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Disclaimer: I am not trying to disprove the existence of hypergamy; I am simply arguing that using data from dating apps to prove the existence of a hypergamous modern society is inherently flawed.
I'm sure many of us have heard "10% of men get 90% of matches on Tinder."
Or seen this image floating around:
However, neither of these statistics can be construed to accurately represent the dating pool at-large. The simple fact of the matter is: Dating apps are NOT meant to get you dates. They are meant to get you to spend money, and whether or not you get dates is not the platform(s) main concern.
It is important to make this distinction because any statistic coming from a dating app has, by nature, been algorithmically manipulated. The dating apps are financially incentivized to promote attractive faces because if users see more attractive profiles, they are more likely to use the app and spend money. Therefore, it makes sense that 10% of men get 90% of the matches, not because "muhh it's over if ur not htn+", but rather because the dating apps make more money that way. Not to mention the fact that when users pay, they get more matches, further confounding the data.
Using dating app data to make a claim about the general dating pool is like using LinkedIn data to make a claim about unemployment. Or using social media data to make a claim about crime rates. None of these platforms actually give you what they advertise, whether that be a spouse, a job, or a social connection. They simply appeal to your natural desire for these things, which typically give you fulfillment in life, and use it to extract revenue. Quite sad how normalized it is to be honest.
I'm sure many of us have heard "10% of men get 90% of matches on Tinder."
Or seen this image floating around:
However, neither of these statistics can be construed to accurately represent the dating pool at-large. The simple fact of the matter is: Dating apps are NOT meant to get you dates. They are meant to get you to spend money, and whether or not you get dates is not the platform(s) main concern.
It is important to make this distinction because any statistic coming from a dating app has, by nature, been algorithmically manipulated. The dating apps are financially incentivized to promote attractive faces because if users see more attractive profiles, they are more likely to use the app and spend money. Therefore, it makes sense that 10% of men get 90% of the matches, not because "muhh it's over if ur not htn+", but rather because the dating apps make more money that way. Not to mention the fact that when users pay, they get more matches, further confounding the data.
Using dating app data to make a claim about the general dating pool is like using LinkedIn data to make a claim about unemployment. Or using social media data to make a claim about crime rates. None of these platforms actually give you what they advertise, whether that be a spouse, a job, or a social connection. They simply appeal to your natural desire for these things, which typically give you fulfillment in life, and use it to extract revenue. Quite sad how normalized it is to be honest.
