Dad: "I think you shouldn't waste your money on a holiday. Put it towards a home instead"

[Xangsane]

I was attempting to book a flight to Tokyo (stopover in Seoul via Istanbul) but Dad walked in my bedroom and sat down, and said I've worked very hard with keeping and maintaining my savings for the last 2 and a half years and not spending a thing, and it would be disappointing to drop the money on a holiday even though I'd only be funding half of the trip. The girl I'm seeing and want to make my wife wants to come and she's paying for her family's portion but only if I confirm the trip.

He said "up to you but if I were you I'd put that money for a mortgage deposit so you can get a very big house".

"Get married, get a mortgage, then go with your wife."

He said I could also book the tickets and hotel for him and me only, and leave out my sister and mother, but he'd strongly recommend saving the money.

If I take the whole family I could be spending in the teens to early 20s in thousands depending on spending money. If I take me and my dad only it would be drastically cut to 7-8K total (roughly 4-5K for the baseline costs).

I have not travelled overseas for 4 years.

I've got about 40K in my bank account. Fuck taxes.

Thoughts?

 

[ascension]

Lol if you've got 40k why can't you spend like 2k on a holiday? Stop the cap

 

[mecha72]

Mortgage is cucked housing market is cucked don’t deal in riba if you can buy I cash one day

 

[Enfant terrible]

time for the pilgrimage to mecca

 

[Xangsane]

Lol if you've got 40k why can't you spend like 2k on a holiday? Stop the cap

I'd be dropping about 4-5K if I just take my dad, and about 10K if I take the family

 

[Enfant terrible]

I'd be dropping about 4-5K if I just take my dad, and about 10K if I take the family

you can travel cheaper if you want to lets be real

 

[Xangsane]

you can travel cheaper if you want to lets be real

I'm trying to look for cheaper hotels

 

[Xangsane]

Mortgage is cucked housing market is cucked don’t deal in riba if you can buy I cash one day

I know but I've always tried to save up.

 

[Deleted member 24586]

The girl I'm seeing

 

[Enfant terrible]

bro you should invest 20k or so

 

[mecha72]

I know but I've always tried to save up.

By the time you save up for it in cash the prices will go even further a never ending cycle of getting cucked

 

[Xangsane]

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No, I want to make her my wife. It's a bit early to call her a girlfriend because our families are still talking.

 

[Deleted member 24586]

No, I want to make her my wife. Its a bit early to call her a girlfriend.

Blocked

 

[flippasav]

Mogger in Ibiza seen ur pics yesterday

 

[Enfant terrible]

bro you should invest 20k or so

actually start investing in ETF

​

 

[Xangsane]

Mogger in Ibiza seen ur pics yesterday

I want to go to Tokyo.

 

[Xangsane]

bro you should invest 20k or so

I thought investing is dead?

 

[Xangsane]

Blocked

Why?

 

[St.TikTokcel]

I was attempting to book a flight to Tokyo (stopover in Seoul via Istanbul) but Dad walked in my bedroom and sat down, and said I've worked very hard with keeping and maintaining my savings for the last 2 and a half years and not spending a thing, and it would be disappointing to drop the money on a holiday even though I'd only be funding half of the trip. The girl I'm seeing and want to make my wife wants to come and she's paying for her family's portion but only if I confirm the trip.

He said "up to you but if I were you I'd put that money for a mortgage deposit so you can get a very big house".

"Get married, get a mortgage, then go with your wife."

He said I could also book the tickets and hotel for him and me only, and leave out my sister and mother, but he'd strongly recommend saving the money.

I have not travelled overseas for 4 years.

I've got about 40K in my bank account. Fuck taxes.

Thoughts?

Cuckold tips ngl

 

[flippasav]

I want to go to Tokyo.

Get some Latin bitches on ur dick bhai. Forget Tokyo go somewhere special like Grand Canira, Tenerife, Dubai, Singapore etc

 

[Xangsane]

Get some Latin bitches on ur dick bhai. Forget Tokyo go somewhere special like Grand Canira, Tenerife, Dubai, Singapore etc

I'm good.

 

[Xangsane]

Cuckold tips ngl

Why?

 

[flippasav]

I'm good.

Oh shit ur going with family?

 

[St.TikTokcel]

Why?

If we are going to use your larp stories as some proof, your father supposedly married a coal burner and now, he's advocating you to spend money on something that you don't even need (house for a roastie JFL). Cuckold behaviour ngl.

 

[Xangsane]

Oh shit ur going with family?

Yes, I have to make a choice: whole family, me and my dad only, or don't go.

 

[JovenCansao]

Take the trip

 

[Xangsane]

Take the trip

Why and who should come?

 

[JovenCansao]

Why and who should come?

You enjoy trips more when you're healthy and young, and you give me the impresión you're able to handle your money wisely so you're gonna get your own place sooner rather than later.

As to who should come, depends on your relationship with them, personally I'd only fund my parents, idk why you're including your sister, I'm close with my siblings but I would only invite them, not fund their trip entirely.

 

[rand anon]

Just go with ur girl

 

[Xangsane]

You enjoy trips more when you're healthy and young, and you give me the impresión you're able to handle your money wisely so you're gonna get your own place sooner rather than later.

As to who should come, depends on your relationship with them, personally I'd only fund my parents, idk why you're including your sister, I'm close with my siblings but I would only invite them, not fund their trip entirely.

I'd like to. But dad told me if I really do want to go, I should only fund me and him.

My sister is a student and can't afford anything.

 

[Xangsane]

Just go with ur girl

She and her dad is funding her and her family, she's offered to do so.

 

[Deleted member 15674]

I was attempting to book a flight to Tokyo (stopover in Seoul via Istanbul) but Dad walked in my bedroom and sat down, and said I've worked very hard with keeping and maintaining my savings for the last 2 and a half years and not spending a thing, and it would be disappointing to drop the money on a holiday even though I'd only be funding half of the trip. The girl I'm seeing and want to make my wife wants to come and she's paying for her family's portion but only if I confirm the trip.

He said "up to you but if I were you I'd put that money for a mortgage deposit so you can get a very big house".

"Get married, get a mortgage, then go with your wife."

He said I could also book the tickets and hotel for him and me only, and leave out my sister and mother, but he'd strongly recommend saving the money.

If I take the whole family I could be spending in the teens to early 20s in thousands depending on spending money. If I take me and my dad only it would be drastically cut to 7-8K total (roughly 4-5K for the baseline costs).

I have not travelled overseas for 4 years.

I've got about 40K in my bank account. Fuck taxes.

Thoughts?

When did you start seeing a girl

 

[Xangsane]

When did you start seeing a girl

January

 

[Xangsane]

No, I want to make her my wife. It's a bit early to call her a girlfriend because our families are still talking.

 

[Deleted member 19442]

You’ll have to compromise and only bring your father. Dumping all your savings on a trip sounds low IQ

 

[Sociobiology]

If you plan on buying a house in the UK you should look into building the house yourself/hiring contractors since the cost will be significantly cheaper.

Here's a graph I found but it doesn't include land price.

https://www.checkatrade.com/blog/cost-guides/cost-build-house/

 

[Deleted member 15674]

January

How did you meet her, tell me about this girl

 

[Xangsane]

How did you meet her, tell me about this girl

Through a friend. We started zooming each other regularly with family included and visit each other from time to time, taking our families.

I really like her so far. We still need to talk more before we make a decision.

 

[Xangsane]

You’ll have to compromise and only bring your father. Dumping all your savings on a trip sounds low IQ

https://www.news.com.au/finance/money/costs/why-you-should-ignore-your-parents-and-spend-up-on-a-trip/news-story/69e23c8c8310c0bbe0e09cf49052195f

 

[Prettyboy]

You are only young once with intact dopamine receptors, a single trip won’t be a deciding factor on whether you can purchase a home or not

 

[Xangsane]

https://www.news.com.au/finance/money/costs/why-you-should-ignore-your-parents-and-spend-up-on-a-trip/news-story/69e23c8c8310c0bbe0e09cf49052195f

 

[Xangsane]

You are only young once with intact dopamine receptors, a single trip won’t be a deciding factor on whether you can purchase a home or not

You’ll have to compromise and only bring your father. Dumping all your savings on a trip sounds low IQ

Should I only bring my dad or take everyone?

 

[Xangsane]

If you plan on buying a house in the UK you should look into building the house yourself/hiring contractors since the cost will be significantly cheaper.

Here's a graph I found but it doesn't include land price.

https://www.checkatrade.com/blog/cost-guides/cost-build-house/

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I'll look into it

 

[JovenCansao]

I'd like to. But dad told me if I really do want to go, I should only fund me and him.

My sister is a student and can't afford anything.

Do that then, but go

 

[Prettyboy]

Should I only bring my dad or take everyone?

Depends on why you are particularly keen on flying to Japan, I guess it’s not a coincidence you want to go there. Are you interested in their culture? Historic sights? Daily life?

Whatever it is, it might be a bad idea to bring in more people with you as they will only serve as a distraction from the places

I’ve just came home from a 1.5 weeks long international trip and I’m glad I went alone because it gave me lot of freedom with my itinererary.

 

[Xangsane]

If you plan on buying a house in the UK you should look into building the house yourself/hiring contractors since the cost will be significantly cheaper.

Here's a graph I found but it doesn't include land price.

https://www.checkatrade.com/blog/cost-guides/cost-build-house/

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Dad said "the UK doesn't have enough land"

 

[Xangsane]

Do that then, but go

Update: dad said if I really want to go, I should take him only, cut it to 1.5 weeks max, and stay in capsule hotels/hostels.

@Prettyboy

 

[Xangsane]

Depends on why you are particularly keen on flying to Japan, I guess it’s not a coincidence you want to go there. Are you interested in their culture? Historic sights? Daily life?

Whatever it is, it might be a bad idea to bring in more people with you as they will only serve as a distraction from the places

I’ve just came home from a 1.5 weeks long international trip and I’m glad I went alone because it gave me lot of freedom with my itinererary.

See above. Historic sights and try somewhere completely alien.

 

[Acne Victim]

Tales from the mental ward

 

[Deleted member 18544]

He said I could also book the tickets and hotel for him and me only, and leave out my sister and mother, but he'd strongly recommend saving the money.

>don't go, but if you do go then only book the tickets for me and you
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