yes, anytime I go outside i'm subconscious unless I'm at school I try to be funny and charismatic so ppl respect me and don't remind me of my ugly face. after I ascend I won't have to worry about it that anymore and I can talk casually to women while getting meaningful compliments everyday, doesn't that sound nice?
Humblemaxx and soul search bc chasing your vanity will always leave you wanting more
gives me a purpose in life to chase admiration, without that my life seems meaningless as I want to stand out as much as possible after being deprived of recognition in my former yearsHumblemaxx and soul search bc chasing your vanity will always leave you wanting more
How old are u?
Sounds like you’re just battling with underlying insecurities like everyone else on this website. Fishing for compliments won’t make you feel truly fulfilled
the things that make me happy outside of validation also aren't permanent. I do MMA which brings me a lot of joy and I plan to go professional in that, but looksmaxxing (a thing that randomly came up in my life) is now my priority in front of MMA. it's to the point where if possible I would look good rather than chase after MMA if I had to make a choice (let's say surgery make me unfunctionable for fighting)
It’s because you live in an age where all of your survival needs are always met and all of your resources to personal growth are readily available but not pursued so your brain finds some conflict somewhere… you at literally so privileged you have the audacity to feel despair because you don’t look like a chad.
I understand where you're coming from but my emotional despair isn't from being immensely privileged, having your basic survival needs doesn't cover for psychological needs. I still have a right to feel the way that I do, my issues are from being bullied, child abuse, not belonging anywhere, and longing for overall meaning (which I have found but it's not particularly healthy since it's a temporary chase). I may have basic resources but do I not "deserve" to be understood by anyone even if it's not a lover?
Purposely make yourself as unattractive as possible for a week - get a bad haircut, neglect your appearance, have poor posture, and generally present yourself poorly. Then, the following week, make yourself as attractive as possible - focus on all “softmaxxing” aspects like grooming, style, and posture. You’ll quickly notice that during your “attractive week,” your confidence is higher, your motivation increases, and you accomplish more. Now, imagine being Htn/Chadlite for the rest of your life instead of just a week. You would achieve far more in every area you care about than your Ltn/Mtn self ever could.
Won't change nothing. A good looking dweeb is still a dweeb first and foremost. That's all anyone will see anyways.
