comfortable for other people to digest.

This is why a sufficiently good looking person can be less NT than a normal looking person, because even if he talks about things that generate negative emotions, the negative emotions they arouse are buffered by the positive emotions that are aroused by their appearance.

If you are going around interacting with people in ways that are inconsiderate of their emotions, they will not want to talk to you. Other non NT people may not care but NT people will. Given that most of human life involves directly or indirectly relying on other people, it’s important that other people actually want to be around you. It’s evolutionarily advantageous to have large social circles of people who are invested in you because in our chaotic world anything can happen and you don’t want to be left out in the cold with no one willing to help. It’s very adaptive to be NT have a bunch of normie friends.

High prenatal testosterone for example is correlated to having larger social groups and a stronger need for social interaction/lower tolerance for spending time alone. However these social groups tend to be more shallow but larger in number. This can be seen as high testosterone males being more motivated to generate friendships for utility, in terms of gaining social status. These kinds of men will still have close friends but they will make a bigger effort to having a lot of friends who think positively of them and defend them in the case of an emergency. You don’t need to share the inner depths of your life with someone to form a useful friendship, you only need to ensure that that person has a consistent history of positive experiences with you. Ie: being NT.

I have plenty of friends from high school for whom I couldn’t tell you their last name but if they were to get into a fight I would jump in to help them no questions asked.

 

[thereallegend]

communication, emotional intelligence, social status