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You obviously need to pass the minimum looks requirement to be considered by a girl but you still need to have the balls to talk to them.

Some things happened in my life a year or two back that made me pretty unsure of myself/ socially unconfident; I’m working on it, and I’m trying to build up some social proof so I can regain that shit but I’m not quite there yet. On top of this, in the past year I’ve seen major improvements in my appearance, I guess my brains still not adjusted to my level of attractiveness if that makes sense.

It’s rare that a woman would actually approach you (atleast one you’re attracted too and looksmatch), don’t get me wrong it does happen and I’ve had it happen a few times. You actually need to balls to approach girls and start conversations, which is fucking hard for a lot of us guys. When I have, I damn near physically shake for the first few minutes of the conversation, even fuck up my words; this is super embarrassing to admit but I’m sure it’s happened to some of you guys too.

This is probably all water but:
Taking steps to improve your confidence is an integral part of your looksmaxing journey, if you don’t you’ll never be able to fully capitalise on your aesthetic improvement
 
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@Stacyslayerᛉ @eon @william. @Whiteboard7
 
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meh, looks n money are king.
 
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Personally doing Judo as a kid improved my confidence, unfortunately i've stopped now
 
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True i have had a noticeable increase in quality of life this past month just by talking more with others around even though i have slightly descended
 
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True i have had a noticeable increase in quality of life this past month just by talking more with others around even though i have slightly descended
Same with me dude, I’m making progress with my social skills. They actually used to be pretty darn good a couple years back but they were recked my something I won’t get into. It’ll take a while
 
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You obviously need to pass the minimum looks requirement to be considered by a girl but you still need to have the balls to talk to them.

Some things happened in my life a year or two back that made me pretty unsure of myself/ socially unconfident; I’m working on it, and I’m trying to build up some social proof so I can regain that shit but I’m not quite there yet. On top of this, in the past year I’ve seen major improvements in my appearance, I guess my brains still not adjusted to my level of attractiveness if that makes sense.

It’s rare that a woman would actually approach you (atleast one you’re attracted too and looksmatch), don’t get me wrong it does happen and I’ve had it happen a few times. You actually need to balls to approach girls and start conversations, which is fucking hard for a lot of us guys. When I have, I damn near physically shake for the first few minutes of the conversation, even fuck up my words; this is super embarrassing to admit but I’m sure it’s happened to some of you guys too.

This is probably all water but:
Taking steps to improve your confidence is an integral part of your looksmaxing journey, if you don’t you’ll never be able to fully capitalise on your aesthetic improvement
Agreed
 
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I havent seen you online in ages bro 🥺
 
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True, if a foid has low interest confidence can increase interest. And if you’ve known her for a long period of time confidence and personality will unironically make her like you.
 
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you cant have one without the other pretty much
Well you can, look at vasily stepanov.
Other things can impact social skills, also if you’re like me and have seen improvements in appearance it takes a while for your mind to catch up
 
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I fully agree with this

bp is a cope for lack of social skills
 
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Being low inhib is key. I started jestermaxxing like 2 years ago, when I still was like Ltn. Now looks and Inhib/Charisma improved drastically, and life is So much better. :feelsokman:
 
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You obviously need to pass the minimum looks requirement to be considered by a girl but you still need to have the balls to talk to them.

Some things happened in my life a year or two back that made me pretty unsure of myself/ socially unconfident; I’m working on it, and I’m trying to build up some social proof so I can regain that shit but I’m not quite there yet. On top of this, in the past year I’ve seen major improvements in my appearance, I guess my brains still not adjusted to my level of attractiveness if that makes sense.

It’s rare that a woman would actually approach you (atleast one you’re attracted too and looksmatch), don’t get me wrong it does happen and I’ve had it happen a few times. You actually need to balls to approach girls and start conversations, which is fucking hard for a lot of us guys. When I have, I damn near physically shake for the first few minutes of the conversation, even fuck up my words; this is super embarrassing to admit but I’m sure it’s happened to some of you guys too.

This is probably all water but:
Taking steps to improve your confidence is an integral part of your looksmaxing journey, if you don’t you’ll never be able to fully capitalise on your aesthetic improvement
I’m just going to pay a girl to come with me since my looks aren’t enough man
 
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True, if a food has low interest confidence can increase interest. And if you’ve known her for a long period of time confidence and personality will unironically make her like you.
I feel like girls can just sniff out confidence from your overall demeanour
 
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Well you can, look at vasily stepanov.
Other things can impact social skills, also if you’re like me and have seen improvements in appearance it takes a while for your mind to catch up
he wouldn't have been anyone if it wasn't for his face and tall height, lit invisible.
no one cares when a ugly person kills himself, happens everyday.
 
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Being low inhib is key. I started jestermaxxing like 2 years ago, when I still was like Ltn. Now looks and Inhib/Charisma improved drastically, and life is So much better. :feelsokman:
Wish I could go back to being low inhib lol, it was a cheat code.

I’m pretty high inhib these days, I even had to fucking pregame a job interview a couple weeks back because I was too nervous lmao
 
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You obviously need to pass the minimum looks requirement to be considered by a girl but you still need to have the balls to talk to them.

Some things happened in my life a year or two back that made me pretty unsure of myself/ socially unconfident; I’m working on it, and I’m trying to build up some social proof so I can regain that shit but I’m not quite there yet. On top of this, in the past year I’ve seen major improvements in my appearance, I guess my brains still not adjusted to my level of attractiveness if that makes sense.

It’s rare that a woman would actually approach you (atleast one you’re attracted too and looksmatch), don’t get me wrong it does happen and I’ve had it happen a few times. You actually need to balls to approach girls and start conversations, which is fucking hard for a lot of us guys. When I have, I damn near physically shake for the first few minutes of the conversation, even fuck up my words; this is super embarrassing to admit but I’m sure it’s happened to some of you guys too.

This is probably all water but:
Taking steps to improve your confidence is an integral part of your looksmaxing journey, if you don’t you’ll never be able to fully capitalise on your aesthetic improvement
This is water bro everyone saying "MUHHHH IF YOU WERE 7'11 CHADDAM YOU WOULDN'T NEED CONFIDENCE TO SLAY" is retarded
 
he wouldn't have been anyone if it wasn't for his face and tall height, lit invisible.
no one cares when a ugly person kills himself, happens everyday.
Obviously the only reason he was famous was because of his appearance, and obviously looking good is crucial. I’m not some bluepilled nigga, I’m merely saying that your self perception is important too and it doesn’t always coincide with reality
 
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Wish I could go back to being low inhib lol, it was a cheat code.

I’m pretty high inhib these days, I even had to fucking pregame a job interview a couple weeks back because I was too nervous lmao
Im just trolling the teachers the whole time, that made me really low inhib. My grades got a lil worse but still pretty ok.
 
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Wish I could go back to being low inhib lol, it was a cheat code.

I’m pretty high inhib these days, I even had to fucking pregame a job interview a couple weeks back because I was too nervous lmao
why did u stop being low inhib?

I was low inhib asf before too.
 
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I fully agree with this

bp is a cope for lack of social skills
Yeah a lot of guys overlook the fact that other things are still essential. Just because appearance is essential doesn’t mean other things can’t be needed too
 
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why did u stop being low inhib?

I was prob the most low inhib asf before too.
There are a mix of reasons. I’d say learning about lookism was a big reason, there was also a couple of quite prominent events in my life that added to this too
 
There are a mix of reasons. I’d say learning about lookism was a big reason, there was also a couple of quite prominent events in my life that added to this too
exact same for me
 
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lookism was a big reason,
Hmmm, for me it was the exact opposite. I knew if I wanna be socially accepted and not being bullied, I need to be the clown. Not even adding, that I was a dwarf before I started heightmaxxing, and still am slightly below average.
 
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Hmmm, for me it was the exact opposite. I knew if I wanna be socially accepted and not being bullied, I need to be the clown. Not even adding, that I was a dwarf before I started heightmaxxing, and still am slightly below average.
Sometimes it helps, but it’s just the fact that I’m constantly hyper aware of how I look and I need to always stay peaked. Things like the wind fucking up my hair stress me out which is highkey dumb and I never used to care
 
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Sometimes it helps, but it’s just the fact that I’m constantly hyper aware of how I look and I need to always stay peaked. Things like the wind fucking up my hair stress me out which is highkey dumb and I never used to care
Nahhh Bro that fuckass wind rage baits me everysingle time. I started to wear a cap when I go out.
 
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facts

we are hierarchical gregarious animals so intra-species competition amongst us is fierce and sometimes even illogical on the surface but serves as a practical purpose of disputing hierarchical placements

if youre low confidence specially as a man (among males competition is both fiercer and more direct) other people will actively attempt to undermine and take advantage of you even just in interpersonal contexts
 
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Confidence is cope for below HTN males
 
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You obviously need to pass the minimum looks requirement to be considered by a girl but you still need to have the balls to talk to them.

Some things happened in my life a year or two back that made me pretty unsure of myself/ socially unconfident; I’m working on it, and I’m trying to build up some social proof so I can regain that shit but I’m not quite there yet. On top of this, in the past year I’ve seen major improvements in my appearance, I guess my brains still not adjusted to my level of attractiveness if that makes sense.

It’s rare that a woman would actually approach you (atleast one you’re attracted too and looksmatch), don’t get me wrong it does happen and I’ve had it happen a few times. You actually need to balls to approach girls and start conversations, which is fucking hard for a lot of us guys. When I have, I damn near physically shake for the first few minutes of the conversation, even fuck up my words; this is super embarrassing to admit but I’m sure it’s happened to some of you guys too.

This is probably all water but:
Taking steps to improve your confidence is an integral part of your looksmaxing journey, if you don’t you’ll never be able to fully capitalise on your aesthetic improvement
cope they approach gl men
 
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You obviously need to pass the minimum looks requirement to be considered by a girl but you still need to have the balls to talk to them.

Some things happened in my life a year or two back that made me pretty unsure of myself/ socially unconfident; I’m working on it, and I’m trying to build up some social proof so I can regain that shit but I’m not quite there yet. On top of this, in the past year I’ve seen major improvements in my appearance, I guess my brains still not adjusted to my level of attractiveness if that makes sense.

It’s rare that a woman would actually approach you (atleast one you’re attracted too and looksmatch), don’t get me wrong it does happen and I’ve had it happen a few times. You actually need to balls to approach girls and start conversations, which is fucking hard for a lot of us guys. When I have, I damn near physically shake for the first few minutes of the conversation, even fuck up my words; this is super embarrassing to admit but I’m sure it’s happened to some of you guys too.

This is probably all water but:
Taking steps to improve your confidence is an integral part of your looksmaxing journey, if you don’t you’ll never be able to fully capitalise on your aesthetic improvement
I get what you're saying jaaba. Its just hard for me I can talk to girls easily because I just don't really care I guess, not a focal point of my life rn, I just feel empty though, getting a girl wouldn't fix my emptyness.
 
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Thanks for mentioning me @jaaba :Comfy:
 
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I get what you're saying jaaba. Its just hard for me I can talk to girls easily because I just don't really care I guess, not a focal point of my life rn, I just feel empty though, getting a girl wouldn't fix my emptyness.
Fair enough man, at the minute I do want a girlfriend, but ironically I’ve not really made a great effort to do so lol
 
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Nahhh Bro that fuckass wind rage baits me everysingle time. I started to wear a cap when I go out.
I’ve been wearing a hood all the time, been thinking of transitioning to a cap too, the hood just makes me look like some kind of angry bastard lol
 
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marlon never approached
I’m sure he does, also he regularly streams in social settings where it’s completely normal for everyone to converse together as a group so it’s different

And like I said, I have previously been approached by girls I find attractive, it’s just more likely that a girl will find you attractive and not act on it and you have to approach them to kick things off
 
Fair enough man, at the minute I do want a girlfriend, but ironically I’ve not really made a great effort to do so lol
You will make a effort. I believe in you bhai
 
I’m sure he does, also he regularly streams in social settings where it’s completely normal for everyone to converse together as a group so it’s different

And like I said, I have previously been approached by girls I find attractive, it’s just more likely that a girl will find you attractive and not act on it and you have to approach them to kick things off
approaching a foid is the most beta rhing ever conceived. extrmeely autistic too. no understanding of context.
 
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approaching a foid is the most beta rhing ever conceived. extrmeely autistic too. no understanding of context.
In my opinion the best girls won’t approach men, I wouldn’t want to end up marrying a girl that actively approaches men she find attractive

Women should actively chase the men because that’s how dynamic works unless you’re in some cucked relationship, however the first interaction is normally down to the man
 
In my opinion the best girls won’t approach men, I wouldn’t want to end up marrying a girl that actively approaches men she find attractive

Women should actively chase the men because that’s how dynamic works unless you’re in some cucked relationship, however the first interaction is normally down to the man
no nt needed for that ngl
 
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