culture shock post-transition as a guy

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I don't know if there are any other autistic trans men around on this sub, and if anyone can relate to this, but I really need to get this off my chest and vent for a second. I've been struggling with certain aspects of social transition that I've never seen anyone have the courage to bring up because the nature of this issue seems...almost too taboo to talk about or something? If anyone has anything negative to say in response to my long vent, I'm just going to ignore you by the way. These are my personal experiences and I'm allowed to feel hurt and confused and angry at society's hurtful social norms, no matter where you choose to stand on certain political matters and possibly fuss over the language I need to use to describe my own life. I'm not interested in arguing, and those inclined to can take that attitude elsewhere.

A lot of people assume that transitioning to a man earns you more respect and privilege but in my experience so far as an autistic man this has been the total opposite.

I don't intend to make this into a whole women's vs men's issue, or to take way from women's issues in any way, but I need to talk about how much more painful and violent a lot of the social rejection I receive has gotten post-transition. I've grown very confident with myself and my transition's progress, and finally started to try and come out of my shell more. But recently, I found myself suddenly struggling socially once again the more I've started to pass. I'm afraid of becoming a shut-in again because I inevitably have a social blunder every time I go out. Somehow I manage to get publicly humiliated all. the. damn. time. which has started diminishing my confidence again.

I've experienced a huge uptick of harassment in recent years compared to an entire lifetime of non-confrontation. I get a surprising amount of harassment and snarky comments from women a lot too, even moreso than men, which has been really stressful and a total shock since I never knew men experience this much passive aggressivity from apparently everyone on a daily basis. When I bring this up with other dudes, it seems to just be a regular occurrence that most guys have learned to become desensitized to, which is really fucking sad. It really makes me empathize with the bottled up resentment a lot of men build up towards society after spending a lifetime of being walked on by people and acting like it doesn't hurt/matter when it really does. I've caught myself becoming...more reserved, withdrawn, less expressive, etc. out of a need for self preservation. I can't be too eccentric or goofy, or show any of my other positive and vulnerable personality traits because I instantly make myself a target for harassment. I'm having to build an armor around myself that I don't want and that shields others from my true self. It's really damn tragic and depressing and makes me view men's issues on a whole new level. I've always known they were bad ( despite many annoying people's efforts to downplay it ) but never this identity-crushingly bad.

When I used to be female, people just brushed my odd behaviour off as me just being quirky or cute, which fine, it's infantilizing and annoying, but I'd take that any day over being photographed/filmed for stimming, stared at, mocked, publicly humiliated and physically assaulted in front of everyone with everyone acting like that's just part of everyday life for a guy. This has been really hard on me mentally and I could theoretically just force myself to accept this and move on...but that is the same as admitting defeat and letting society silence me and turn me into another resentful angry dude who's out of touch with his feelings. I just can't turn a blind eye to such a pervasive issue that apparently we all go through and never have the courage to process, and so instead we shut all our emotions out in order to avoid becoming insane. If others have their own stories to share or just want to vent their own frustrations in the comments, go ahead, I'm all ears. I don't know if I'll leave this post up, but if it helps others connect and feel less alone then maybe I'll leave it...
 
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Proof women lifemog men
 
Every woman should be forced to spend a month transitioned (not permanently or hormonally, but visually passing as a male) they honestly believe men have better lives but this happens to trans men literally every time if they try to become male passing.
 
women and men live totally different lives, with different advantages and disadvantages, strengths and weaknesses.
there is an obvious war against masculinity, but also a more subtle war against femininity by always comparing the two sexes.
Women only see what men have and they themselves are missing, and men only see the advantages of women and then all of them cry "unfair" - but you can't have the positives without the negatives.
Healthy men have physical and mental advantages, women have social advantages. Children have the most social advantages and most physical disadvantages - so it would be all in balance naturally.
natural chain of command is: God >> Men >> Women >> Children. But men lost respect for God, so women lost respect for Men and children lost respect for their parents.
Propaganda and literal toxins everywhere created weak men, which cultured rebellious women and the kids will go rogue too in near future.
Men think they can play God, so women think they can play men and children think they can be adults.
 
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I don't know if there are any other autistic trans men around on this sub, and if anyone can relate to this, but I really need to get this off my chest and vent for a second. I've been struggling with certain aspects of social transition that I've never seen anyone have the courage to bring up because the nature of this issue seems...almost too taboo to talk about or something? If anyone has anything negative to say in response to my long vent, I'm just going to ignore you by the way. These are my personal experiences and I'm allowed to feel hurt and confused and angry at society's hurtful social norms, no matter where you choose to stand on certain political matters and possibly fuss over the language I need to use to describe my own life. I'm not interested in arguing, and those inclined to can take that attitude elsewhere.

A lot of people assume that transitioning to a man earns you more respect and privilege but in my experience so far as an autistic man this has been the total opposite.

I don't intend to make this into a whole women's vs men's issue, or to take way from women's issues in any way, but I need to talk about how much more painful and violent a lot of the social rejection I receive has gotten post-transition. I've grown very confident with myself and my transition's progress, and finally started to try and come out of my shell more. But recently, I found myself suddenly struggling socially once again the more I've started to pass. I'm afraid of becoming a shut-in again because I inevitably have a social blunder every time I go out. Somehow I manage to get publicly humiliated all. the. damn. time. which has started diminishing my confidence again.

I've experienced a huge uptick of harassment in recent years compared to an entire lifetime of non-confrontation. I get a surprising amount of harassment and snarky comments from women a lot too, even moreso than men, which has been really stressful and a total shock since I never knew men experience this much passive aggressivity from apparently everyone on a daily basis. When I bring this up with other dudes, it seems to just be a regular occurrence that most guys have learned to become desensitized to, which is really fucking sad. It really makes me empathize with the bottled up resentment a lot of men build up towards society after spending a lifetime of being walked on by people and acting like it doesn't hurt/matter when it really does. I've caught myself becoming...more reserved, withdrawn, less expressive, etc. out of a need for self preservation. I can't be too eccentric or goofy, or show any of my other positive and vulnerable personality traits because I instantly make myself a target for harassment. I'm having to build an armor around myself that I don't want and that shields others from my true self. It's really damn tragic and depressing and makes me view men's issues on a whole new level. I've always known they were bad ( despite many annoying people's efforts to downplay it ) but never this identity-crushingly bad.

When I used to be female, people just brushed my odd behaviour off as me just being quirky or cute, which fine, it's infantilizing and annoying, but I'd take that any day over being photographed/filmed for stimming, stared at, mocked, publicly humiliated and physically assaulted in front of everyone with everyone acting like that's just part of everyday life for a guy. This has been really hard on me mentally and I could theoretically just force myself to accept this and move on...but that is the same as admitting defeat and letting society silence me and turn me into another resentful angry dude who's out of touch with his feelings. I just can't turn a blind eye to such a pervasive issue that apparently we all go through and never have the courage to process, and so instead we shut all our emotions out in order to avoid becoming insane. If others have their own stories to share or just want to vent their own frustrations in the comments, go ahead, I'm all ears. I don't know if I'll leave this post up, but if it helps others connect and feel less alone then maybe I'll leave it...
i hope she kills herself stupid bitch. i hope a certain group collectively does this to start a cold inside war around the world so this cucked society eats up itself
 
women and men live totally different lives, with different advantages and disadvantages, strengths and weaknesses.
there is an obvious war against masculinity, but also a more subtle war against femininity by always comparing the two sexes.
Women only see what men have and they themselves are missing, and men only see the advantages of women and then all of them cry "unfair" - but you can't have the positives without the negatives.
Healthy men have physical and mental advantages, women have social advantages. Children have the most social advantages and most physical disadvantages - so it would be all in balance naturally.
natural chain of command is: God >> Men >> Women >> Children. But men lost respect for God, so women lost respect for Men and children lost respect for their parents.
Propaganda and literal toxins everywhere created weak men, which cultured rebellious women and the kids will go rogue too in near future.
Men think they can play God, so women think they can play men and children think they can be adults.
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women and men live totally different lives, with different advantages and disadvantages, strengths and weaknesses.
there is an obvious war against masculinity, but also a more subtle war against femininity by always comparing the two sexes.
Women only see what men have and they themselves are missing, and men only see the advantages of women and then all of them cry "unfair" - but you can't have the positives without the negatives.
Healthy men have physical and mental advantages, women have social advantages. Children have the most social advantages and most physical disadvantages - so it would be all in balance naturally.
natural chain of command is: God >> Men >> Women >> Children. But men lost respect for God, so women lost respect for Men and children lost respect for their parents.
Propaganda and literal toxins everywhere created weak men, which cultured rebellious women and the kids will go rogue too in near future.
Men think they can play God, so women think they can play men and children think they can be adults.
i see that you are spewing bullshit around.
 
ermagherd "he's on our side":aheago:

nigga thought life was gonna get easier. welcome to survival mode faggot
 
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i see that you are spewing bullshit around.
you may just got a piece of shit stuck in your eye from your last night's rimjob session. (Just kidding)
 
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