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Hi guys,
I am new to this forum and in the short time I am here I already read a lot of postings that cold approach in general is bullshit and does not work.
That if you dont get results on tinder, there is no point in trying cold approaching.
That if the girl does not send you "approach invitations", she does not want to be approached or will even see it as harassment.
From my personal story and experiences I can tell that it is not that simple and there is hope that cold approach will work for you, even if you dont have much success with girls over tinder, social circle, work, school etc right now.
My story:
I am 29 now and was a virgin/incel until I was 21, zero success with girls.
There was no tinder, social media or incels forums like today when I was young.
Retrospectively, I am quite happy about that, because all these things might have made me bitter when I was young and incel.
Things got a little bit better in the following years, I had 1-2 one night stands with girls over social cirlce or drunk girls from clubs (not the really hot ones) per YEAR and one time an affair over a few months with a 5/10 girl. So altogether a subar sex life.
I always felt clueless on how to get girls, felt inferior and powerless compared to them. The ones I got were always the ones chosing me (you can imageine these were not the prettiest ones), also even if I got the girl, she disappeared after 1 time sex most of the time.
Things only started to change when I was 26 years old and I did a semester abroad in mexico. In the 26 years of my life before I only had 8 lays, as described above. In mexico though, I finally made the experience to be desired by attractive girls and being able to keep them for more than 1 time sex. JBW for the win. I could fuck 6 girls in 6 months, so almost as many as in my entire life before, and some of them were really hot.
This made me addicted and I swore to me, that I never want do deny myself these nice experiences again and start to fucking try harder back home in Germany.
So when I came back to germany, first thing I did was leave my shitty, boring hometown and move to the next big city (1 million people).
First I tried tinder. No results. Barely any matches, if so the girls were unresponsive.
So I did my research on how to get woman. I am very happy that I found the PUA forums first and not the blackpill lol, blackpill might have convinced me that it is over for me and I have to JBW in mexico or rope.
I read some basic stuff on how to approach women during the day, found new friends and wingmen over the PUA forums and just tried. For the first time I actually actively hit on women during the day. Approached them with a compliment and just tried to build some connection. If there was any chemistry, I invited them to have drinks with me anytime soon.
What can I say, it changed everything for me. Of course the vast majority of the girls rejected me sooner or later, meaning they did not want to go on a date with me, told me they had a boyfriend, some didnt even reply to me when I approached them and just kept walking.
But some did not reject me. Some women just seemed to like me and were happy to meet a cool guy who was brave enough to approach them during the daytime.
Since I started cold approaching I am finally happy with my dating life.
So to put things in perspective:
- Until 26yo in germany with no cold approaching: 8 lays, most of them with average girls
- 26-26.5yo in mexico with no cold approaching: 6 lays, all girls above average
- 27-29yo back in germany with cold approaching: 27 lays, most girls above average, some really good looking. two 8/10 girls I would say, one was even my girlfriend for a few months. crazy bdsm sex experiences I could have never dreamed off before.
I changed nothing about me, I was the same shy, rather inexperienced guy. I just tried to actually get girls.
Conclusion:
With this thread I want to encourage especially younger guys to not give themselves up too early and call themselves incels, hopeless cases etc. I would advise you to move to a big city with at least 500k people and just start to approach girls during the daytime. On the street, in shops, in the park, everywhere.
You will be surprised how warmly some of them react and how few "game" is needed with this style of gaming. Just holding a basic conversation/smalltalk without acting like a complete weirdo will already get you some women.
I know cases of 5/10 guys (I think you guys here would rate them even harsher) getting dates with 6/10 and rarely even 7/10 women after they put the effort in and approached a lot of girls.
I think this method is ultimately superior to rotting on tinder and hoping for a 5/10 tinderqueen to answer your text.
I am new to this forum and in the short time I am here I already read a lot of postings that cold approach in general is bullshit and does not work.
That if you dont get results on tinder, there is no point in trying cold approaching.
That if the girl does not send you "approach invitations", she does not want to be approached or will even see it as harassment.
From my personal story and experiences I can tell that it is not that simple and there is hope that cold approach will work for you, even if you dont have much success with girls over tinder, social circle, work, school etc right now.
My story:
I am 29 now and was a virgin/incel until I was 21, zero success with girls.
There was no tinder, social media or incels forums like today when I was young.
Retrospectively, I am quite happy about that, because all these things might have made me bitter when I was young and incel.
Things got a little bit better in the following years, I had 1-2 one night stands with girls over social cirlce or drunk girls from clubs (not the really hot ones) per YEAR and one time an affair over a few months with a 5/10 girl. So altogether a subar sex life.
I always felt clueless on how to get girls, felt inferior and powerless compared to them. The ones I got were always the ones chosing me (you can imageine these were not the prettiest ones), also even if I got the girl, she disappeared after 1 time sex most of the time.
Things only started to change when I was 26 years old and I did a semester abroad in mexico. In the 26 years of my life before I only had 8 lays, as described above. In mexico though, I finally made the experience to be desired by attractive girls and being able to keep them for more than 1 time sex. JBW for the win. I could fuck 6 girls in 6 months, so almost as many as in my entire life before, and some of them were really hot.
This made me addicted and I swore to me, that I never want do deny myself these nice experiences again and start to fucking try harder back home in Germany.
So when I came back to germany, first thing I did was leave my shitty, boring hometown and move to the next big city (1 million people).
First I tried tinder. No results. Barely any matches, if so the girls were unresponsive.
So I did my research on how to get woman. I am very happy that I found the PUA forums first and not the blackpill lol, blackpill might have convinced me that it is over for me and I have to JBW in mexico or rope.
I read some basic stuff on how to approach women during the day, found new friends and wingmen over the PUA forums and just tried. For the first time I actually actively hit on women during the day. Approached them with a compliment and just tried to build some connection. If there was any chemistry, I invited them to have drinks with me anytime soon.
What can I say, it changed everything for me. Of course the vast majority of the girls rejected me sooner or later, meaning they did not want to go on a date with me, told me they had a boyfriend, some didnt even reply to me when I approached them and just kept walking.
But some did not reject me. Some women just seemed to like me and were happy to meet a cool guy who was brave enough to approach them during the daytime.
Since I started cold approaching I am finally happy with my dating life.
So to put things in perspective:
- Until 26yo in germany with no cold approaching: 8 lays, most of them with average girls
- 26-26.5yo in mexico with no cold approaching: 6 lays, all girls above average
- 27-29yo back in germany with cold approaching: 27 lays, most girls above average, some really good looking. two 8/10 girls I would say, one was even my girlfriend for a few months. crazy bdsm sex experiences I could have never dreamed off before.
I changed nothing about me, I was the same shy, rather inexperienced guy. I just tried to actually get girls.
Conclusion:
With this thread I want to encourage especially younger guys to not give themselves up too early and call themselves incels, hopeless cases etc. I would advise you to move to a big city with at least 500k people and just start to approach girls during the daytime. On the street, in shops, in the park, everywhere.
You will be surprised how warmly some of them react and how few "game" is needed with this style of gaming. Just holding a basic conversation/smalltalk without acting like a complete weirdo will already get you some women.
I know cases of 5/10 guys (I think you guys here would rate them even harsher) getting dates with 6/10 and rarely even 7/10 women after they put the effort in and approached a lot of girls.
I think this method is ultimately superior to rotting on tinder and hoping for a 5/10 tinderqueen to answer your text.