Charismamaxxing: For social retards, general attraction and success

[Zeekie]

Charisma is probably the second or third most important factor when it comes to attracting women (the first one is looks). You could argue about whether money or game/charisma matters more, and honestly, both matter depending on your goals. If you're looking for something long-term, money usually holds more weight. But if you're just trying to hook up? Charisma steals the show.

Either way, becoming more charismatic is one of the best things you can work on, for dating, for friendships, for life in general. There are already a bunch of guides on this forum about looks and attraction, but there’s not nearly enough solid advice on how to be likeable (WHICH IS REALLY FUCKING NEEDED AROUND HERE, 50% OF YOU ARE ASSHOLES, KINDNESS IS FREE NIGGERS). So I’m putting this together to drop everything I’ve learned about charisma and how to level it up.

Quick disclaimer: I’m not claiming to be the most charismatic guy. But I’ve made huge improvements since my early teens. I’ve strengthened old relationships, made about 20 new friends who I actually like, and I’ve studied this stuff to death (there exists such a thing as the "scientific study of charisma" and I've been down that rabbit hole)

0. What Even Is Charisma?​

Some people act like charisma is some god-given, mystical aura you either have or don’t. That’s bullshit. Charisma is just a mix of traits and behaviors that you can develop.

Here’s the most basic formula that works for most people:

1. High Openness​

2. High Conscientiousness​

3. High Extraversion​

4. High Agreeableness​

5. Low Neuroticism​

6. Good Communication Skills​

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Sure, stuff like being funny, attractive, or powerful plays a role, but those are way more individual-based, or just too obvious to mention. You can’t just say “be funnier” and expect results. Humor depends on context, your audience, your timing. So I’m skipping those and focusing on what you can actually build into your day-to-day life.

1. High Openness​

“Willingness to try new things, think creatively, and break the mold.”

Openness makes you more interesting and helps with storytelling, empathy, curiosity. And it’s fun as hell to develop too.

My method: Weekly Exploration

Once a week (I usually go on Saturdays), go somewhere completely new. Could be:

• A street in your neighborhood you’ve never walked
• A store you’ve never been in
• A random bus ride to god-knows-where
• A park, event, meetup, anything

Think of it like a video game. Your city is a blacked-out map, and you’re lighting it up with every new spot you explore.

Protocol:
→ Every Saturday (or whenever), leave your house and seek a new experience for at least 30 mins, or even the whole day. Bonus points if you bring someone with you. Do not repeat the same places.

2. Conscientiousness​

“Self-discipline, responsibility, consistency, and goal-setting.”

People who seem like they’ve got their shit together have conscientiousness. And it makes you way more charismatic.

Vague advice like “be more organized” means jack shit. So here’s the most precise advice I can come up with:

→ Build daily routines.
I do the same stuff every day: wake up, shower, eat, brush, sleep, all at the same time. Except Saturdays (because that's my "openness" day). This automates good habits and makes your life smoother.

→ Know your direction.
People follow leaders. Set goals. Short-term and long-term. Write them down. Make plans. No one’s gonna be drawn to you if you seem lost, aimless, or flaky.

3. Extroversion​

“Getting energy from social interactions, being outgoing and confident.”

This one hurt me bad. I used to be super introverted, socially awkward, barely had any real friends, I was always indoors, never opened up.

The fix is Exposure therapy. Period. You need volume to get better socially. That means consistently meeting people, even if it feels awkward at first. Over time, you’ll filter out the people you click with, and you’ve got a better social life.

How I do it:
I tie it to the Weekly Exploration. Every time I go out, I talk to at least 5 strangers. Ask a question. Compliment them. Joke around. Doesn’t matter who, men, women, old folks, kids.

I log the convos in my phone:

• Name
• What went well?
• What was awkward?
• One thing to try differently next time

Eventually, I scaled to 10 people per week and started talking to at least 1 new person a day.

Volume practice fixes everything. Social skills are no different. The more you do ANYTHING the better you get at it.

4. Agreeableness​

“Kindness, empathy, cooperation, loyalty.”

Being charismatic is basically making people feel good around you. That’s it. You don’t need to be fake-nice. You need to be genuinely thoughtful in ways people can feel.

Here’s the 4-Actions Daily Rule:

1. Do a favor for someone in your life. Something they’ll notice.
2. Give a compliment, real, specific, and sincere.
3. Call or text someone to check in, ask how they’re doing.
4. Listen deeply, nod, paraphrase, ask questions. Don't interrupt.

People will feel you’re present. They’ll open up more. They’ll remember you. And when others see you being kind and considerate, your reputation will snowball. Eventually, this stuff becomes second nature. You’ll catch yourself doing it without thinking, and that’s when charisma starts flowing.

5. Low Neuroticism​

“Stable emotions, low anxiety, low insecurity, and minimal drama.”

Nothing kills charisma faster than being a whiny, angry, unstable bitch. You want to be a rock, not a panic attack waiting to happen.

What worked for me:

• 10 minutes of meditation every morning (makes you more calm)
• Write down 5-10 things you're grateful for (makes you less depressed)
• No insulting people unless they start it
• Don’t be negative just to seem edgy or “real”
• If you have to be negative, make sure it’s useful or deserved
• Don’t talk shit unless your status is actually on the line

Honestly, just avoid drama unless absolutely necessary. Be the chill one. People need someone calm to anchor them, become that.

6. Communication Skills​

Communicative skills are the most important trait for charisma. If you don’t know how to properly communicate, you’re pretty much fucked. Communication is complex and highly individual, what works for one person might not work for another, but most people struggle with some combination of enunciation, articulation, and rate of speech.

Personally, I had major issues with enunciation and speaking too fast. I never struggled with organizing my thoughts, I could write clearly and effectively, but when I spoke, I’d ramble or get cut off with “huh?” over and over again. That’s a clear communication failo, and it makes you come across as way less charismatic than you actually are.

There are tons of communication problems people might have: mumbling, using too many filler words, being indirect, or failing to make your point land. You have to actively work on identifying your specific weaknesses and address them. For me, two exercises changed everything:

1. Metronome Speaking: Speak out loud to a beat. Start with one syllable per beat, then two, then full words. Start at 90 beats per minute and increase to 120 over time. Do this for 15 minutes a day using any free metronome app or website.
2. Pencil Drill: Put a pencil (not vertically, lol) between your teeth and speak clearly. Start by reading a paragraph for five minutes. Later, add tongue twisters to increase difficulty. This builds extremely crisp enunciation. (This honestly helps even if you don't struggle with enunciation)

These drills helped me so much that I was literally chosen to give the graduation speech at my school, and out of 20 people in a project, I was picked to speak to a crowd of over 80 and give an hour-long presentation.

Even if this is a forum for looksmaxxing, if you’re ignoring social and communicative skills, you’re fucking yourself up. Being a 10/10 Chad who’s socially inept won’t get you as far as you think. Stacies look for other Chads who are also socially competent, maybe it doesn't matter if you're looking for people less attractive than you, but if you date around your league or above you need communication skills, or you're getting replaced for someone as hot as you who actually has them. And beyond dating, charisma affects your job prospects, your friendships, your ability to lead, persuade, and get shit done.

Final Thoughts​

Charisma is NOT magic. It’s just a bunch of small habits practiced consistently until you become the kind of person people are naturally drawn to. So, if you’re not naturally charismatic? Practice this. Track your progress. Apply the volume principle. Stay on it and you will change.

Get out there. Explore. Talk to people. Care about them. Be a better human. That’s literally all it takes. And if you feel like you don't actually feel like you're that person? Then just fake it, all it takes is for people to perceive that way even if deep down you're not like that lol

Happy charismamaxxing.

 

[yuuwaku]

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[Evgeniy291]

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[slush]

had a 5'3 lightskin indian friend talking to blonde htbs. Dude was the most nt person i knew.

 

[Zeekie]

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[Evgeniy291]

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[Evgeniy291]

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[Nochills]

charismaxxing = get gud game jfl also being an asshole is the path of least resistance kindness is not free nigga

 

[gymcel64]

Just be low inhib and above 90 IQ tbh