Can't get rid off bad childhood experiences

[elgato97]

Guys, who were ugly or unwanted during childhood and adolescence, and became much better looking after, how you could make yourself believe that you are not that ugly boy anymore? Especially the ones who got rejected many times and got called into face how ugly they are including their siblings, friends and crushes? Now I have ll surgery soon and I am really afraid if I will still feel myself as that small dude. Would you suggest me to go to psychologist? I can't be very confident and go try to find out how people/attractive women react to my cockiness or directness, but I am too afraid. Can call me a pussy, I won't be mad, but I really need some advices not just criticism

 

[SexuallyAbusive]

become the rapist they thought you were

 

[hiwasuwor]

the reason they bully you is because they are envy of you

 

[Foreverbrad]

It probably won't change much. The power gaps either side of Normie are monstrous.

 

[elgato97]

the reason they bully you is because they are envy of you

No one bullies me now, quite opposite I have good friends who encourages me and because of them I am not a virgin hater. Got bullied verbally throughout childhood and adolescence. And I still have mentality of that poor boy. I am in vicious cycle of depression because of that. Something that holds me back and doesn't let me enjoy my life. And I am really afraid that height injury won't do a shit because of this. I want to fix it.

 

[elgato97]

It probably won't change much. The power gaps either side of Normie are monstrous.

Never met really good looking guys without girls and any kind of leadership qualities? I met quite often.

 

[hiwasuwor]

Got bullied verbally throughout childhood and adolescence. And I still have mentality of that poor boy. I am in vicious cycle of depression because of that. Something that holds me back and doesn't let me enjoy my life. And I am really afraid that height injury won't do a shit because of this. I want to fix it.

same i got bullied throughout my school experience and years after school was over it downed me down that i thought im not worthy of having friends or beeing treated good jfl

 

[elgato97]

same i got bullied throughout my school experience and even years after school was over it downed me down that i thought im not worthy of having friends or beeing treated good jfl

What can we do? I am going to have limb lengthening surgery in 2-3 months. I was sure it will change me, but in the last weeks I am afraid I will feel like trash anyways. I am not going to run from my problems anymore man. I want to tackle them but in a right way

 

[wollet2]

It probably won't change much. The power gaps either side of Normie are monstrous.

what does this mean
incel 38 days - 34 slays

 

[Foreverbrad]

what does this mean
incel 38 days - 34 slays

It's two different stats.

 

[wollet2]

It's two different stats.

youre incel but had 34 slays in 38 days?

 

[Foreverbrad]

youre incel but had 34 slays in 38 days?

34 slays total, 38 days since last slay...

 

[loksr]

Fuck enough girls and you’ll be fine

 

[elgato97]

Fuck enough girls and you’ll be fine

That's what my best friend telling me too along with money. After height surgery is done I will concentrate on this and career. After all the pain I will go through during surgery I hope I won't be a pussy anymore

 

[nandor]

Guys, who were ugly or unwanted during childhood and adolescence, and became much better looking after, how you could make yourself believe that you are not that ugly boy anymore? Especially the ones who got rejected many times and got called into face how ugly they are including their siblings, friends and crushes? Now I have ll surgery soon and I am really afraid if I will still feel myself as that small dude. Would you suggest me to go to psychologist? I can't be very confident and go try to find out how people/attractive women react to my cockiness or directness, but I am too afraid. Can call me a pussy, I won't be mad, but I really need some advices not just criticism

if i was you i would try therapy, they usually deal with stuff like this, but remember that the change will come from you and nobody else, just accept your looks and think how gl you are everytime you feel uncomfortable (maybe im coping and this stuff wont change shit but at least try it lol)

 

[fruitgunpop]

Analyze your ratios and proportions like a true aspie.
If you have ideal ratios, this will reinforce the feeling that you're actually good looking.
Also you'll become a rating machine every time you look at somebody's face.
Therefore you'll get dopamine hit every time you see somebody u objectively mog

 

[bara]

This is a form of trauma.

Best you can do is self reflect/therapy (but muh therapy does not work).

Perhaps do some research on your issue (do not get sucked in so much into the self help trap though).

Once you have self reflected enough and have accepted your new self its time to move on otherwise that shit will rot in your subconscious and constantly be in the back of your head/thoughts.

There is no point to dwell on your older self, focus on the present and move forward, improve daily.

 

[sergeant blackpill]

Guys, who were ugly or unwanted during childhood and adolescence, and became much better looking after, how you could make yourself believe that you are not that ugly boy anymore? Especially the ones who got rejected many times and got called into face how ugly they are including their siblings, friends and crushes? Now I have ll surgery soon and I am really afraid if I will still feel myself as that small dude. Would you suggest me to go to psychologist? I can't be very confident and go try to find out how people/attractive women react to my cockiness or directness, but I am too afraid. Can call me a pussy, I won't be mad, but I really need some advices not just criticism

I have the same problem, i used to be fat as a kid and late into my teens, i still feel like that worthless fat blob on the inside and i'm 28, i don't think it's entirely possible to really "fix" this, it's a permanent scar that won't fade
Formative years are called formative years for a reason, it shapes who you become, and there's very little you can do if you fuck up that very crucial period in time

 

[edodalic29]

You need to sit and down and journal your thoughts . Figure out the root cause , meditate on it . The only way to fix trauma is to go within . Ingrain this into your head , The past is the past, let it be , you cant control it so dont give a fuck , focus on the now , and control the present moment

 

[Danish_Retard]

Go to an older male psychologist and let him unravel your mind. (Not a fucking therapist, it doesn't mean shit, a psychologist,) Specifically, look for someone specialising in "intensive dynamic short-term psychotherapy", it's by far the most effective in studies.

The only thing that has somewhat helped me mentally. You have got to keep in mind that it's 100-200€/hr if you can't get your government to help, it was free for me. But 10 sessions talking did more than at least 100 hours of self help and philosophy bullshit.

I have somewhat your same problem, I lost 30kg and still felt like people looked at me like I was subhuman trash.

 

[elgato97]

Go to an older male psychologist and let him unravel your mind. (Not a fucking therapist, it doesn't mean shit, a psychologist,) Specifically, look for someone specialising in "intensive dynamic short-term psychotherapy", it's by far the most effective in studies.

The only thing that has somewhat helped me mentally. You have got to keep in mind that it's 100-200€/hr if you can't get your government to help, it was free for me. But 10 sessions talking did more than at least 100 hours of self help and philosophy bullshit.

I have somewhat your same problem, I lost 30kg and still felt like people looked at me like I was subhuman trash.

That’s encourages me. Thanks a lot. I will definitely try to find a psychologist

 

[Blackgymmax]

just go on tinder and see what happens. most likely youre in the same position as before as youre just average height ltn-mtn lol

 

[Blackgymmax]

What can we do? I am going to have limb lengthening surgery in 2-3 months. I was sure it will change me, but in the last weeks I am afraid I will feel like trash anyways. I am not going to run from my problems anymore man. I want to tackle them but in a right way

its not going to do anything. unless you have like a chadlite face and grew to like 6'5 6'6 you arent magically going to become a slayer lol. youre leagues beyond even the lowest tier of slayer lol.

 

[Deleted member 20631]

Just get angry and let that shit fuel you,