covert narcissism in mother

[sadkid]

does anybody else have or think they may have a (covert) narcissist mother? and what signs of this have you seen and what have you had to endure as a result of this?
mine is always telling me how i'm the only son that cares about her because i haven't left her (because of her obvious issues) the same way my brothers did. this is just one example, it seems like some kind of indoctrination tactic to make me feel like her emotional state is dependent on the very choices i make for my own life
@iwannasleeponurlap @pleasevanity @hello kitty thoguhts?

 

[pleasevanity]

i developed bpd

 

[neckhurt]

Idk but my father must be some kind of sociopath

 

[neckhurt]

i developed bpd

I feel bad man

 

[sadkid]

i developed bpd

its so fucked. i'm only just now thinking about how she acts and it's always about her and her misfortune. it's putting me off real bad dude. im super uneasy
it's definitely rubbed off on me, i have some kind of inferiority complex that just never seems to not cross my mind every single day

 

[Notorious_1676]

Narcissism in foids is hilarious because you know they only developed it as a coping mechanism for not fucking/marrying Chad.

What did your mother do for your brothers to abandon her?

 

[pleasevanity]

its so fucked. i'm only just now thinking about how she acts and it's always about her and her misfortune. it's putting me off real bad dude. im super uneasy
it's definitely rubbed off on me, i have some kind of inferiority complex that just never seems to not cross my mind every single day

i say tell her how you've been feeling and hope that something can change

 

[truecel_KHHV]

does anybody else have or think they may have a (covert) narcissist mother? and what signs of this have you seen and what have you had to endure as a result of this?
mine is always telling me how i'm the only son that cares about her because i haven't left her (because of her obvious issues) the same way my brothers did. this is just one example, it seems like some kind of indoctrination tactic to make me feel like her emotional state is dependent on the very choices i make for my own life
@iwannasleeponurlap @pleasevanity @hello kitty thoguhts?

Kill her and dump her body in acid

Or

Take her to a therapist (or the rapist)

 

[uglyretardednigga]

i developed bpd

welcome to bpd baradar

 

[sadkid]

Narcissism in foids is hilarious because you know they only developed it as a coping mechanism for not fucking/marrying Chad.

What did your mother do for your brothers to abandon her?

well in my moms case it seems to be such a wide plethora of reasons. her mom was the same exact way, and apparently as a child my mom would never get attention from her because her sisters would take it away from her as soon as they showed up because of my grandmas horrible bipolar behaviour. It's estranged because wouldn't you think if they all grew up with the same motherly influence, her sisters *now* would be saying the same things about how their childhood was because they too are narcs?

What did your mother do for your brothers to abandon her?

constant drinking, long ongoing abusive relationship in front of all of her childrens eyes
when they said they were finally done with it, my mom said it was "an ultimatum"(which was no alcohol, yelling,. fighting etc. simply a healthy boundary) and that they were abandoning her
in her view, men are meant to "protect and provide" and with them leaving, that was them disregarding that duty, therefore they do not care about her

 

[sadkid]

Kill her and dump her body in acid

Or

Take her to a therapist (or the rapist)

i don't know if she's ever even been in therapy but she fucking needs it. every day its all about her struggles and how she's sacrificed so so so much and that nobody will ever understand

 

[sadkid]

Kill her and dump her body in acid

Or

Take her to a therapist (or the rapist)

she's been raped and molested plenty of times already as ive been told (part of the reason for that has been "the men she's been with" and her decision making in men.. but none of her decisions ever seemed to reflect this acknowledgement)

 

[truecel_KHHV]

i don't know if she's ever even been in therapy but she fucking needs it. every day its all about her struggles and how she's sacrificed so so so much and that nobody will ever understand

She’ll never understand or reason with you. Move out as soon as u can

 

[GZod]

Everytime i complain about having pain somewhere for example my knee (i have had knee pain since i was 14 and my parents never did anything about it) she would just start rambling how everything hurts her and she has it worse

 

[sadkid]

She’ll never understand or reason with you. Move out as soon as u can

i'm here because it's the only place i can do any pharma drugs without having to hide it.. I'm going to be living here for a little while just to be able to looksmaxx my position is okay with her as of now because she doesnt think that i hate her or anything. once i can drive i'm going to be out a lot and i cant wait

 

[sadkid]

Everytime i complain about having pain somewhere for example my knee (i have had knee pain since i was 14 and my parents never did anything about it) she would just start rambling how everything hurts her and she has it worse

yes. they love to do this
my mom's excuse is that she works very hard every day(which is true, she is nonstop putting stress on herself and working her ass off with legal documents, real work to provide for the family, and other things.. but this only gives her leverage against anyone who wants to voice their hardships to her..

 

[GZod]

yes. they love to do this
my mom's excuse is that she works very hard every day(which is true, she is nonstop putting stress on herself and working her ass off with legal documents, real work to provide for the family, and other things.. but this only gives her leverage against anyone who wants to voice their hardships to her..

Same. Completely the same. And also she can never accept to be in the wrong. Arguing w her is like talking to a brick wall. Whenever i actually make a good point she just says "Im older than you so I know better"

 

[sadkid]

Same. Completely the same. And also she can never accept to be in the wrong. Arguing w her is like talking to a brick wall. Whenever i actually make a good point she just says "Im older than you so I know better"

yes. "You haven't been through what I have, and I hope you never have to" is another phrase in relation to this

 

[sadkid]

Same. Completely the same. And also she can never accept to be in the wrong. Arguing w her is like talking to a brick wall. Whenever i actually make a good point she just says "Im older than you so I know better"

do you have any other siblings? and if so, how does she feel about them?
my sisters will disobey and to be honest just act like normal little kids, yelling, running around, lots of energy(they are quite defiant.. which is probably part of it, but they were raised to be that way)
my mom is always saying "oh, you and your brothers were *never* like this.. You guys were so easy" (and blames the way they are solely on their fathers)

 

[GZod]

yes. "You haven't been through what I have, and I hope you never have to" is another phrase in relation to this

So true. Its really tough living w a mom like that, like i understand shes my mom and stuff but she can be better. And also she always loved my brother more, even telling me once that she loved him more. I understand you bro i hope youre doing well

 

[sadkid]

So true. Its really tough living w a mom like that, like i understand shes my mom and stuff but she can be better. And also she always loved my brother more, even telling me once that she loved him more. I understand you bro i hope youre doing well

i think in my situation i am that brother that she loves more. she uses me as leverage against my brothers(who are adults now) and tells them how much i care and how they dont.

 

[GZod]

do you have any other siblings? and if so, how does she feel about them?
my sisters will disobey and to be honest just act like normal little kids, yelling, running around, lots of energy(they are quite defiant.. which is probably part of it, but they were raised to be that way)
my mom is always saying "oh, you and your brothers were *never* like this.. You guys were so easy" (and blames the way they are solely on their fathers)

Yes, always. Whenever we are around my little cousin whos really energetic and likes doing stuff she shouldnt do, shes always says that me and my brother were never like that. Idk about my brother but when i was a kid it felt like i was on a leash. My parents bought me a bike and my mom told me i was able to ride up until a certain point and no more (i understand shes trying to be protective but thats too far, i was a kid let me explore), while all the other kids were riding everywhere across town

 

[GZod]

i think in my situation i am that brother that she loves more. she uses me as leverage against my brothers(who are adults now) and tells them how much i care and how they dont.

They love leverage

 

[GZod]

They love leverage

Also whenever i have a small argument w her she will just start saying how shes the worst mother ever and how everybody hates her (which is obviously not true)

 

[sadkid]

Yes, always. Whenever we are around my little cousin whos really energetic and likes doing stuff she shouldnt do, shes always says that me and my brother were never like that. Idk about my brother but when i was a kid it felt like i was on a leash. My parents bought me a bike and my mom told me i was able to ride up until a certain point and no more (i understand shes trying to be protective but thats too far, i was a kid let me explore), while all the other kids were riding everywhere across town

she rarely ever let me have any sleep overs with my friends.. and i think there was a reason for that
even when i was at my brothers house(they have a different father than me, who my mom holds a deep grudge on for his wrongdoings in the past) she told me she didnt want me to be there at all and that she had to give up a lot of pride to be able to let me go.. as if she views me as some piece of herself, just seems very weird
i was at their house and it was nothing like it was at my own. Very civilized and healthy, and i think she acknowledged that me and my brothers were having a better time together over there than we ever did with her

 

[sadkid]

Also whenever i have a small argument w her she will just start saying how shes the worst mother ever and how everybody hates her (which is obviously not true)

this is the type of mom who single handedly creates a rebellious child, incel, or both in one

 

[GZod]

she rarely ever let me have any sleep overs with my friends.. and i think there was a reason for that
even when i was at my brothers house(they have a different father than me, who my mom holds a deep grudge on for his wrongdoings in the past) she told me she didnt want me to be there at all and that she had to give up a lot of pride to be able to let me go.. as if she views me as some piece of herself, just seems very weird
i was at their house and it was nothing like it was at my own. Very civilized and healthy, and i think she acknowledged that me and my brothers were having a better time together over there than we ever did with her

I also never had any sleepovers. And they do view you as a piece of yourself. My mom get very mad if i break a glass or a plate, as if SHE has broken it

 

[GZod]

this is the type of mom who single handedly creates a rebellious child, incel, or both in one

And then wonders why is her child like that

 

[sadkid]

And then wonders why is her child like that

yet with all of this, i've literally told her that i might roid and that i'm going to be on pharmaceuticals and HGH and she didn't even seem to care..
of course that's "good" for me because i want to do it, but it makes me feel like i could literally inject heroin and she would have the same concern for it(none at all), because all i am is a piece of her, and not only that.. but a playing card

 

[GZod]

yet with all of this, i've literally told her that i might roid and that i'm going to be on pharmaceuticals and HGH and she didn't even seem to care..
of course that's "good" for me because i want to do it, but it makes me feel like i could literally inject heroin and she would have the same concern for it(none at all), because all i am is a piece of her, and not only that.. but a playing card

I mean thats how it is, sadly... I could bet the same thing would happen w me, that she wouldnt care, she only loves me conditionally when i do something she likes but when not she hates me.

 

[sadkid]

I mean thats how it is, sadly... I could bet the same thing would happen w me, that she wouldnt care, she only loves me conditionally when i do something she likes but when not she hates me.

it's fucked me and the rest of my family up nearly beyond repair in some areas. it is quite sad
im not ever comfortable speaking to women because of the shit like this. anytime it an emotional subject is at hand with a female that i have interest in, whether it be me or her speaking.. it just feels like pushing guilt onto each other

 

[GZod]

it's fucked me and the rest of my family up nearly beyond repair in some areas. it is quite sad
im not ever comfortable speaking to women because of the shit like this. anytime it an emotional subject is at hand with a female that i have interest in, whether it be me or her speaking.. it just feels like pushing guilt onto each other

Im so sorry man, i feel you. I have a hard time showing emotions and being emotional. I never cry. Not because i want to not cry but because i cant

 

[sadkid]

Im so sorry man, i feel you. I have a hard time showing emotions and being emotional. I never cry. Not because i want to not cry but because i cant

i have the exact same issue. i did cry the other day when watching Gumball episodes about how they adopted Darwin and it honestly hit me deep since it was all about brotherhood and brotherly love.. that is the most touchy subject for me because all i had as a kid was them. and theyre gone now

truly beautiful

 

[GZod]

i have the exact same issue. i did cry the other day when watching Gumball episodes about how they adopted Darwin and it honestly hit me deep since it was all about brotherhood and brotherly love.. that is the most touchy subject for me because all i had as a kid was them. and theyre gone nowView attachment 5411601 truly beautiful

So sorry bro i hope it gets better on your side. Ill cry sometimes when a good movie is on.

 

[sadkid]

So sorry bro i hope it gets better on your side. Ill cry sometimes when a good movie is on.

you too bro