Close to living by myself [Advice Needed]

[Andremln]

Title

Next year i am moving to another city because i got into a really good Uni to study Mathematical Engineering (Mix between AppliedMath + Computer Engineering + Civil Engineering], the thing is that i am a sorry excuse of a man, i mean, i believe that i am not necessarily low T, but that is not what i mean, i literally don't know how the fuck should i behave, socialize, or what to do, currently i have only 1 "friend" but he is moving to another city as well, the last time i met another person was in 2023 and after that no friends made, no conversations made, i took a year for myself to chill at home, this year, my parents were okay with it because i worked on blue collar during this period and i paid for my own stuff, but i am non verbal during work time.

I only talk to my mom, my dad is either working or sleeping and my sister couldn't give less of a fuck about me, so i've become really isolated, i know and understand that this issue is fairly common amongst users, but if anyone has been living alone for a while and has any advice or tips i would appreciate it, i've been feeling anxious about this shit, next year i am supposed to get jaw surgery as well, but due to financial reasons i may have to wait until 2028, and i am very insecure about my face, it looks not only ugly in the typical way but fucking uncanny as well, i look disgusting, and i can't focus on social environments like school while being just bare faced, good news is that in my career most people are ND and ugly, so i can just cover my face with a neck gaiter for the whole time without being judged, but that sucks tbh.

Regarding lifestyle, i consider myself to be fairly minimalistic, on my soon to be new home/apartment, aside from the basic furniture like refrigerator, wardrobe, bed, sink, bathroom, etc. i plan to have nothing, just me, my laptop and phone, clothes, and my hunting/hiking equipment, should i have anything else? i legit feel fucking lost

 

[Andremln]

@Gengar’s Ghost

 

[SabiWabi]

stay in relatives house for as long as possible to save money, even when working a job for a few years

 

[hello kitty]

i moved when i was 17 after i ran away from home. as a ltn, nd nigger who never had a room growing up. you are going to figure it out dont worry twin
where do you live?

 

[Andremln]

i moved when i was 17 after i ran away from home. as a ltn, nd nigger who never had a room growing up. you are going to figure it out dont worry twin
where do you live?

Mirin, how are you doing nowadays and how old are you rn? I live in Chile, fairly decent country for being third world, but still a shithole (culturally and economically, because it has some really beautiful landscapes in nature and different Biomes)

It is borderline impossible to save up money, liquid min wage is like $400 bucks/month and even people with a title don't get more than a grand, aside from doctors and engineers

I have a cousin that did a working holiday in America a while back, don't remember numbers because i only heard about it and wasn't paying attention, but when he came back he bought a Camaro, an Iphone and some clothes, i am not saying that 1st worlders don't break their back, everyone does, but the payment for the same amount of effort just differs too much

The industry is really shit as well, they're allergic to innovate, even in resource mining, they keep using the same old models and machinery and sell all of our copper and lithium to external powers, for them to build shit with them, and for us to buy the final product, instead of just manufacturing it ourselves, so i am moving to the US or Canada as soon as i get my title

 

[iblamemyhabits]

US or Canada as soon as i get my title

canada is ass

 

[iblamemyhabits]

Title

Next year i am moving to another city because i got into a really good Uni to study Mathematical Engineering (Mix between AppliedMath + Computer Engineering + Civil Engineering], the thing is that i am a sorry excuse of a man, i mean, i believe that i am not necessarily low T, but that is not what i mean, i literally don't know how the fuck should i behave, socialize, or what to do, currently i have only 1 "friend" but he is moving to another city as well, the last time i met another person was in 2023 and after that no friends made, no conversations made, i took a year for myself to chill at home, this year, my parents were okay with it because i worked on blue collar during this period and i paid for my own stuff, but i am non verbal during work time.

I only talk to my mom, my dad is either working or sleeping and my sister couldn't give less of a fuck about me, so i've become really isolated, i know and understand that this issue is fairly common amongst users, but if anyone has been living alone for a while and has any advice or tips i would appreciate it, i've been feeling anxious about this shit, next year i am supposed to get jaw surgery as well, but due to financial reasons i may have to wait until 2028, and i am very insecure about my face, it looks not only ugly in the typical way but fucking uncanny as well, i look disgusting, and i can't focus on social environments like school while being just bare faced, good news is that in my career most people are ND and ugly, so i can just cover my face with a neck gaiter for the whole time without being judged, but that sucks tbh.

Regarding lifestyle, i consider myself to be fairly minimalistic, on my soon to be new home/apartment, aside from the basic furniture like refrigerator, wardrobe, bed, sink, bathroom, etc. i plan to have nothing, just me, my laptop and phone, clothes, and my hunting/hiking equipment, should i have anything else? i legit feel fucking lost

learn about social engineering

 

[MagicalWaves]

Title

Next year i am moving to another city because i got into a really good Uni to study Mathematical Engineering (Mix between AppliedMath + Computer Engineering + Civil Engineering], the thing is that i am a sorry excuse of a man, i mean, i believe that i am not necessarily low T, but that is not what i mean, i literally don't know how the fuck should i behave, socialize, or what to do, currently i have only 1 "friend" but he is moving to another city as well, the last time i met another person was in 2023 and after that no friends made, no conversations made, i took a year for myself to chill at home, this year, my parents were okay with it because i worked on blue collar during this period and i paid for my own stuff, but i am non verbal during work time.

I only talk to my mom, my dad is either working or sleeping and my sister couldn't give less of a fuck about me, so i've become really isolated, i know and understand that this issue is fairly common amongst users, but if anyone has been living alone for a while and has any advice or tips i would appreciate it, i've been feeling anxious about this shit, next year i am supposed to get jaw surgery as well, but due to financial reasons i may have to wait until 2028, and i am very insecure about my face, it looks not only ugly in the typical way but fucking uncanny as well, i look disgusting, and i can't focus on social environments like school while being just bare faced, good news is that in my career most people are ND and ugly, so i can just cover my face with a neck gaiter for the whole time without being judged, but that sucks tbh.

Regarding lifestyle, i consider myself to be fairly minimalistic, on my soon to be new home/apartment, aside from the basic furniture like refrigerator, wardrobe, bed, sink, bathroom, etc. i plan to have nothing, just me, my laptop and phone, clothes, and my hunting/hiking equipment, should i have anything else? i legit feel fucking lost

 

[Andremln]

canada is ass

For engineering i've heard its good especially in the agronomy field, the father of my friend that i talked about in the OP worked genetically engineering seeds for the oil industry in Canada, terragoy but whatever, he made insane money, it could be just a very isolated case tbf

Where are you from? A concern i got is that if i am a fucking loser here in a third world country, then what the fuck will i be on a first world country, i would feel like a savage trying to appear to be human, and i don't even want to think about the looks aspect, it is definitely much worse in EUR / USA

 

[iblamemyhabits]

tbh, at the end of the day what matter is who you're with not where you are

 

[mogmyst]

Title

Next year i am moving to another city because i got into a really good Uni to study Mathematical Engineering (Mix between AppliedMath + Computer Engineering + Civil Engineering], the thing is that i am a sorry excuse of a man, i mean, i believe that i am not necessarily low T, but that is not what i mean, i literally don't know how the fuck should i behave, socialize, or what to do, currently i have only 1 "friend" but he is moving to another city as well, the last time i met another person was in 2023 and after that no friends made, no conversations made, i took a year for myself to chill at home, this year, my parents were okay with it because i worked on blue collar during this period and i paid for my own stuff, but i am non verbal during work time.

I only talk to my mom, my dad is either working or sleeping and my sister couldn't give less of a fuck about me, so i've become really isolated, i know and understand that this issue is fairly common amongst users, but if anyone has been living alone for a while and has any advice or tips i would appreciate it, i've been feeling anxious about this shit, next year i am supposed to get jaw surgery as well, but due to financial reasons i may have to wait until 2028, and i am very insecure about my face, it looks not only ugly in the typical way but fucking uncanny as well, i look disgusting, and i can't focus on social environments like school while being just bare faced, good news is that in my career most people are ND and ugly, so i can just cover my face with a neck gaiter for the whole time without being judged, but that sucks tbh.

Regarding lifestyle, i consider myself to be fairly minimalistic, on my soon to be new home/apartment, aside from the basic furniture like refrigerator, wardrobe, bed, sink, bathroom, etc. i plan to have nothing, just me, my laptop and phone, clothes, and my hunting/hiking equipment, should i have anything else? i legit feel fucking lost

Get a social life asap

This is an opportunity for you to grow you social skills much much faster than usual.
Environment has such an effect on your behaviour its insane. As soon as you go to uni talk to as many people as possible. Go up to them randomly and strike just a completely random conversation. Get a bunch of numbers.
If you don't go with the mindset of being social from the get-go it will become much harder later on. You don't wanna be the depressed little lonely fuck.

Don't even give a fuck about if they like you, will you make friends or anything like that. You are going with the intention to have fun and be social. You think you're ugly and work on that fs, but who gives a shit if someone doesn't like you for that. Yall need to be more selfish, you having fun is the most important thing.

 

[Andremln]

Get a social life asap

This is an opportunity for you to grow you social skills much much faster than usual.
Environment has such an effect on your behaviour its insane. As soon as you go to uni talk to as many people as possible. Go up to them randomly and strike just a completely random conversation. Get a bunch of numbers.
If you don't go with the mindset of being social from the get-go it will become much harder later on. You don't wanna be the depressed little lonely fuck.

Don't even give a fuck about if they like you, will you make friends or anything like that. You are going with the intention to have fun and be social. You think you're ugly and work on that fs, but who gives a shit if someone doesn't like you for that. Yall need to be more selfish, you having fun is the most important thing.

great advice but due to being so fucking isolated for this time i literally don't know what the fuck would i even talk about, or how to start convos, i think im cooked boyo, i am just really awkward, but ill try

 

[mogmyst]

great advice but due to being so fucking isolated for this time i literally don't know what the fuck would i even talk about, or how to start convos, i think im cooked boyo, i am just really awkward, but ill try

its not about the actual words you say, its more about the vibe
If you're gonna talk to someone in your classes, just ask something about the class. My go to is just ask "yo did you understand what we learnt today" or some random bs
You're just trying to initiate a convo, what about doesnt matter

 

[hello kitty]

i live in france,
the first thing you have to figure out is groceries. thats probably the most important thing ever. if you eat well you are going to feel better and study more and be smarter and mog. so set a weekly budget buy a ton of protein and a lot of good stuff, thats trully what will make a diffrence.
make a list of all the things you like and things you need to eat. go on youtube or here and look for the amount of protein and macros you need to eat each day for muscle growth and thats the perfect diet.
COOK YOURSELF (if you can learn, it takes from 15 to 20 min to make a nice meal, as much as a doordash delivery)

if you dont have any money its gonna be hard, so start to look for a job right now, lie on your resume about past experiences but know what you are talking about. but tell them you are a student looking for a part time job.

its better if its in a resturant or a club or somewhere where you have to talk to clients and countless of people everyday as it will help you with social skils and social interaction (uni can be pretty tough if you cant make friends quickly)

talking about friends. you have to be quick bc in uni everyone makes a group of friends in the first 2 weeks. so in the first two weeks you have to have at least 3 or 4 contacts of other students you think are cool.

do NOT TRY TO SAVE MONEY RIGHT NOW.
the ROI is completally dogshit. lets say you work for 200$ a month as a barista 25h a week. its not much at all. in europe or america you spend that in a week of groceries.
spend that money in your education, to have a nice uni years. to go out with friends, to have some nice clothes and dont look homeless, to have nice nutritition, and stuff like that. you can save real money once you get your title and get a visa to another country.

the spawn pill is pretty hard to swallow, its not your fault if your gouvernament cant do anything to better their own country. dont think too much about politics and rich people choices. keep your mind focused of having a nice life and spend good uni years and then fuck off to a 1st world country.

tldr:
get a job, not for the money but for the obligation to have social interactions all day long.
dont save money spend it smartly on your education and life quality, good nutrition and stuff like that.
first two weeks of uni are the most important ones. you get to meet new people and stuff. every one is as lost as you are so dont be afraid to aproach people and sit next to other students
party everytime you can
it might be cringe but dont hesitate to participate to those normie uni activities

study every day. in uni no one helps you study you have to do it all by your self, and the best way is to promise your self to open the books at least one time a day. if you do this you will do well. EVERY DAY YOU OPEN tHE BOOKS even if you think you dont have work or you will do tomorrow or whatever. it HAS to be once a day. you will be in shock when you realize that you are wrong most of the time when you tell yourself "its not a lot of work".

my inglish is shit and my writing skills are even shitter. so yeah... hope that helps