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Guys don’t really do anything. Most relationships form spontaneously. Or rather, men usually put their own priorities above the need to find a girlfriend.
Let’s turn to ethology: in primates along our evolutionary line, the female initiates by stimulating the male, and only then does he become active. Without a signal from her, the male shows no interest. That’s why you need at least a hint from a girl that she’s interested in you. If you don’t get that cue — even something nonverbal, like eye contact or a flirty look — then by approaching her directly, you’re essentially claiming a right to her, and that triggers emotional resistance. Why resistance? Because only an alpha male can act that way. Her subconscious immediately starts evaluating whether you have “alpha” qualities, and she puts up a barrier: “You think you’re alpha? Prove it — or get lost.”
She’s assessing your genetic quality — both as a potential father and as a dominant male. The moment you openly show interest without her prior signal, don’t expect her to respond with instant attraction or flirtation. Most likely, she’ll set emotional boundaries, keep you at arm’s length, and possibly lead you on — or reject you outright.
This direct approach only works if you have extremely high self-esteem, excellent communication skills, humor, empathy, and no trouble attracting women in general. A woman’s brain decides how to emotionally respond to your advance in just a few seconds. If you are being teases, laughs, and you falter — even slightly, through microexpressions — then any chance of flirtation or attraction is gone.
So this path is too difficult and relies mostly on trial and error — finding the few who might be open to it. To avoid triggering defenses, never reveal your intentions (i.e., your desire for closeness or sex). Instead, create a neutral, casual context in conversation — free from any hint of agenda. Then, within that safe space, look for a spark in a particular woman’s eyes — something you may have unintentionally triggered.
In our species, the female chooses the sexual and long-term partner. She invests the most energy in offspring, and the alpha male — the one with status, power, resources — has priority. Simply put: if you position yourself as the one doing the choosing, she will evaluate you as a potential alpha. If you lack status, achievements, confidence, or presence, she won’t bother assessing you — especially if she doesn’t know you well.
Beyond status, there are other primate cues for high-quality genes: competition from other females, personal traits like assertiveness, etc. In such cases, a female may bet on potential — but only if you’re in her environment long enough for her to observe and compare your rank to other men. If she senses sexual or emotional neediness, she concludes: “Few women want him → he’s desperate → low rank → not chosen.”
Every woman who sees your hunger for intimacy will either try to lower your confidence further or feel pity. Because every woman you’re involved with (or not) serves as social proof for the next one.
So build context. If you want a relationship, never show your cards. Over time, you’ll gain experience, confidence, and maybe learn to flirt. For now — just communicate. Develop conversation skills, humor, presence. All you need to: don’t miss the moment when one woman actually likes you. And usually, if she does — she’ll make sure you notice.
Important note: appearance is not dismissed. If you don’t pass the visual filter, none of the above matters. You’ll have to work on your looks first. Sorry, but that’s how it is.
Let’s turn to ethology: in primates along our evolutionary line, the female initiates by stimulating the male, and only then does he become active. Without a signal from her, the male shows no interest. That’s why you need at least a hint from a girl that she’s interested in you. If you don’t get that cue — even something nonverbal, like eye contact or a flirty look — then by approaching her directly, you’re essentially claiming a right to her, and that triggers emotional resistance. Why resistance? Because only an alpha male can act that way. Her subconscious immediately starts evaluating whether you have “alpha” qualities, and she puts up a barrier: “You think you’re alpha? Prove it — or get lost.”
She’s assessing your genetic quality — both as a potential father and as a dominant male. The moment you openly show interest without her prior signal, don’t expect her to respond with instant attraction or flirtation. Most likely, she’ll set emotional boundaries, keep you at arm’s length, and possibly lead you on — or reject you outright.
This direct approach only works if you have extremely high self-esteem, excellent communication skills, humor, empathy, and no trouble attracting women in general. A woman’s brain decides how to emotionally respond to your advance in just a few seconds. If you are being teases, laughs, and you falter — even slightly, through microexpressions — then any chance of flirtation or attraction is gone.
So this path is too difficult and relies mostly on trial and error — finding the few who might be open to it. To avoid triggering defenses, never reveal your intentions (i.e., your desire for closeness or sex). Instead, create a neutral, casual context in conversation — free from any hint of agenda. Then, within that safe space, look for a spark in a particular woman’s eyes — something you may have unintentionally triggered.
In our species, the female chooses the sexual and long-term partner. She invests the most energy in offspring, and the alpha male — the one with status, power, resources — has priority. Simply put: if you position yourself as the one doing the choosing, she will evaluate you as a potential alpha. If you lack status, achievements, confidence, or presence, she won’t bother assessing you — especially if she doesn’t know you well.
Beyond status, there are other primate cues for high-quality genes: competition from other females, personal traits like assertiveness, etc. In such cases, a female may bet on potential — but only if you’re in her environment long enough for her to observe and compare your rank to other men. If she senses sexual or emotional neediness, she concludes: “Few women want him → he’s desperate → low rank → not chosen.”
Every woman who sees your hunger for intimacy will either try to lower your confidence further or feel pity. Because every woman you’re involved with (or not) serves as social proof for the next one.
So build context. If you want a relationship, never show your cards. Over time, you’ll gain experience, confidence, and maybe learn to flirt. For now — just communicate. Develop conversation skills, humor, presence. All you need to: don’t miss the moment when one woman actually likes you. And usually, if she does — she’ll make sure you notice.
Important note: appearance is not dismissed. If you don’t pass the visual filter, none of the above matters. You’ll have to work on your looks first. Sorry, but that’s how it is.
