Dating with BDD

[RAITEIII]

What do I even say? I'm not looking the way I'd like to for a first date.

 

[Catawampus]

If she's even willingly talking to you, you already look good enough

 

[Deleted member 2403]

Fuck all these Chads boasting, I should go back to .co

 

[RAITEIII]

If she's even willingly talking to you, you already look good enough

No bro only pictures. I look one way one day and then completely different the other...

Fuck all these Chads boasting, I should go back to .co and shitpost

I'm not a chad. Don't imply I'm larping. I've been dumped due to my dick size.

 

[Catawampus]

No bro only pictures. I look one way one day and then completely different the other...

I know what you mean, I can fraud to psl 7 in pics but I look like shit irl

 

[PenileFacialSurgery]

You look the same nigga

go on the date.

 

[Pendejo]

No bro only pictures. I look one way one day and then completely different the other...

Are you saying that she only saw you in pictures?

 

[Incognegro]

Android's text message UI is cancer lol

Why can't you have coffee "wid" her?

 

[RAITEIII]

Are you saying that she only saw you in pictures?

Yes, this person.

Are you saying that she only saw you in pictures?

It's not that my picture are frauded. When we meet I'll most likely look way better than my pictures. I'm always told that, except one incident I had 1 month ago lol.

 

[Hepatologyscribe]

Following. Same problems as OP.

 

[Deleted member 2403]

No bro only pictures. I look one way one day and then completely different the other...

I'm not a chad. Don't imply I'm larping. I've been dumped due to my dick size.

You got dates in the first place so you're succeeding and doing what many people will never be able to do. STFU you don't know how good you have it. Your posts are annoying as shit. Fuck youYou don't deserve this.

 

[RAITEIII]

You look the same nigga

go on the date.

I don't and I'm not coping.

Android's text message UI is cancer lol

Why can't you have coffee "wid" her?

Because I'm not looking good and want to create a good impression.

I mean, I have to as a sub 8" dicklet.

 

[Incognegro]

I don't and I'm not coping.

Because I'm not looking good and want to create a good impression.

I mean, I have to as a sub 8" dicklet.

Nigga she literally wants to go on a date with you just do it. You may never have this opportunity for a while, I mean when do foids willingly throw themselves at someone, especially in this forum?

 

[RAITEIII]

Following. Same problems as OP.

Doppleganger lol. Geez.

 

[turkproducer]

PM pics

 

[Pendejo]

Yes, this person.

Where did you meet her?

Ve a la cita bro...

 

[RAITEIII]

Nigga she literally wants to go on a date with you just do it. You may never have this opportunity for a while, I mean when do foids willingly throw themselves at someone, especially in this forum?

I understand what you say but going on a date looking bad is actually even worse than not going altogether:

-You won't impress and will be considered as disposable.

 

[Almu]

whats bdd

 

[Deleted member 5204]

PM pics

me too

 

[Pendejo]

whats bdd

Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

 

[Deleted member 5204]

whats bdd

body dysmorphic disorder

 

[Incognegro]

I understand what you say but going on a date looking bad is actually even worse than not going altogether:

-You won't impress and will be considered as disposable.

Lol you can't be that bad if she is literally asking to see you

PM pics

 

[RAITEIII]

whats bdd

Well, Internet definitions aren't accurate so I find myself in the position of having to answer unironically:

BDD can affect people no matter what they look like and also can be present in multiple ways in one individual.

I personally make a distinction:
-Delusional type BDD : you see and obsess over things that are not happening. For example looking a different way throughout the day.
There were days in which I could like the way I looked and I would keep checking on the mirror, and keep checking, and keep doing it, till eventually finding something that allegedly looks different.

- Non delusional BDD : what you are seeing is real, but doesn't necessarily mean that it's accurate, it might be or it might not, for example considering the size of your nose huge when in reality it's just fine.

It's more than "you're just ugly". You start to engage in behaviors such as avoiding social situations (you struggle going to class, make eye contact...), have rituals and beliefs about silly things that might make you look better/worse ( for example I usually think I look worse after having a shower, if I were to go somewhere important I'd probably shower one day before), constant mirror checking with variable degrees of emotion depending on how you look at that moment. .. among others.
This is not the case with people who don't look good but don't have BDD.

BDD has a high rate of comorbity with other mental illness such as SA and the longer we take to be aware of this situation the most damage our brain will be bound to suffer.

PM pics

Nice try

Where did you meet her?

Ve a la cita bro...

It's not happening. I'm going home to cry about my oneitis life as a sub 8" (inches, not PSL lol)

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Lol you can't be that bad if she is literally asking to see you

PM pics

I know the type of person I'm going for. It's not that I look bad but cmon guys, what is that even supposed to mean? You have to impress.

 

[Incognegro]

Well, Internet definitions aren't accurate so I find myself in the position of having to answer unironically:



Nice try

It's not happening. I'm going home to cry about my oneitis life as a sub 8" (inches, not PSL lol)

I know the type of person I'm going for. It's not that I look bad but cmon guys, what is that even supposed to mean? You have to impress.

Whatever bro you're making excuses, the sub 8" shit is bs and you know it

 

[Hepatologyscribe]

Whatever bro you're making excuses, the sub 8" shit is bs and you know it

As someone with 5.5 I would not ever feel inadequate with 6.5 or 7

 

[Incognegro]

As someone with 5.5 I would not ever feel inadequate with 6.5 or 7

Foids can barely tell the difference, to them 7 inches looks like 10

 

[Pendejo]

It's not happening. I'm going home to cry about my oneitis life as a sub 8" (inches, not PSL lol)

Keep making excuses then but remember that if you continue like that you would end up alone.

 

[Hepatologyscribe]

Keep making excuses then but remember that if you continue like that you would end up alone.

Needed to hear that

 

[PenileFacialSurgery]

I don't and I'm not coping.

Because I'm not looking good and want to create a good impression.

I mean, I have to as a sub 8" dicklet.

You have BDD

 

[crosshold]

lol i swear you have an agenda with the whole sub 8 inches thing. trying to make ppl insecure or something. dick size is cope, just be at least average

 

[2peasinapod]

busy guy , must have a good career

 

[Hopeful333]

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What do I even say? I'm not looking the way I'd like to for a first date.

What's sa and what do you mean the longer we have bdd the more damage we do to are brains?
Fuck I think I have bdd

 

[RAITEIII]

You got dates in the first place so you're succeeding and doing what many people will never be able to do. STFU you don't know how good you have it. Your posts are annoying as shit. Fuck youYou don't deserve this.

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Fair enough. But I promise you that for many, many reasons, somehow I suffer just as much or even more than anyone else.

There are many things you probably have and I don't like a family but I won't start with that here.

Whatever bro you're making excuses, the sub 8" shit is bs and you know it

As someone with 5.5 I would not ever feel inadequate with 6.5 or 7

Foids can barely tell the difference, to them 7 inches looks like 10

Keep making excuses then but remember that if you continue like that you would end up alone.

lol i swear you have an agenda with the whole sub 8 inches thing. trying to make ppl insecure or something. dick size is cope, just be at least average

I'm joking about the 8" inches right now - but anyway none of you can't say shit unless you fall in love and you're told the same I was.

My problem isn't that regardless but rather that due to depressive episodes I look like shit and need a few days of recovery. lol.

If I go for someone who looks good, it doesn't matter what I wanna think or say: I need to be at the same level or surpass.

It's blackpill. My skin isn't looking good, nor my hair, but i can fix it in a few days.

@Pendejo I've been alone, I'm alone, so will be the future. I'm not fooling anyone. It's not excuses, blackpill isn't an excuse.

And yes I have chronic BDD, but it doesn't change anything.

 

[Deleted member 4209]

LUCKY

 

[RAITEIII]

What's sa and what do you mean the longer we have bdd the more damage we do to are brains?
Fuck I think I have bdd

Social Anxiety. What symptoms do you have? We're 3 BDD experts on the forum me, over and IWantToMax. Don't listen to anyone else about BDD, they know nothing.


PD: Thanks everyone for all your support. I'd have roped without you guys. My life is better after looksmax and I hope I can help people out too

 

[thickdickdaddy27]

I feel u op some days saying I look subhuman would be an understatement. If u don’t feel good about urself u won’t make a good first impression

 

[RAITEIII]

LUCKY

I told u pm me pics and i help u out. If ure uk cel we can meet up and get girls.

 

[Deleted member 4209]

I told u pm me pics and i help u out. If ure uk cel we can meet up and get girls.

creep

 

[RAITEIII]

creep

Unfollowed. Keep coping

 

[Hopeful333]

Social Anxiety. What symptoms do you have? We're 3 BDD experts on the forum me, over and IWantToMax. Don't listen to anyone else about BDD, they know nothing.


PD: Thanks everyone for all your support. I'd have roped without you guys. My life is better after looksmax and I hope I can help people out too
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The thinking I'm better looking on different days. One day I think I'm Subhuman the next I'm a chadlite.

Whenever I'm talking to people I feel like they're staring at my shit skin.

Feel like I my face looks worse when I have wet hair/ out of the shower.

Constant mirror checking with varying degrees of emotions.

Symptoms

Being extremely preoccupied with a perceived flaw in appearance that to others can't be seen or appears minor.

Yes 100%

Belief that others take special notice of your appearance in a negative way or mock you

100% yes

Attempting to hide perceived flaws

100% yes that's me. I don't know if this is normal but when a parties on I try to find places where I can sit that will not make my skin look like shit. I check places before parties in my friends houses to see how my face will look if I sit there.

Sorry for the shit formatting.

Would you call this bdd.

 

[RAITEIII]

The thinking I'm better looking on different days. One day I think I'm Subhuman the next I'm a chadlite.

Whenever I'm talking to people I feel like they're staring at my shit skin.

Feel like I my face looks worse when I have wet hair/ out of the shower.

Constant mirror checking with varying degrees of emotions.

Symptoms

Being extremely preoccupied with a perceived flaw in appearance that to others can't be seen or appears minor.

Yes 100%

Belief that others take special notice of your appearance in a negative way or mock you

100% yes

Attempting to hide perceived flaws

100% yes that's me. I don't know if this is normal but when a parties on I try to find places where I can sit that will not make my skin look like shit. I check places before parties in my friends houses to see how my face will look if I sit there.

Sorry for the shit formatting.

Would you call this bdd.

It does sound kinda crazy so the answer is Yh it's BDD, your condition can either improve or get worse depending on what you (can) do.

What I meant before is that this condition as many others affects our brain and psyche, creating further more problems.

Unfortunately I don't have any solution (I myself am a lost cause). Maybe do more and worry less lol.

 

[Hopeful333]

It does sound kinda crazy so the answer is Yh it's BDD, your condition can either improve or get worse depending on what you (can) do.

What I meant before is that this condition as many others affects our brain and psyche, creating further more problems.

Unfortunately I don't have any solution (I myself am a lost cause). Maybe do more and worry less lol.

Tbh I have been worse like a year ago with the feeling like they're staring and not being able to hold eye contact.

It's also worse around women hence why I like to prepare places before parties.

 

[RAITEIII]

Tbh I have been worse like a year ago with the feeling like they're staring and not being able to hold eye contact.

It's also worse around women hence why I like to prepare places before parties.

Just wondering how you manage to "prepare places" or visit anywhere you'll go beforehand lol.

 

[Hopeful333]

Just wondering how you manage to "prepare places" or visit anywhere you'll go beforehand lol.

Like 75% of parties I go to are in my male friends houses so when Im chilling I just go sit around and look at my face in a selfie camera and check if the lightings bad.

Dark rooms are the spot.

 

[Pendejo]

This thread made me realize that i dont really have BDD.

 

[Vidyacoper]

day before yesterday when i showered i looked in the mirror and i was so happy and proud of my face, today i showered, looked in the mirror and i started having a mini mental breakdown, ive really lost all confidence in myself. after being aware of every single one of my facial flaws, how am i meant to be happy at all? i literally dont think about anything other than my looks during the day, i find it hard to even watch anime or read manga without going back to this forum to find out more about whats wrong with my face. i cant even look my family members in the eyes without squinching and clenching my jaw, i feel like my life might have been ruined by becoming blackpilled... i dont think i could ever even possibly chase after a girl or consider dating one until im completely looksmaxxed, id feel like im not good enough for a girlfriend. if im fully looksmaxxed and im still not happy with my face i fear i might end up killing myself... its all very depressing

 

[Deleted member 275]

I don't enjoy most movies/series anymore, because it pisses me off to see the perfect lives chads live in those. Whenever some cute girl is thinking about the hot guy in the movie, I am always like: ' yeah bitch you only like him for his looks, shut up'

 

[Hopeful333]

day before yesterday when i showered i looked in the mirror and i was so happy and proud of my face, today i showered, looked in the mirror and i started having a mini mental breakdown, ive really lost all confidence in myself. after being aware of every single one of my facial flaws, how am i meant to be happy at all? i literally dont think about anything other than my looks during the day, i find it hard to even watch anime or read manga without going back to this forum to find out more about whats wrong with my face. i cant even look my family members in the eyes without squinching and clenching my jaw, i feel like my life might have been ruined by becoming blackpilled... i dont think i could ever even possibly chase after a girl or consider dating one until im completely looksmaxxed, id feel like im not good enough for a girlfriend. if im fully looksmaxxed and im still not happy with my face i fear i might end up killing myself... its all very depressing

Are you average looking. If so just go out to a party and get low inhibition through drinking. If you're average a girl will gravitate towards you. You'll be low inhib so you won't care.

This may be bad advice

 

[Vidyacoper]

Are you average looking. If so just go out to a party and get low inhibition through drinking. If you're average a girl will gravitate towards you. You'll be low inhib so you won't care.

This may be bad advice

im too young to drink and cant go to any parties anyway, only 16 and busy studying + parents wouldnt let me
ill probably try to see if partying/clubbing could help me once im older, but its less about getting quick laid and more about finding a loyal girlfriend. the main problem is my confidence/self image anyway

 

[RAITEIII]

This thread made me realize that i dont really have BDD.

You've seen nothing lol. Anyway remember that it always starts somewhere so be careful.