Developing crush on classmate / collegemate / coworker is THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO - HIGH IQ + WISE

[WhatCommunity]

Got reminded of my crush after today's dream.
When I woke up, I immediately had this theory in my brain.

When you're in a shared space, like class, work, etc,
Women don't want to date there (kind of like don't shit where you eat wisdom), therefore if you're not at least 2-3 points higher than her,
she will just try to find guys in other places like Social Media, etc.
This is so that in case of break up, she can cleanly leave with no consequences.
This is not the same if she dated guy at a work or class, where she will have to stay there for year or even multiple years, making things awkward for her.
Ofc this can be overcome if you're chadlite or better and she really likes you, but otherwise even if you're htn, she will not want to risk it.

It also has negative affects on you, because it will make you more awkward when talking to her and it will also distract you massively,
as well as frustrate you long term.

I'm not sure if this was always the case, like if hundreds of years ago if you met some girl at church or school, would she would date you since she didn't have 100 other dudes hitting on her on Instagram?
but yeah having a crush at work or class for boys and men is a death sentence, since she will do everything in her power to keep you in the friendzone / simpzone to keep things clean, while giving chances to guys who hit on her in other avenues.

I guess one way if you really like her is to remove yourself from that work / school by transferring to somewhere else, wait few weeks / months and then message her for dates.
That way if things don't work out, she knows that she will cut you off cleanly,
but you still have stigma of "people know this guy here, they will ask me if I am still dating him" and she also knows that YOU know where she works / studies, so it's still not that clean / more risky for her.

But yeah, developing crush on someone in shared space is a DEATH SENTENCE.

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[Ravenfaust]

Don't know about you, but personally, I have lost the ability to develop a crush. Call it whatever, but I think crushing on a woman that doesn't even know you exist is pretty silly and harmful. Oh and on the note about how 100 years ago it was probably better, it definitely was. Chances are if you were dating someone back then, you were probably going to marry them and have children together.

 

[WhatCommunity]

Don't know about you, but personally, I have lost the ability to develop a crush. Call it whatever, but I think crushing on a woman that doesn't even know you exist is pretty silly and harmful. Oh and on the note about how 100 years ago it was probably better, it definitely was. Chances are if you were dating someone back then, you were probably going to marry them and have children together.

Yeah it probably was. I mean I wasn't there, but nowadays woman doesn't have to risk dating you at a shared space, when there are 100s of guys hitting on her.

This shit literally happened to me, when I had crush on this girl who's probably around 1 to 1.5 points above me,
and she knew I'm really smart and have high potential in everything, but she didn't care.
She was dating other dudes from her IRL connections and from Instagram instead.
If this was 100-200 years ago, I would have charmed & married her, but instead I'm at home LMS-maxxing.

Apparently her type was also opposite of what I look like & have jfl.

 

[Whatever]

This might be true for more professional people or people further along in their careers, but even then I don’t know. I met my first girl working at a restaurant, and she had a shitload of other options. Some workplaces I can promise everyone is crushing on and hooking up with each other, it’s 100% inevitable.

“I don’t date my coworkers” or any other “I don’t date X” just means not until the right one walks in.

 

[WhatCommunity]

This might be true for more professional people or people further along in their careers, but even then I don’t know. I met my first girl working at a restaurant, and she had a shitload of other options. Some workplaces I can promise everyone is crushing on and hooking up with each other, it’s 100% inevitable.

“I don’t date my coworkers” or any other “I don’t date X” just means not until the right one walks in.

Heard restaurant is an exception, but by rule women try really hard to not date at shared spaces.
Ofc as I've said, if you're 2-3 points above her, she might make exception.
I feel like this is most brutal at school, where even if you're 6/10 dude, women will just find other avenues.

 

[goodtry]

the limerence when you leave the place is the worst