Dr. Mog
Researcher at moggerdom and zoomerology
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All of us have social needs. They can be summarised into main three Significance, acceptance and approval.
This can be used for both - manipulation and prevent being manipulated. Your first step is searching for which of these three social needs a person has/ person wants from an interaction.
1) The moment we see someone exhibiting this type of behaviour - “Yeah I’m a CEO, got 40 employees under me, revenue turned out to be 7 mil last month.” Or they might say “yk we went to Disney land this Month, stayed at 5 stars for nights” This person is significance driven. Note that.
2) The moment we see someone exhibiting this type of behaviour where they use the world “we” a lot, talk in such a way where they subtly or directly refer to their tribe, their high status zoomer friends in college or whatever circle they are in; This person is acceptance driven. Note that.
3) The moment you see someone exhibiting this type of behaviour where they tell you stuff you didn’t ask for “hey man tomm is my first time this year to the soccer match, last time I sucked so badly” this person thrives on approval. Note that.
If you yourself are someone who is driven by any of these; mind you it’s normal and human to have social needs. If you are gonna be looking to fulfil your social needs all I would say is - knock on the right drug dealer’s door, not someone who thinks you aren’t fit for the job. What I mean by this is decide when and where you wanna showcase your needs. But yeah being a little stone cold and not showcasing these three Validation needs mogs in real social life because if no need projected → no weakness detected → no leverage available.
This can be used for both - manipulation and prevent being manipulated. Your first step is searching for which of these three social needs a person has/ person wants from an interaction.
1) The moment we see someone exhibiting this type of behaviour - “Yeah I’m a CEO, got 40 employees under me, revenue turned out to be 7 mil last month.” Or they might say “yk we went to Disney land this Month, stayed at 5 stars for nights” This person is significance driven. Note that.
One up them strategically.
“Disney? Cool, just flew and came back from Rome last week, got special entries to the Vatican.” You need not necessarily do it verbally, even keeping it in your head subconsciously makes the other person think you didn’t react much cause you prolly have few more zeroes than him in the bank. If you want them to like you - do the opposite….Disney?! Wow. I wish I could once…on and on.
“Disney? Cool, just flew and came back from Rome last week, got special entries to the Vatican.” You need not necessarily do it verbally, even keeping it in your head subconsciously makes the other person think you didn’t react much cause you prolly have few more zeroes than him in the bank. If you want them to like you - do the opposite….Disney?! Wow. I wish I could once…on and on.
2) The moment we see someone exhibiting this type of behaviour where they use the world “we” a lot, talk in such a way where they subtly or directly refer to their tribe, their high status zoomer friends in college or whatever circle they are in; This person is acceptance driven. Note that.
Do NOT seek their group validation, pretend you’ve never heard of them with a “oh” nod. Many Hood dudes, trap rappers, local goons and alike are acceptance driven. They use “we” more than “I” for everything. Most of them are pussies when alone.
3) The moment you see someone exhibiting this type of behaviour where they tell you stuff you didn’t ask for “hey man tomm is my first time this year to the soccer match, last time I sucked so badly” this person thrives on approval. Note that.
Give them exactly what they need for rapport - “heyyy come onnn don’t worry you’ll do well”. Most of the women at times when they become close to you are acceptance driven to test your emotional resilience.
For distance - Withhold any kind of Validation. “Meh you’ll figure it out”.
For distance - Withhold any kind of Validation. “Meh you’ll figure it out”.
If you yourself are someone who is driven by any of these; mind you it’s normal and human to have social needs. If you are gonna be looking to fulfil your social needs all I would say is - knock on the right drug dealer’s door, not someone who thinks you aren’t fit for the job. What I mean by this is decide when and where you wanna showcase your needs. But yeah being a little stone cold and not showcasing these three Validation needs mogs in real social life because if no need projected → no weakness detected → no leverage available.
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