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Need some real advice here because this shit is genuinely frying my brain.
Me and my first serious gf broke up about 10 months ago (she dumped me at bad time in my life). Relationship wasnt too good overall—super complicated, and she had major mental issues but we had really good times. Both of her parents were diagnosed narcissists, and she definitely inherited that shit along with bipolar tendencies. We dated from middle of freshman year until like the start to middle of junior year.
After we broke up, I didn't see her for like 4 months. When I came back, she randomly started hitting me up saying she "missed fucking me" and wanted to hang out. While the stupidest part is, during those 4 months apart, she was out here spreading fake rumors and making semi-serious false accusations trying to completely tarnish my reputation with our friends since we hung out with the same people. She was a giga iqlet for sending those "fuck me" messages, because I showed the receipts to the exact people she lied to, so she exposed herself and had to larp it was ai or some bs but nobody believed her. I din't wanna hang out with her because of the shit she did and the lies, but truthfully If she didn't do any of that shit I most likely would have.
But here's my issue: despite knowing she’s a psycho, hating her behavior, and knowing I'm not the first guy she’s tried to ruin, I still find myself missing her. Because we dated for so long during formative years, I genuinely thought we were immune to breaking up.
I don't know why I still feel this weird lingering attachment and love for her. I literally still catch myself hugging my pillow like a dorky sensitive cuck thinking about her sometimes.
The confusing part is my life has drastically improved since the split. I've had tons of slays since, my looks and life style has got way better, and I've started going giga-viral on social media for looks-focused content. Despite all that—even with girls who are objectively better looking and have great personalities—no one else makes me feel the same way. The thought of getting into another serious relationship with a new girl just feels weird as fuck and makes me cringe.
One thing that's permanently stuck in my brain is how she used to manipulate me with lines like, "I know we were made for each other" and "I know if we ever fell apart we'd find our way back." I know it's just some toxic high school female manipulative bullshit, but it's lowkey consuming me.
What is this mental illness? Is my dating life and fucking over? Because I can't detach and I don't know how to get over her when nobody appeals to me in the same way.
Me and my first serious gf broke up about 10 months ago (she dumped me at bad time in my life). Relationship wasnt too good overall—super complicated, and she had major mental issues but we had really good times. Both of her parents were diagnosed narcissists, and she definitely inherited that shit along with bipolar tendencies. We dated from middle of freshman year until like the start to middle of junior year.
After we broke up, I didn't see her for like 4 months. When I came back, she randomly started hitting me up saying she "missed fucking me" and wanted to hang out. While the stupidest part is, during those 4 months apart, she was out here spreading fake rumors and making semi-serious false accusations trying to completely tarnish my reputation with our friends since we hung out with the same people. She was a giga iqlet for sending those "fuck me" messages, because I showed the receipts to the exact people she lied to, so she exposed herself and had to larp it was ai or some bs but nobody believed her. I din't wanna hang out with her because of the shit she did and the lies, but truthfully If she didn't do any of that shit I most likely would have.
But here's my issue: despite knowing she’s a psycho, hating her behavior, and knowing I'm not the first guy she’s tried to ruin, I still find myself missing her. Because we dated for so long during formative years, I genuinely thought we were immune to breaking up.
I don't know why I still feel this weird lingering attachment and love for her. I literally still catch myself hugging my pillow like a dorky sensitive cuck thinking about her sometimes.
The confusing part is my life has drastically improved since the split. I've had tons of slays since, my looks and life style has got way better, and I've started going giga-viral on social media for looks-focused content. Despite all that—even with girls who are objectively better looking and have great personalities—no one else makes me feel the same way. The thought of getting into another serious relationship with a new girl just feels weird as fuck and makes me cringe.
One thing that's permanently stuck in my brain is how she used to manipulate me with lines like, "I know we were made for each other" and "I know if we ever fell apart we'd find our way back." I know it's just some toxic high school female manipulative bullshit, but it's lowkey consuming me.
What is this mental illness? Is my dating life and fucking over? Because I can't detach and I don't know how to get over her when nobody appeals to me in the same way.
