Do a lot of women really not like having their appearance/body complimented?

[Deleted member 4362]

I’ve heard this multiple times from people. I’m talking to a girl on Bumble who I find really hot and was considering sending her a message to let her know I find her really attractive, but then I started thinking that’d be rude to do.

So, I’m curious if women wouldn’t like getting a message like “I think you’re really attractive, btw”.

I dunno. To me, it seems like they’d be flattered by it, but perhaps not.

 

[Deleted member 4362]

 

[Deleted member 16133]

yes they fucking love it nigga but will always deny it

 

[Deleted member 4362]

yes they fucking love it nigga but will always deny it

Every woman at one point or another has been objectified. It is a social norm they are constantly trying to break free of. A girl is much more than her body. If you're talking on a dating app, then almost by definition you have to have found her attractive and "informed" her by swiping in the first place. If you want to connect with this girl you need to dig deeper and find connections and non-physical compliments.

 

[comfortably dumb]

it gets annoying after a while, specially if it's about generic compliments from guys they find repulsive

after hearing how beautiful you are by corny cucks for the millionth time, your first thought simply becomes "yeah, i get it, loser. am i supposed to fall into your arms now?"

 

[Deleted member 4362]

it gets annoying after a while, specially if it's about generic compliments from guys they find repulsive

after hearing how beautiful you are by corny cucks for the millionth time, your first thought simply becomes "yeah, i get it, loser. am i supposed to fall into your arms now?"

I think what it comes down to is delivery, timing, and who is talking. I think the safest way to compliment someone’s appearance is to compliment a specific part. Like don’t say “you’re really pretty you know ” instead say “I really like your makeup/hair/outfit/etc.”

 

[Deleted member 16133]

Every woman at one point or another has been objectified. It is a social norm they are constantly trying to break free of. A girl is much more than her body. If you're talking on a dating app, then almost by definition you have to have found her attractive and "informed" her by swiping in the first place. If you want to connect with this girl you need to dig deeper and find connections and non-physical compliments.

 

[Deleted member 4362]

Would you go up to a woman in the grocery store and say "Hey baby, you've got a sweet a**?"

I would hope not. But a lot of idiots on dating apps seem to think that's appropriate. Keep in mind, the girl you find "really hot" has only been told that about a million times, in about a million different (and many creepy) ways.

If there is something specific, non sexual, and non creepy I find attractive, I'd say it. Keep in mind though, she's probably heard "you have beautiful eyes" about a million times too.

Also, if you're wrapped up in the physical (and physical attractiveness IS important) and your worn out compliments are all you bring to the table, she's probably going to feel 1 nothing or 2 objectified.

 

[Deleted member 18603]

who said that. women need positive feedback to remain sane and alive

 

[traveler]

tease + banter theory

every orbiter and white knight will tell the female how beautiful and amazing she is

 

[Deleted member 16133]

Would you go up to a woman in the grocery store and say "Hey baby, you've got a sweet a**?"

I would hope not. But a lot of idiots on dating apps seem to think that's appropriate. Keep in mind, the girl you find "really hot" has only been told that about a million times, in about a million different (and many creepy) ways.

If there is something specific, non sexual, and non creepy I find attractive, I'd say it. Keep in mind though, she's probably heard "you have beautiful eyes" about a million times too.

Also, if you're wrapped up in the physical (and physical attractiveness IS important) and your worn out compliments are all you bring to the table, she's probably going to feel 1 nothing or 2 objectified.

fuck yeah my nigga! i say you got great tits ass etc everytime i see a htb+ in a store where i work consequently ive never been fired which leads me to think they secretly desire it lmfao
if i was chad they'd be more up front about their kinks

 

[Deleted member 4362]

who said that. women need positive feedback to remain sane and alive

It's creepy as hell and looks thirsty. Get to know her first like a normal human, then slowly start complimenting her. Don't be weird.

 

[Deleted member 16133]

tease + banter theory

every orbiter and white knight will tell the female how beautiful and amazing she is

im a tier 100 simp

 

[Foreverbrad]

Yes, they care.

When I message girls on tinder with something that could be taken as an insult or a compliment, I get instant replies because they always take it as an insult.

And it really bothers them.

 

[Deleted member 4362]

fuck yeah my nigga! i say you got great tits ass etc everytime i see a htb+ in a store where i work consequently ive never been fired which leads me to think they secretly desire it lmfao
if i was chad they'd be more up front about their kinks

Women love an actual compliment, not someone acting entitled to their beauty or bodies. The best compliment I've ever given was someone walking to a girl in the grocery store as she was goofing out with her boyfriend and telling her I loved her energy, I only told her how I felt about her but it has a completely different feel to it. There is no expectation and I made it clear I just wanted to make a point of telling her I liked her vibe, and that I wished her well.

 

[Deleted member 18603]

tease + banter theory

every orbiter and white knight will tell the female how beautiful and amazing she is

women don't get exhausted out of compliments, man. that's a myth. social media would serve no function otherwise.

 

[Deleted member 4362]

Yes, they care.

When I message girls on tinder with something that could be taken as an insult or a compliment, I get instant replies because they always take it as an insult.

And it really bothers them.

A lot of women are just tired of every compliment being about their appearance. A good rule of thumb, especially if you don't know the person well, is to compliment something that they chose, like an outfit or a favorite movie.

(Some won't mind either way, but I find it's better to err on the side of being polite and respectful when interacting with strangers.)

 

[Deleted member 18603]

It's creepy as hell and looks thirsty. Get to know her first like a normal human, then slowly start complimenting her. Don't be weird.

only creepy if you're indian

 

[Blackgymmax]

No they like it if you look good

 

[Deleted member 4362]

only creepy if you're indian

No listen here you racisr

It Depends where and how. If on a dating app someone said you have a nice body it's expected, and many users base likes on looks. It's an easy way to break the ice. If just out and about and a stranger calls out "nice tits" it's rude and it's not ok. Women don't want to walk around thinking that strangers are assessing their bodies. My sister has Ibeen on dates when men have said she has nice eyes. That's a nice comment from a potential partner. shes also been waiting for a train when a man approached me with the line "sorry I couldn't help myself, I had to tell you I like your eyes" That's creepy, because it made her feel like he'd been watching me unknown to me for some time before approaching. He wasn't sorry and could easily have stopped himself. She felt uncomfortable and scared the whole time until train arrived. Mainly because she had luggage with her, and was worried for bags, she would have been more scared alone in case this man carried on harassing her and she couldn't get away

Basically, just don't comment on appearance unless you know for certain the other person will be appreciative

 

[Deleted member 4362]

No they like it if you look good

something more specific like about her hair or something like that would come off less objectifying . every woman has dealt with men just interested in their body and not who she is. if a guy started talking to through a dating app says you’re attractive or sexy, they will probably think hed just wanna fuck & end it. After talking for a bit and getting to know her you could start complimenting a bit more. but things like "sexy" are probably gunna lead her to believe u just wanna sleep with her. Calling her pretty, cute, complimenting her style or even her eyes or stuff like that would come off more sincere. even her personality or sense of humor! then when it gets a bit more like serious i guess (?) and u think its leading that way, u could try complimenting her body, in a way thats NOT creepy. saying that off the bat would make them uncomfortable and uninterested.

 

[zharupodrugu]

A lot of women are just tired of every compliment being about their appearance. A good rule of thumb, especially if you don't know the person well, is to compliment something that they chose, like an outfit or a favorite movie.

(Some won't mind either way, but I find it's better to err on the side of being polite and respectful when interacting with strangers.)

Yeah its working to some degree. I usually use cold reading and they reply about 80-90%, most women are lame and later text going nowhere if shes not into u.

No listen here you racisr

It Depends where and how. If on a dating app someone said you have a nice body it's expected, and many users base likes on looks. It's an easy way to break the ice. If just out and about and a stranger calls out "nice tits" it's rude and it's not ok. Women don't want to walk around thinking that strangers are assessing their bodies. My sister has Ibeen on dates when men have said she has nice eyes. That's a nice comment from a potential partner. shes also been waiting for a train when a man approached me with the line "sorry I couldn't help myself, I had to tell you I like your eyes" That's creepy, because it made her feel like he'd been watching me unknown to me for some time before approaching. He wasn't sorry and could easily have stopped himself. She felt uncomfortable and scared the whole time until train arrived. Mainly because she had luggage with her, and was worried for bags, she would have been more scared alone in case this man carried on harassing her and she couldn't get away

Basically, just don't comment on appearance unless you know for certain the other person will be appreciative

sorry dude noone like indians guys

 

[Blackgymmax]

something more specific like about her hair or something like that would come off less objectifying . every woman has dealt with men just interested in their body and not who she is. if a guy started talking to through a dating app says you’re attractive or sexy, they will probably think hed just wanna fuck & end it. After talking for a bit and getting to know her you could start complimenting a bit more. but things like "sexy" are probably gunna lead her to believe u just wanna sleep with her. Calling her pretty, cute, complimenting her style or even her eyes or stuff like that would come off more sincere. even her personality or sense of humor! then when it gets a bit more like serious i guess (?) and u think its leading that way, u could try complimenting her body, in a way thats NOT creepy. saying that off the bat would make them uncomfortable and uninterested.

Nice tit's works if she thinks you're hot

 

[ascension]

A lot of mental gymnastics going on in this thread

They like compliments when they come from a good looking guy. If you're not good looking, then don't compliment.