Cold approaching

[chadcel;]

I've got some conflicting views on it, on one hand if you see a girl you like why shouldn't you try rizz her up especially if you're good looking and maybe it will go somewhere.

On the other side, cold approaching is weird af, even more so if you're a younger guy. Like just walking up to someone you don't know without any context is very weird and it would me much more natural to meet someone through your social circle for example. Problem is that your social circle is limited and you might not get the best girl you can if you are only looking in your circle.

My guess is a lot of younger girls will have no fucking idea what is happening and just give you their insta/snap to make you go away or something.

Anyone have any experience and can weigh in?

Btw before anyone tells me to meet girls at uni, I am studying computer science...

 

[khvirgin]

you have to be really GL/her type

 

[Deleted member 29786]

you have to be really GL/her type

and actually goodlooking, only from 6'0/above and htn facially

 

[JovenCansao]

Nothing empowers women more than cold approaching imo

The few times I've done it I felt like an abused dog at the mercy of a random woman AMD possibly a whore, it's a feeling I totally hate

 

[solid7/10]

Really low success rate ngl but assuming your htn+ it will work occasionally and builds your social skills like crazy in the process

 

[Deleted member 29796]

Cold approaching is silly, do this, simply put yourself in the view of a woman you want, if she is giving you signs, then approach. I would never cold approach and never have, women are clear when they are attracted to someone, unless they are socially stunted, but that's kind of rare. If she is staring, assuming you aren't the hunchback of notre dame, she is most likely interested, people ignore who they aren't attracted to because they also don't want to give the wrong intentions.

And I can tell you as someone that gets approached, it's startling as fuck as a man, and unless you are considerably attractive, you aren't going to do well. No offense, if most men got approached, they would see why women don't like that shit by the average guy, sure looks plays a part, but it's startling as fuck and consider, a man can easily toss a woman around, on average and you never know when you are dealing with the incel who is one rejection away from going ER.

 

[chadcel;]

Nothing empowers women more than cold approaching imo

This is one of the concerns I had, her ego might inflate so much it can explode and kill you

If she is staring, assuming you aren't the hunchback of notre dame, she is most likely interested

This happens to me a lot among other signs/hints and I think it is a positive sign I just wasn't sure because although I get a lot of IOIs I was very ugly as a teen and missed a lot of the social skills people have regarding this stuff I think. It's hard for me to imagine that so many girls actually find me attractive.

gets approached, it's startling as fuck as a man

I've had a group of girls approach me before and I spilled spaghetti, they literally told me their friend is single after talking for a bit and made it very obvious but I was just in Vietnam shell shock mode lmao.

if most men got approached, they would see why women don't like that shit by the average guy

I also had a girl I wasn't interested in throw herself at me so that's how I learned about that side of approaching

Overall I feel like some of these things I can relate to (mostly due to fuck ups from past experiences) but I think Im missing a lot of the social skills needed to slay

 

[chadcel;]

builds your social skills like crazy in the process

I don't have a problem with flirting or social skills as far as talking from working in retail for a bit, I think my main problem is I don't know how to make the first moves beyond flirting. E.g. going from friendly to asking someone out, I've managed to do it before but the environment was a lot easier (party) compared to trying to rizz/date a girl at uni who you only see in somewhat formal situations.

 

[wonderwhy]

cold approaching is dog shit but It's better to do it if a girl shows some signs of interest like holding eye contact ..etc versus cold approaching directly without any signs that's bad , also don't be wearing some weird shit or anything that could bring false attention

 

[Deleted member 29796]

This happens to me a lot among other signs/hints and I think it is a positive sign I just wasn't sure because although I get a lot of IOIs I was very ugly as a teen and missed a lot of the social skills people have regarding this stuff I think. It's hard for me to imagine that so many girls actually find me attractive.

Yeah, you need to build up your confidence. When I started getting stares, I wasn't sure what it was either and I fumbled a great deal of clear as fuck signs, even girls physically doing stuff to me like hugging or grabbing my ass. Cringiest moment of my life was being on the bus with a girl that I sat with often, and her asking if I wanted to come over to her house because her parents weren't home, I said "nah" and went home to play Halo, it was a good session but still.

I used to be anorexic due to neglect, so I was super invisible during those stages, I understand what you mean, it's like body dysmorphia after going so long without attention.