comparison is terrible

[Deleted member 132430]

i never see anything bad in people around me, i always compare myself to whatever their best trait is
all i see is one friend is doing good in school, one is making more money, one has better physique, one is richer, one is lower inhib
but i can never notice and remember that they have flaws too
so it feels terrible

@ropemax

 

[Copercel]

i never see anything bad in people around me, i always compare myself to whatever their best trait is
all i see is one friend is doing good in school, one is making more money, one has better physique, one is richer, one is lower inhib
but i can never notice and remember that they have flaws too
so it feels terrible

@ropemax

@ropemax @cute
Just kiss already

 

[ropemax]

I see the bad often but i'm a very forgiving person even if they wrong me.

 

[laworg]

i never see anything bad in people around me, i always compare myself to whatever their best trait is
all i see is one friend is doing good in school, one is making more money, one has better physique, one is richer, one is lower inhib
but i can never notice and remember that they have flaws too
so it feels terrible

@ropemax

Comparison is the thief of joy

 

[Deleted member 132430]

I see the bad often but i'm a very forgiving person even if they wrong me.

seeing bad is law though tbh

 

[Eltrē]

@ropemax @cute
Just kiss already

One's a 60 year oldcel the other is a 13 year old NT teen

 

[ropemax]

seeing bad is law though tbh

for example

@ropemax @cute
Just kiss already

here i see envy, but this person has cel in their nickname and is probably lonely without friends on the forum or otherwise, so I understand why they say that.

One's a 60 year oldcel the other is a 13 year old NT teen

here i see attention seeking, but this is a guy who is probably lacking in any distinctive attributes that would make him stand out, so I understand why he has to play the cool guy to offset that.

 

[Copercel]

here i see envy, but this person has cel in their nickname and is probably lonely without friends on the forum or otherwise, so I understand why they say that.

you hit the point

 

[Eltrē]

for example


here i see envy, but this person has cel in their nickname and is probably lonely without friends on the forum or otherwise, so I understand why they say that.

here i see attention seeking, but this is a guy who is probably lacking in any distinctive attributes that would make him stand out, so I understand why he has to play the cool guy to offset that.

 

[Deleted member 132430]

for example

well if you focus only on the peoples better traits you feel insecure
also seeing bad in people is just needed, if someone starts attacking you verbally, if you see the shortcomings you can hit back

 

[ropemax]

well if you focus only on the peoples better traits you feel insecure

true. but you're gonna see that regardless if they have them and you don't live in a cave. So the only way is to recognize your own strengths and accept that you can't have all the cards in the deck.

also seeing bad in people is just needed, if someone starts attacking you verbally, if you see the shortcomings you can hit back

I try not to do that cause it makes you the same as them. And I also realize where they're coming from. People do everything for a reason, even if they're not aware; it's always a reflection of something wrong inside them. Personally I have a spiritual lens on this, so I believe there is no free will and everything is the will of god, but even in modern science you have the view that your subconscious mind decides everything before you even know